Anybody on child support?

[thoushallhustle]

Oh look black men whining about taking care of ther kids, how original

They say child support is the black mans kryptonite

 

[L. Deezy]

Oh look black men whining about taking care of ther kids, how original

They say child support is the black mans kryptonite

if most of them just took the time out to analyze the situation, they'd come out good.

Black people just have so much bad attitude towards necessary shyt.

 

[Metta World Movement]

Man, fukk this shyt.

I just want primary custody of my kids (when I have them), should me and the mother break up. THAT'S what I want. She don't even have to pay no child support and she can come visit whenever she wants.....but let ME have primary custody

Now here's my issue: nikkas on the internet keep saying that unless the woman has a really fukked-up up past or current situation, that she'll automatically get the kids just because she's a woman. That's what REALLY bugs me. How accurate is that shyt?

Is there ANY way I can guarantee having custody of the kids should a divorce come up? Can't that be stipulated in a prenup or some shyt? Michael Jackson got his kids after he left Debbie Rowe; why can't I?

 

[Numpsay]

I know what I'm about to say may be a shock to you, but women don't get themselves pregnant. So if it weren't for BOTH of you, daycare wouldn't even be a discussion. So because BOTH of you are parents, as the father you are responsible for HALF of the financial, spiritual, and mental well-being of your child. Regardless of how you feel about the mother or if the mother has full-custody.

And again, sadly enough A LOT of men think like you and it's sad. And for as much as yall brag about bagging dimes or jut being upstanding "good" men, ya'll meet some of the worst women in the world to the point you really thing women splurge at the mall instead of take care of their children.

I don't know if you meant to respond to me or not, because if you did your response obviously shows you didn't comprehend the point I was making. I didn't accuse anyone of splurging at the mall or not taking care of their children.

But to your point of this "half" argument you have its bullshyt. First off not all females situations are the same. So off top you can't say a dude is responsible for half of anything. The courts could care less what the womans situation is, they are going to take a certain percentage off top regardless. My issue is these woman that think we are now responsible for half their rent, half their car note, half off all their utilities, half of daycare, half of every single thing in their life now. A kid isn't taking up half of a womans salary monthly, and if they are then they need to find a better job. A woman isn't going to pay half to the male when he has custody of the kid, but according to you everything should be split, right? So why isn't it split when the situation is reversed?

In regards to daycare, if you can't afford it to the point where you have to take half out of your child support payment then maybe give more custody to the father to avoid the cost. Yes its the female situation(work schedule, family support) that causes daycare to be necessary not just the fact of having a kid. I know people that work it out without having to use daycare, but that means the female has to be willing to work it out. 90% of them have no interest in that because they know if they give up more custody the possibility of that check amount dropping in the future is high.

See what I mean.

nikkas think doing the bare MINIMUN is enough.

Once again, this is why child support was created.

If you're being forced to give the minimum, why you mad at the mom? You should be mad at yourself for being a half assed father.

I know you're stupid and you are trolling but since you are one of the few females in here and the fact you are exaggerating points to make a case I have to balance your bullshyt ass post out.

No one is saying they should have to do the bare minimum, but what is defined as the bare minimum anyway? Females like you want males to pretty supply 100% of the support of the child without using any of your own income. And that is where all the problems start. You may have a good situation with your dude now, but as soon as he meets a non ratchet like yourself, that smartens him up, we'll see how that tune changes.

Umm, no. Actually being a father in your household gives you control.

Black men have some warped ways of thinking. "Yeah breh, the court is gonna take me to jail if I don't make these payments, I'm in control though cause I put the order in for it. "

That isn't control, just low brow mediation.



Statements like this make you all seem fatherless/make your dad look shytty. Y'all reek of single parent household ways of thinking because you don't understand the financial needs of what it takes to raise a family.

Where on earth is anyone giving up a salary maker in exchange for a -$700 check every month?

Like, you all must be some sheltered, immature nikkas not to see how money gets eaten up. shyt, $600-700 alone in many places is just the extra cost of going from a 1 bedroom apartment to a 2 bedroom apartment (so your child can have a place to sleep), so that's a lot of child support eaten up off bat, so what is the mother supposed to do from there for the rest of the month?

nikkas worryin' about their money being misused, but don't even have the fortitude to head their household properly.



Every guy on SOHH is a baller with game and great taste with the ability to pull upstanding women. We are Hardonhoes, but damn it, some how we always get them pregnant.

A lot of bullshyt in this post to. Unless a woman is moving from an apartment to a loft the jump in rent will not be that big. A woman shouldn't attempt to live beyond her means and then expect her child support payment to fill in the holes her own salary can't pay. Your post is so all over the place that I'm not even sure what other point you were trying to make.

How the fukk can someone be responsible for half of the child's overall well being when other person has full custody.

What kind of rawtardid argument is this?

The only way both parties can truly be responsible for half is to raise a kid in a standard 2 parent home.

But they don't want to hear this though, they see a kid, two parents and automatically think the dude is now responsible for half.

A responsible female would already have the following bill. Rent, utilities, car note, car insurance etc...Having a kid does not present these bills, and having a kid does not raise those bills by 50% either. But all of a sudden you need half of everything.


I mean people in here talking like a male can just walk in court and demand more custody is living in some sort of fairytale land. If the mother isn't willing then you will have to prove her as unfit. And with the way the laws are set up its damn near impossible.

