Anybody on child support?

[L. Deezy]

I understand shyt happens in relationships. Shyt can go south fast.. But damn brehs.. Y'all didnt see this beforehand that she might be the type to take you to court? The stories you heard even before you had a kid didnt register? lol

Listen, Ive never paid a dime in court ordered child support and not to say she never threatened it. But if you just work out something ahead of time, you'll usually fine that you can avoid all that. Take a step back and just look at the situation. YOU dont have the kid in your household the majority of the time. (not in all cases). She deserves something. Right?

I keep my ass out the system becuz one, I do buy her gifts on mothers day, christmas, bdays, if anything just to let her know I appreciate what she doing. I think most guys just choose not to keep it as cordial as possible. My son old enough to see how I treat his mom now too. That plays a factor. I dont want him to see us beefing. She just asked me for 75.00 towards a bill yesterday. I GAVE IT TO HER. You know why? I know if I do that, it will be cheaper than court ordered monthly payments. You feel me? I buy my son his clothes and stuff. pay for things that come up. stuff like that.

Y'all just gotta look at the situation and try to be friends. And I know most women get vindictive if you move on to the next chick. But I worked thru it and just kept shyt cordial. It can be hard when you hear slick shyt come out their mouth... But at the end of the day, you laid down with her.. so hey

 

[iceberg_is_on_fire]

I understand shyt happens in relationships. Shyt can go south fast.. But damn brehs.. Y'all didnt see this beforehand that she might be the type to take you to court? The stories before you heard even had a kid didnt register? lol

Listen, Ive never paid a dime in child support and not to say she never threatened it. But if you just work out something ahead of time, you'll usually fine that you can avoid all that. Take a step back and just look at the situation. YOU dont have the kid in your household the majority of the time. (not in all cases). She deserves something. Right?

I keep my ass out the system becuz one, I do buy her gifts on mothers day, christmas, bdays, if anything just to let her know I appreciate what she doing. I think most guys just choose not to keep it as cordial as possible. My son old enough to see how I treat his mom now too. That plays a factor. I dont want him to see us beefing. She just asked me for 75.00 towards a bill yesterday. I GAVE IT TO HER. You know why? I know if I do that, it will be cheaper than court ordered monthly payments. You feel me? I buy my son his clothes and stuff. pay for things that come up. stuff like that.

Y'all just gotta look at the situation and try to be friends. And I know most women get vindictive if you move on to the next chick. But I worked thru it and just kept shyt cordial. It can be hard when you hear slick shyt come out their mouth but at the end of the day. You laid down with her.. so hey

Then you weren't married. In Indiana, it's mandatory for you to have child support go through the courts. I had to no choice breh. My twins are off the books soon because they will be 15 this year. I was a dad very young and I married their mom. We were married 8 years breh. I can do is say if I knew then what I know now. You live and you learn, sometimes, you get burned. Thankfully, I make a good salary so that I can still live a decent life while paying them but when that money doesn't need to be paid anymore? Its nikkas that have kids in their 40s with some hoodrat that fukks their life up. nikkas paying child support on their death bed and shyt while in hospice . nikka got Alzheimers and can't even remember his name but CS gives two fukks, they'll remember to garnish that SS check with the quickness. Not me breh. I getting fixed next month.

 

[Blackking]

Some women don't even want to put dudes on support......

The court and state actually forces women to go in on nikkas.

and even the trif chicks who want to screw you over ----------at the end of the day, it's all regulated. ......... they can only 'get u' as much as the law says.

I'm like whatever about child support. I pay over $2500/month, around ... not including health care and private school and random other shyt. like 40k or some shyt.

It sucks but it's not the worse thing that could happen. Being a sry nikka not in your kids life is the worst thing that could happen.

If you're not prepared for ALLL the consequences, then just don't have sex At ALL.

 

[L. Deezy]

Then you weren't married. In Indiana, it's mandatory for you to have child support go through the courts. I had to no choice breh. My twins are off the books soon because they will be 15 this year. I was a dad very young and I married their mom. We were married 8 years breh. I can do is say if I knew then what I know now. You live and you learn, sometimes, you get burned. Thankfully, I make a good salary so that I can still live a decent life while paying them but when that money doesn't need to be paid anymore? Its nikkas that have kids in their 40s with some hoodrat that fukks their life up. nikkas paying child support on their death bed and shyt while in hospice . nikka got Alzheimers and can't even remember his name but CS gives two fukks, they'll remember to garnish that SS check with the quickness. Not me breh. I getting fixed next month.

lol.. wow @ MANDATORY thru courts

but yeah, my statement gonna apply to each and every case but the majority? maybe

 

[L. Deezy]

Some women don't even want to put dudes on support......

The court and state actually forces women to go in on nikkas.

and even the trif chicks who want to screw you over ----------at the end of the day, it's all regulated. ......... they can only 'get u' as much as the law says.

I'm like whatever about child support. I pay over $2500/month, around ... not including health care and private school and random other shyt. like 40k or some shyt.

It sucks but it's not the worse thing that could happen. Being a sry nikka not in your kids life is the worst thing that could happen.

If you're not prepared for ALLL the consequences, then just don't have sex At ALL.

