Any dude that says he is happy in a relationship a straight liar

[NegaDuck]

I'm not ashamed to admit that I don't want to spend the time, money and effort to see multiple women at once.

I'm happy in a relationship.

This.

If you luck out, and ima be real, finding a good person period is 100% luck, and find a good one, it not only save $, y'all increase it and multiply it

 

[BrothaZay]

Those single summer days were something else

Like a dog that broke out the house running thru the streets

No women to be committed too

No one going thru your phone

Not having to be in by a certain time

The money you save by not having partner wanting to go on dates all the time

Only having to buy food for yourself

 

[Sauce and Footwork]

Anybody who say they making more than 6 figures is lying. Anybody who say they more than 6 feet is lying…See how that works op? So this Might not be you but it ain’t everybody. Sorry they keep breaking your heart. But speak for yourself. This like the women hate sucking dikk thread .absolutely ridiculous lol

 

[mag357]

They look to their man to make them happy within their relationship. That’s actually pretty normal. The other person doesn’t need to be the sole source of that happiness.

The stance that all women can’t make themselves happy is just creating a narrative to support a stance. We all that isn’t true across the board.

"Women not be able to make themselves happy" is me talking from my own knowledge of women, even my own mother.
But even if you leave that part out.
Even women will agree they are more complex than men when it comes to happiness.
They literally have memes about the stupid simple shyt that makes men happy... And women can't understand it.

To The bolded. You are correct... But that is a problem.
That mindset is why women initiate divorce at high rates.
If people want to be married, they should do it because of a goal they are trying to achieve.
Not to have another human being around to be their source of entertainment/happiness/ euphoria.
Just being with that person, not being by yourself in the world, and moving towards a goal, should be the happiness.
No one in any situation should be responsible for another persons happiness. We're grown ass people.
As long as they are not making you miserable.

This goes back to the "happy wife, happy life" shyt.

Also, going back to what the other poster was saying.
Since it takes less for men to be happy and more for women to be happy... The relationship becomes very lopsided. And I see this more...
Men want to chill, relax and is content because he has a woman..
The woman wants to be taken out. have flowers sent to her job... be complimented...talked to about her day... etc
These things makes her happy. (Temporarily)
If he doesn't do this... She becomes unhappy

 

[The ADD]

"Women not be able to make themselves happy" is me talking from my own knowledge of women, even my own mother.
But even if you leave that part out.
Even women will agree they are more complex than men when it comes to happiness.
They literally have memes about the stupid simple shyt that makes men happy... And women can't understand it.

To The bolded. You are correct... But that is a problem.
That mindset is why women initiate divorce at high rates.
If people want to be married, they should do it because of a goal they are trying to achieve.
Not to have another human being around to be their source of entertainment/happiness/ euphoria.
Just being with that person, not being by yourself in the world, and moving towards a goal, should be the happiness.
No one in any situation should be responsible for another persons happiness. We're grown ass people.
As long as they are not making you miserable.

This goes back to the "happy wife, happy life" shyt.

Also, going back to what the other poster was saying.
Since it takes less for men to be happy and more for women to be happy... The relationship becomes very lopsided. And I see this more...
Men want to chill, relax and is content because he has a woman..
The woman wants to be taken out. have flowers sent to her job... be complimented...talked to about her day... etc
These things makes her happy. (Temporarily)
If he doesn't do this... She becomes unhappy

Almost there:

So the man just wants to chill and relax and put a title on a woman? There is nothing the women needs to do or provide? So he would be fine if they were just in a relationship by name only? He never sees her and just watches his sports and chills?

 

[Carlton Banks]

I'm not sure if you are a bro or sis... I'm sorry
But The bolded is where people get into trouble and usually women think like this.

The bolded is 2 different things but when taking two separate parts to make 1 whole... both separate parts effect the whole part.

You're individual happiness can make or break a relationship.
Women have issues with happiness by themselves.
Because they are more complex.
They look to their man to make them happy and keep them happy..
But that is difficult because they can't even keep themselves happy.
Which ofcourse, will effect a relationship with someone else.

