All I ended up getting for Christmas was my heart broken

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Similar thing happened to me last year just 5 days before Christmas. We were together 5 years and knew each other for 7 and she blindsided me with the breakup. I did make mistakes that led up to it but she told me were good and everything was fine before that :shaq2: I never cheated but I did neglect her a lot towards the end and I just assume some other guy was telling her all the things I wasn't. It was really hard the first 3-4 months but my family, the gym and volunteer work helped a lot. The one positive is that she broke up with me at a time when I was rounding back into being in great shape and had it happened in early 2010 I'd be in trouble looking :flabbynsick:


I also feel the person I am today is much improved over the person I was while I was with her in almost every aspect. I wish her the best since I'm not bitter though and I don't want to see anyone I cared about struggling. Just know that you can do better and you'll feel better I been through it too.
 

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She only wanted to feel alive,
with someone else.
blame tyler perry.

seriously,

Things like this happens all the time.
In due time it will make you stronger,
and you will be over her in no time.

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"Keep your heart 3 stacks, keep your heart
Aye, keep your heart 3 stacks, keep your heart
Man, these girls is smart, 3 stacks, these girls is smart
Play your part
Play your part"​
 

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I was in a similar situation maybe 3 or 4 years ago. We don't have a kid or anything like that but I thought Id give her a ring eventually. Anyways I've been on a winning streak ever since that L and I guess I kind of owe it to her. I ran into her a couple months back and she was all over me....My chick at the time was way hotter then her but I still wanted to smash one last time for revenge. I lost contact with her so I never got the chance but I still think about her sometimes. She definitely had a huge impact on my life. I think that's how life is though, people just impact each others lives. I definitely know for sure that she had way bigger impact on my live then I had on hers. I'm also sure there's some dude out there who had a huge impact on her life. There are also chicks out there who I dont even remember who are still probably hung up over me. That's life, thats how we learn and grow.
 

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damn, this thread got yall open :huhldup:

i approach all relationships knowing i could be devistated at any moment. i aint trynna end up like :icet:
 

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My homeboy went through the same thing when he was 21 but without a kid being involved. He is 30 hasn't been the same since they broke up. He feels like he will never love someone like he loved her. You don't want to end up like him.

The hardest thing is that she will always be in your life because of the kid. You got move on, focus on improving yourself. There are other women out there, it may not seem like it now. Choosing to love a woman is very powerful, which is why you have to be careful who you give your heart to.



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My homeboy went through the same thing when he was 21 but without a kid being involved. He is 30 hasn't been the same since they broke up. He feels like he will never love someone like he loved her. You don't want to end up like him.

The hardest thing is that she will always be in your life because of the kid. You got move on, focus on improving yourself. There are other women out there, it may not seem like it now. Choosing to love a woman is very powerful, which is why you have to be careful who you give your heart to.



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9 yrs though :heh: he gave her enough power to destroy a decade of his life
 

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aint no difference in the game
Being broken or being richer
Cause there's something you can't have like another Popsicle
In the fridge when you six and you ain't tall enough to get it
Or the girl you can't get at
You should have never admitted
That you had feelings for her, then she tell you that it's friendly
That's the girl of your life and now you wanna go and end it
But keep it playa my nikka, keep it playa my nikka
 

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My older brother is going through the same situation...
Last night she runs off in the middle of a famil dinner at her mama's crib...
Worse yet, my brother...started a business with his baby mama, and will still have to see her everyday.

What the fukk are women doing with their lives? Having babies and starting businesses WHILE SABOTAGING THEMSELVES? Cheating with small men? Confessing to it in the same lifetime? Running away in tears during family dinner? If this baby mama don't sit her busy ass down someWHERE!!!

--> aq out <--
 

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She's been slamming her coochie left and right on animals and you're crying over her? For your son, you can't allow that to stand!:laugh:
 
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You have to keep being actively social with all your friends, don't dwell and isolate yourself from your friends and family It will only make you feel worse and you will hate yourself more.
The easiest way of moving on is meeting new people, through school, work or even just through parties and other friends. Meeting new people and making new friends will help build your confidence once again and help you break some of the routines that your in that remind you of the past..
 

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Man fukk that bish. I know you got a seed with her but you already know she aint no queen. Like dude said, take this loss, store it away somewhere, regroup and move on.



Best Advice so far...Focus on you and your son. You gotta move on breh. and keep everything between you and her about your son and nothing else. She'll never comeback if she feels that her spot is always reserved.
 
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