 

[Beegio]

First of all, you really don't have control over that.

What are you going to do if she decides that she wants to take you?

First of all, I do have control over that. Hypothetically either of them could take me to court, but it's not going to happen because my kids are well taken care of. I don't deal in hypothetics though. I'm grounded in reality.

I'm glad that your situation is working for you. Hopefully it can remain that way.

Thank you I think

Just think about what happens if you guys have a parenting dispute or you do something she doesn't like? What are the chances of her taking you to court for child support.. not because she needs the money, but just to be spiteful.

I've had a few parenting disputes with my baby mothers over the past 15 years I've been a father, that's only normal. They have all been resolved in a responsible adult manner, with minimal irrational words or deeds.

Of course, only you know these women and their capabilities. The question is, are you realistic about it?

Right there you hit the nail on the head

Ya I'm both confident and realistic about it

I'm a fully engaged and involved parent in all aspects of my kids lives

That's why I don't understand why you're trying to put hypotheticals into MY situation like I don't know what the fukk I'm talking about

 

[L. Deezy]

Man, fukk this shyt.

I just want primary custody of my kids (when I have them), should me and the mother break up. THAT'S what I want. She don't even have to pay no child support and she can come visit whenever she wants.....but let ME have primary custody

Now here's my issue: nikkas on the internet keep saying that unless the woman has a really fukked-up up past or current situation, that she'll automatically get the kids just because she's a woman. That's what REALLY bugs me. How accurate is that shyt?

Is there ANY way I can guarantee having custody of the kids should a divorce come up? Can't that be stipulated in a prenup or some shyt? Michael Jackson got his kids after he left Debbie Rowe; why can't I?

No, your goal should be joint custody. Not saying you cant get full custody, but its slim to none in most cases. But your goal should be joint custody and having them nights out the week. It cuts your expenses down sizeably. Thats what a judge is gonna look at on both sides

 

[Wild self]

Oh look black men whining about taking care of ther kids, how original

They say child support is the black mans kryptonite

CS is used by women that never grew up without a father. If I ever Had a daughter and she used and abused a good, hard working dude and hit him up for CS, I would her immediately. Women who defend CS on a dude that is already providing for the kid, is just a selfish ass bytch.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

@macpat That's why u calling names? U must be a deadbeat dad.

No one is in here saying the dad should give 100%

But yet dudes are in here arguing on why they shouldn't give 50%


And I thought I were ignoring me? U tight!

 

[Rockstar Mom]

I don't understand dudes.

Its money you were giving anyway, so what's the problem?

 

[Numpsay]

@macpat That's why u calling names? U must be a deadbeat dad.

No one is in here saying the dad should give 100%

But yet dudes are in here arguing on why they shouldn't give 50%


And I thought I were ignoring me? U tight!

Again with the non comprehension. I stated to you why I replied to you. That sentence shouldn't have even been difficult to read, even for you.

But lets see if you can give a serious answer.

How do you define 50%? And what is your argument as to why the childs father is responsible for that 50%?

And I'm no deadbeat, my daughter doesn't hurt for anything, trust. And I don't even have any issues with the way her mother spends the money except that she doesn't put any in savings. I'm arguing for the common man here, not for myself, so miss me with the deadbeat shyt.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

A lot of bullshyt in this post to. Unless a woman is moving from an apartment to a loft the jump in rent will not be that big. A woman shouldn't attempt to live beyond her means and then expect her child support payment to fill in the holes her own salary can't pay. Your post is so all over the place that I'm not even sure what other point you were trying to make.

Edit: I don't even know why I'm about to argue this with y'all 'tards. From the moment a nikka said he was in control of his family, not for being able to keep his house hold together, but because of a court enforced child support and dudes actually agreed, I should known y'all nikkas weren't right in the head. Peace.

 

[Rawtid]

@macpat

If both parents are working (which, they should be), then the child will still need daycare and it's the responsibility of both parents to make sure it gets paid. If either parent has a cheaper daycare solution that will still provide adequate care to the child, then both parents need to speak up about it and unless it's free, BOTH are responsible to make sure it gets paid. This is just my opinion on the situation.

It's not about affordability, but more principal. Daycare is an expense occured because you and I (not us specifically) had a child together so why wouldn't we split the responsibility? Rent/mortgage is an expense I would have had regardless if I had a child or not and I would never ask for any money towards that. That's the difference to me.

 

[thoushallhustle]

CS is used by women that never grew up without a father. If I ever Had a daughter and she used and abused a good, hard working dude and hit him up for CS, I would her immediately. Women who defend CS on a dude that is already providing for the kid, is just a selfish ass bytch.

Yeah because every guy on CS is father of the year who is a victim of a lazy triflin baby mamma

 

[Rockstar Mom]

Again with the non comprehension. I stated to you why I replied to you. That sentence shouldn't have even been difficult to read, even for you.

But lets see if you can give a serious answer.

How do you define 50%? And what is your argument as to why the childs father is responsible for that 50%?

And I'm no deadbeat, my daughter doesn't hurt for anything, trust. And I don't even have any issues with the way her mother spends the money except that she doesn't put any in savings. I'm arguing for the common man here, not for myself, so miss me with the deadbeat shyt.

There's no arguement. He's responsible for 50 because he's his father. Simple as that.

 

[Rawtid]

There's no arguememt. He's responsible for 50 because he's his father. Simple as that.

They swear women make babies by themselves.