The poster listed off those things that make him Happy (you called "self interest")... Just to show how simple his individual happiness can be achieved.
Which will effect how happy/content he will be in a relationship with someone else.

All facts. Finally a decent post in here.

When a man is in a relationship, his time to do the things that make him happy as an individual, changes. Some times a guy will stop doing all the things that made him happy altogether because he's dealing with a high maintenance/time consuming bytch. Like my girl doesn't claim to hate it, yet when I'm in my zone doing my hobbies and things I actually enjoy, I notice her personality changes. Suddenly she's annoyed, neglected or just sad. It's like dealing with a fukking toddler who doesn't like any of their toys and just wants to bother you all day.

 

[Carlton Banks]

Almost there:

So the man just wants to chill and relax and put a title on a woman? There is nothing the women needs to do or provide? So he would be fine if they were just in a relationship by name only? He never sees her and just watches his sports and chills?

High value men do this all the time. Give the bytch an allowance and let her do whatever... Have sex on occasion and dip

 

[Amo Husserl]

Bro that's a commendable achievement...I assume your saying your a virgin?

My question is, how are you going to navigate dealing with a female who you might have decent compatibility with while being sexually inexperienced or inactive?

I'm not a virgin.
She would have to understand.
Especially since the average woman has a body count that would make me look like a virgin.
Sex for me comes after knowing a woman.
If I'm committing myself to a woman, sex before I know her seems kinda like getting in the relationship ass-first.
And if I don't ever get into another relationship for how I choose not to be with women.

I don't let p*ssy motivate me to be somebody I'm not.

Abstinence is a lifestyle.

 

[SadimirPutin]

So if it doesn't benefit men to be in a relationship

why the hell do yall moralize over women not being wife material....or they are gonna be lonely when they get older...or their window for marriage is xyzzy or any other bullshyt thread that has been on here

Yall dont want longterm relationships...why yall become Afro-Sharia Law advocates elsewhere.

 

[Aimé]

only read the op post. im positive the brehs already set op straight. as a dude being “happy in a relationship” should not the endgoal.
hell.. fukking many bytches wont bring you happines either.
temporary fullfilment? sure!

a relationship should bring you peace and balance.
you should strive for that. happiness is disney shyt

 

[HarlemHottie]

Ok I'm back lol

So yes, a marriage is a discipline because its challenging. It's always going to be a challenge.
It's a challenge in self control. It's a challenge because it's always hard to bring people together for a common goal. It's a challenge because men and women are different.
With all those challenges, marriages is inherently difficult.
You Said you've been married for like 20+yrs and you're saying marriage doesn't have to be hard.
That's surprising.

That goes back to what I said before.... The Internet and reality is different because now we're in the Internet saying that relationships aren't hard.
We just make'em hard. Lol
And now we're saying dieting isnt hard, you just gotta put some seasoning on your brussel sprouts and not eat that good looking chocolate fudge cake over there... Not hard at all.
Ok.... I got it

So now... The point about looking at porn, ig bytches, going to strip clubs, being a p*ssy hound. This is one of the biggest points a try to get straight. Men get wives as a way to gain self control, but this is something men should achieve without having a woman.
Watching porn and everything else, is definitely as degenerative as you say it is...
But people think if you don't have a wife, you're busy spending your time consuming these things. This is untrue...
Usually the men who are married tend to be the horniest, thirstiest nikkaz I've ever seen because they have to put on a constant front... And they can't just go out and get some new p*ssy, whenever they desire.
I can have consistent sex with 1, or go out and find something new. Or abstain from sex all together. Having options keeps a man from doing unpredictable and self destructive things. You ever notice how most the dudes who are in the headlines for degenerative sexual shyt are usually married men?

WORK... If relationships don't have to be hard like you said before... Then you wouldn't have use the word "work" to describe it. Lol
You are definitely right. It is work.
This is personally my main reason for not having a GF or wife.
We already have real work that we have to go to and get paid to do
Nobody should want to come home to more work.
So we try to limit things that are creating extra hurdles and challenges. We should not want to add things that create more work.

