Any dude that says he is happy in a relationship a straight liar

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

All the older homies with wives and kids tell me take my time or don’t do it.



The lowkey hating ones be like what are you waiting for ?

Anybody trying to rush a man to get married doesn't care about that man.

And I'm not even saying that he should be out here running through women. But I am saying that marriage is NOT a decision to rush. Believe me. If I could do it over again, I would have waited.

 

[AngryBaby]

I have lots of thoughts on this lol

I was questioning if the concept of a relationship was "better" than being an attractive single dude, once I finally got into a stable one with a good chick, of which that Im currently still in now.

Only because I was really still craving sex with other women, I had a pretty good system for getting girls reasonably consistently, so when I opted to be faithful in a LTR by my standards (1 year lol) , it felt alittle...restrictive. Even when I really do like my girl and know shes quality.

Made me wonder if the idea of a relationship, was similar to religion or something. Something normies believe in because they dont know any better. Most guys aint fukkin alot of chicks and arent desirable.

I felt that certain dudes benefit from the idea more than others. Like less attractive or less experienced dudes get more out of it.

I also understand cheaters more now than I used to lol which scares me, even though I wouldn't cheat. Because the idea of potentially only fkking one chick forever is frightening, because im scared for how long I'd be into it at say...year 2 or 3. I also fear being domesticated and losing my edge.

I also even notice it slightly alters my social life a bit. Like dudes who want to move away with their chick and then get married and mainly just hang out with their girl. Thats a dude that didnt really have a great social life to begin with, and the majority if their companionship comes from their girl. They need her for more reasons than just what a female partner brings, they need a friend.

But right now, its also not so bad. I truly enjoy my time with her, and there are some things that are just...nice. i have some fears about myself. But right now its worth it.

 

[I'm Blackman]

The issue is looking to someone outside of yourself to be "Happy".

I've been in a Happy relationship for 13 going on 14 years.

I know multiple couples that have been married for 50+ years, and are happy in their relationships.

Happy relationships exist, find one, but more importantly be happy from within!

23 yrs for us. Sometimes we just look at each other like " "

see black people like us do exist. 17 years married and 22 years together for us. Couldn't imagine my life without her.

my pops passed last year..but they were married for like 41 years before he passed.

 

[Ty Daniels]

see black people like us do exist. 17 years married and 22 years together for us. Couldn't imagine my life without her.

my pops passed last year..but they were married for like 41 years before he passed.

Yep there are a lot of us out there.

Condolences on your Pops!

 

[I'm Blackman]

Yep there are a lot of us out there.

Condolences on your Pops!

thank you!

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I don't think this is a serious thread so I'll keep it brief. Some of the best times in my life were with the woman I was dating at the time. Some of the worst times also but with different women, not necessarily the same woman for each.

When you're single, you are missing out on shyt but you also can do whatever you want, whenever you want. I think the problem with a lot of single dudes is they don't know how to handle not being in a relationship so they sit home and sulk for whatever reason.

 

[mag357]

I realize there are various reasons for cheating, we don't have those. Our relationship stressors are always externally derived, meaning, life happens, but we don't be beefing with each other. We Bonnie and Clyde vs the rest of yall nikkas. Also, he's not a new p*ssy hound, I sorted for that.

And I didn't say "good." Ive had a LOT of sex, this is exemplary, A++, wake up feening, Tank 'When we... fukk' level sex.

I wrote a whole bunch of shyt but deleted it...lol
Im always "that guy" in these conversations
And I get tired of being "that guy". Lol

Literally going through this type shyt in my friends group right now.
After telling my dawg how shyt is... Having to watch him go through shyt..only to have him do exactly what I told him to do a few years ago.
Smh

It's funny how everyone on the Internet and social media, is in great relationships, having great sex and shyts great
But real life and statistics say otherwise

Anyway, to keep from being "that guy" lol,
Im just happy for people who are happy doing what they are doing.

 

[HarlemHottie]

I wrote a whole bunch of shyt but deleted it...lol
Im always "that guy" in these conversations
And I get tired of being "that guy". Lol

Literally going through this type shyt in my friends group right now.
After telling my dawg how shyt is... Having to watch him go through shyt..only to have him do exactly what I told him to do a few years ago.
Smh

It's funny how everyone on the Internet and social media, is in great relationships, having great sex and shyts great
But real life and statistics say otherwise

Anyway, to keep from being "that guy" lol,
Im just happy for people who are happy doing what they are doing.

I curious to know what you had written. I'm 'that girl', so I hear you, but that's also how I managed to do it right, by actively looking for what could go wrong. I tested and discarded MANY potentials before finding the right one.

I don't see that on the internet at all, where you be at?

 

[Ty Daniels]

I wrote a whole bunch of shyt but deleted it...lol
Im always "that guy" in these conversations
And I get tired of being "that guy". Lol

Literally going through this type shyt in my friends group right now.
After telling my dawg how shyt is... Having to watch him go through shyt..only to have him do exactly what I told him to do a few years ago.
Smh

It's funny how everyone on the Internet and social media, is in great relationships, having great sex and shyts great
But real life and statistics say otherwise

Anyway, to keep from being "that guy" lol,
Im just happy for people who are happy doing what they are doing.

Breh, judging by this this thread, more people agree with OP, than not.

There are few folks in this thread who disagree (myself included).

Stats aside...

Unless the stat says 100% of people do "Such and Such", there will always be folks that don't do "Such and Such".

 

[Ty Daniels]

I curious to know what you had written. I'm 'that girl', so I hear you, but that's also how I managed to do it right, by actively looking for what could go wrong. I tested and discarded MANY potentials before finding the right one.

I don't see that on the internet at all, where you be at?

BINGO!

You have to actively "Vet" the person you are going to marry, or be in a long term relationship with.

Some people aren't going to be "compatible".

You have to find your "Puzzle Piece", the one who "Fits" where no one else can!

 

[Ghost Utmost]

Whatever happens, you're gonna feel a way about it at first, then you will feel another way about it after a while.

If it's something you wanted, you'll be happy with it for a while. Then you'll be looking for the new thing.

If it's something you did not want, you'll hate it for a while. Then you'll get used to it and find a new object of hatred.

Bottom line: being "happy" in an endless steady state is a total myth. Human nature says that you will get bored with whatever you have and you'll seek new adventures.

 

[MikelArteta]

In North America I agree

 

[NoirDynosaur]

If you posted this more than once, I haven't seen it.

But you are 100% right.

I've been saying that men are playing checkers, women are playing chess.

Men are born suckas.
They do a bunch of shyt they really don't want to do just to have access to a woman and have consistent sex.
shyts sad

Playing a role just to get the box has always worked. Women rather deal with the fantasy

 

[97Pac]

This is the reason for all relationships.
The fear of being alone and everything that comes with that

It's also hard to be on your grind when you are chasing women. If you got one woman holding you down you can really focus on getting more bread.

 

[Splash]

Samuels been dead my nikka, think up a new alias already.