Any tips on how to deal with a lazy woman?

[Grifter]

Tell her to shape up or ship out.

 

[ClassyME]

Yeah, of course, but she mad sensitive..like all women but times that by 20.
She gets defensive and starts talking about what I be doing wrong.

Not all of us are sensitive OR lazy my dear.

What you need to do is have a big ass HUGE argument with her. Don't divorce her, just liven her up a little by gettin her worked up n shyt.

 

[Ready,Willing,Humble]

Lemme guess, you married her without living with her (living with her folks dont count) to see how the dynamic would go?

I bet you would've seen then that she dont do chores or cook.

Does she at least bust it open for you?

I bet you come home looking like everyday

EDIT: 5 YEARS?!?!?!?! NEEEEEEGA WOT?!!?!

Letting her take a break? nikka I'm the one begging her to sit her ass down. She still insists on cooking and cleaning even while she's in pain.

Impressive....

This has gotta be a troll thread

Who marries a woman that cant cook on purpose?
Who marries a woman that cant clean on purpose?

naww no trolling im fuh real, I mean now that im older i woulda took a different direction, worked on it before hand but i was young and wasnt even in the proper state some mature faster than others I suppose

 

[Ready,Willing,Humble]

Lol at me asking for an alternative to getting rid of her yet the many replies of "get rid of that ho"

Thanks breh's

 

[killacal]

What do i look like cooking for her like some peasent breh..Lol niqqa i cant cook, thats another thing we eat out way too much, we do go the grocery store but we be buyin simple azz easy cook sh1t like frozen burritos and sh1t,

I havent had a proper home cooked meal since we left her parents'

Your living like a college kid and you're married. You have to threaten her with the some shyt needs to change or else talk If she feels you might be serious she may try to get knocked up by you so watch out.

 

[Grifter]

You can be subtle about it, remind her that the Christmas season is coming up and its a terrible time to be alone.

 

[Doobie Doo]

I honestly believe this a tread but the problem is a lazy woman is a non competitive woman and women are competitive creatures by nature. This woman is the equivalent of a Lion taken out of nature and placed in a zoo. Fed by her handlers everyday so she no longer has to hunt and kill her food. The instinct is dead because the desire is fed everyday with little to no effort on her part.
Since you refuse to take an L and divorce (which is the best thing you can do in this situation) the only other option is to make her jealous. A woman will be on point when she thinks another woman is trying to steal her man so maybe if she thinks another attractive woman is cooking home cooked meals for you (say a coworker at the office who you talk about in a positive upbeat manner) she will get on point. THis is very unhealthy cuz she will only be at her best when she thinks her relationship is in danger which constantly means you are gonna have to make her jealous consistently.

But chances are if this is a real situation you are not gonna listen to any advice we tell you. Chances are a successful man weighs the pros with the cons. The cons in this situation greatly out weigh the pros and you know this a mistake, you are in a perfect position to leave her right now and it will not inflict a great deal of damage that you can't bounce back from 5 years from now. The longer you stay the worse it will get and pretty soon you will convince yourself that maybe if she gets pregnant and has a kid the relationship will get better. AND THAT'S WHEN YOU REALLY ARE GONNA LOSE cuz you'll be in your 30's making it harder to bounce back off that 50% percent plus child support plus house plus car she gets in the divorce.

PS you could kill her too and bypass losing anything.

 

[FreshFromATL]

I'll just drop this here, it's up to you to listen and take heed....


[ame=http://youtu.be/jFJWgs6HG7Q]T.I- I cant be your man - YouTube[/ame]

 

[Sierra Mist]

starve her.

 

[kevm3]

Man if that behavior has been going on for 5 years, that pattern is ingrained in her mind. She's going to be resisting and argumentative the whole way... on some well my behavior was fine before, so why ain't it now?

You better pray for her and give her that ultimatum.

 

[ugksam]

women arent lazy they just have a different idea of what working hard means. their idea of hard work isnt based off reality its based on how they feel just like everything else they think.

 

[Ronnie Lott]

Seriously bruh. U gotta hit your wifey up with an ultimatum. Like seriously. U need to get out now before u knock her up. U are really gonna be fucced if u knock her up and continue to be unhappy with a lazy female that won't cook/clean for her husband and kid. Seriously, why put up with bullshhyt?

 

[Ready,Willing,Humble]

Man if that behavior has been going on for 5 years, that pattern is ingrained in her mind. She's going to be resisting and argumentative the whole way... on some well my behavior was fine before, so why ain't it now?

You better pray for her and give her that ultimatum.

I mean its been a steady decline.

This is not like, I don't love her no more, she just lazy, and I wanted to take the steps to stop it is all...

Yall answer for everything is to just leave the person, I feel like, yo with any marriage u gonna go thru some sh1t, my girls lazy problem is another man's disrespect problem u feel me? but there has to be ways to work thru th1s sh1t..

Counseling is cool but I honestly made the thread to see if anybody had this problem or been close to one like this before, yeah cousneling is cool but imho there is nothing like a real-world situation to get advice from


Where the old heads who been married for like 15 plus and sh1t

 

[kevm3]

If it's been a steady decline, then you better tell babygirl what it is. Time to get her butt in motion and start contributing. A lot of cats are saying leave because they know the nature of a woman... knowing that if you let bad behavior go on long enough that it becomes ingrained and extremely tough to correct.

There's no magical solution here. You need to let babygirl know the deal, and she can either choose to accept it or she can choose not to. And if she doesn't choose to accept it, what are you going to do? That's the real question. We aren't telling you to hurry up and run out and bail on your marriage, but either a woman respects what you're saying and shapes up or she doesn't. There's no secret, magical formula to trick her into doing what she needs to do. When you approach babygirl with that realism, either she'll be hip to it or she'll hate it.

 

[He Who Posts Well]

Leave her.