What?! Yes, please explain further, we definitely need to get that one straight.

You do realize that some people don't struggle with self control, right? That some of us, with not a lot of effort, somehow manage not to scarf down the chocolate fudge cake, right? I feel like I'm explaining the maintenance of a healthy weight to a body positivity advocate.

I'm not gonna get into the people you're apparently surrounded by, but I will say, when I'm considering whether or not to do a thing, I don't base that decision on the people who tried and failed miserably. I look to those who actually had success, they're obviously the best models.

That said, if you personally are choosing not to marry bc you simply don't want to put in the effort, cool. No need to shyt on the whole institution, or the very possibility that ppl exist who find happiness within it, especially since you have no personal knowledge of it. Even the ppl you know, they do all that horny and thirsty shyt in the street and go right back to that nasty house, with that surly and/ or fat wife and them bad ass kids.
Again, it's like fat bytches who think skinny bytches gotta be starving not to get fat. No, and how would you know in the first place? When you ever been a skinny bytch? And they be adamant, too.

Spoiler: Me, us, blah, blah, blah

You said you "give" your man chances to have his space... To get a break.
That's the thing.
As a grown man, he has to be "given" some time to himself or he has to put in a request. Lol

I literally put it in quotes being funny. Its a big house for two people, we barely see each other.

I would actually love to know what benefit he sees in being in a relationship with you. And I would ask him does he not think he could get those same benefits without actually being in a committed relationship.

Ok, so I did ask. He thought it was a ridiculous question, literally ''. I waited to reply bc I had that same reaction, like tf? But I had to stop and realize, you really meant that shyt, no shade intended.

All that shyt I talk on here is true. I'm that same person irl, fym? I cook, clean, speak languages, suck dikk on demand, work herbs, build things, fix things, sew, read tarot cards, grow food, and I pick up new skills every few yrs. I'm brown skin, pretty face, his preferred body type, dont get fat, wear my own hair and nails and perform my own services. I'm equally comfortable at a luncheon at a private bank or a cookout in the projects, ppl find me extremely likable and a good conversationalist, I work this to his behalf. His whole extended family is healthier just by knowing me. I could write several more sentences. I mean, I legit don't even know what you asking, and neither did he.

Once I explained that your question was genuine, bc you really don't know me like that, he said that the reason he reversed his prior GMB position was because he found me valuable enough that he wanted to keep me. Simple. Like I said before, yall be over complicating shyt needlessly.

 

[The ADD]

High value men do this all the time. Give the bytch an allowance and let her do whatever... Have sex on occasion and dip

Y’all are so close to seeing it:

That’s fine if that’s what a guy wants then why not just do that instead of complaining about what a woman they aren’t aligned with wants? If you don’t define the relationship you want and enter into one with terms your don’t align with then that’s on you…….

 

[BruhManFromTheFifthFlo]

You nikkas keep dating western woman. That’s why you’re mad all the time

 

[Crude]

I’d rather be in a relationship and build with a woman I trust and that has my back.

I’m all for having fun and getting certain shyt out of your system, but I’m not 25 years old anymore and casual sex doesn’t make me walk away feeling fulfilled like that so I found something more meaningful.

Busting down randoms loses its appeal as you get older. You might occasionally get that urge here and there, but you start wanting something more lasting than a busted nut passing in the night.

 

[The ADD]

All facts. Finally a decent post in here.

When a man is in a relationship, his time to do the things that make him happy as an individual, changes. Some times a guy will stop doing all the things that made him happy altogether because he's dealing with a high maintenance/time consuming bytch. Like my girl doesn't claim to hate it, yet when I'm in my zone doing my hobbies and things I actually enjoy, I notice her personality changes. Suddenly she's annoyed, neglected or just sad. It's like dealing with a fukking toddler who doesn't like any of their toys and just wants to bother you all day.

Why are in a relationship with her? Wouldn’t be easier to find a woman to you aligned with on those issues?