2500? good lord... Oh she must go on some great vacays if she has a job as well. lol

j/k dont mean to make a joke of your situation. Thats a hell of a payment.. geez

 

[iceberg_is_on_fire]

2500? good lord... Oh she must go on some great vacays if she has a job as well. lol

j/k dont mean to make a joke of your situation. Thats a hell of a payment.. geez

That is where cs also gets you. Not knowing his situation but if there are multiple mothers, you pay virtually the same to each mother. When you have kids by the same mom as I do. The first kid will hit you for like 22% of your gross. Add on additional kids then it is like 27% for two kids, 32% for 3 kids. I have something like that, I forget the breakdown. My wife's ex-husband, two kids, two mothers, both moms get around 22% of the top. So, until his kids grow up (ages 6&3), he only gets to keep around 50% of his money, unless he kills the overtime. Not too long ago, he was talking about committing that. shyt is real out here and the courts will sodomize the fukk out of you in the process

Heed this pic my nikkas.

 

[L. Deezy]

That is where cs also gets you. Not knowing his situation but if there are multiple mothers, you pay virtually the same to each mother. When you have kids by the same mom as I do. The first kid will hit you for like 22% of your gross. Add on additional kids then it is like 27% for two kids, 32% for 3 kids. I have something like that, I forget the breakdown. My wife's ex-husband, two kids, two mothers, both moms get around 22% of the top. So, until his kids grow up (ages 6&3), he only gets to keep around 50% of his money, unless he kills the overtime. Not too long ago, he was talking about committing that. shyt is real out here and the courts will sodomize the fukk out of you in the process

Heed this pic my nikkas.

WHAT IN THEE FUKK? wow

 

[Silkk]

Got Damn at this thread

 

[iceberg_is_on_fire]

WHAT IN THEE FUKK? wow

Play with the math breh
https://mycourts.in.gov/csc/parents/

 

[daboywonder2002]

I can actually tell the story from the other side, and as a person in the relationship who is not the biological parent.

I know this is long, but let me give you a backstory.

My wife had a child with this dude back in 2008. He was around for the first couple of months. They lived together but he wasn't really helping her with much of anything and worked a dead end job. She was in Nursing school, in her last year. After the first couple of months he disappeared and she didn't hear anything from him. 6 months later, this dude takes her to court for full custody of the child and claims she has been denying him access to the child. (By this time she had sent her daughter to stay with her mom so she could focus on the last semester of school) Mind you she had been trying to get in contact with him to help her when he initially disappeared, but got no response. She was doing clinicals and taking care of a newborn at one point, and he wouldn't even come watch the child. He dragged her to court for a year, FOR NOTHING. She was even willing to let allow limited visitation at first (considering he is irresponsible and didn't trust him with a child that young). Eventually when he realized there was no way he could get full custody, and everything started coming out, he changed his request to joint custody.

Eventually, after more stuff came out in court, they offered a deal for joint legal custody, and for my wife to get full physical custody, and a bunch of other BS little stuff that wasn't really in my wife's favor. She didn't want to agree because her lawyer hadn't even gotten to finish her case, but she had already racked up almost $50,000 work of attorney's fees. So she did to try to get it over with.

Sidenote: In the midst of this, my wife told him, I don't even want child support if we can just come to an agreement and save money from these lawyers.

Longer story short, they settled and he's been giving her hell ever since. And now we stay in Georgia (he's in NC) So every time he wants to be an A-hole he files for something in court and we have to drive up there. He was paying $400/month in support, but after she moved to Georgia he filed for a recalculation. She was making less money, and healthcare was more so then he ended up paying $450, and she wasn't even gonna bother. But then he supposedly lost his job in September and started working in December (We don't believe it, his company just got bought out and he works at the same place). So he didn't pay any child support from that time. Then when it was time recalculate, he brought one pay stub (you're supposed to bring 3) from a period where he missed a week of work. Now he's ordered to temporarily pay like $205/month because that's the "gray area" when you don't make a certain amount of money, so things like Child Care aren't taken into consideration (Child care is $620/month). But even since that order, he's only paid like half of it.

She was supposed to go back to court because, even when you're not working you have to contribute something. Also his whole story sounded suspicious and he didn't have the required documentation. He was supposed to bring his bank statements to show how he supported himself while he "wasn't working", his tax returns, his letter of employment to show when he started, and the correct pay stubs. The day of the hearing to recalculate, we get an email from my wife's attorney saying that HE now has an attorney, and that he's on the verge of getting a full-time job (he now works another dead end PT job), and the support is gonna change when our daughter starts school this year, and that they were granted a continuance. By this time we were already half way to NC. But it's crazy, because paying that measly $205/month would be less expensive than his lawyer, which makes no sense to us. Why not just pay the child support and save some money?

He clearly got a lawyer because he knew he was gonna get caught up in his lies. Plus his lawyer is crooked himself. Since the $50,000 in lawyers fees, my wife had accrued probably another 10-15K in fees. But at the beginning of this year she got one of those legal plans through work, so she doesn't have to pay anything.

At this point we're gonna file a motion for contempt, try to get attorney's fees and whatever else. If he wants to keep paying thousands of dollars for attorney's fees instead of talking to us... He can do it, and he'll be living like a bum for the rest of his life. The only problem is his parents are enabling him and pay most of his attorney's fees and spend more time with his daughter than him.

The whole situation is just sad and unnecessary. Add to that, he's upset because his daughter calls both of us daddy. As the person that supports her the most financially and equally emotionally as anyone that she's related biologically to, I don't have a problem with it. But I guess I could see why it might bother him. But since he doesn't even support her financially or communicate with her other than visitation (where she spends most of the time with her grandparents), we really don't care. But we always enforce to our daughter that he is her biological father an he loves her. Add to that, we asked her what she wanted to call me, "Jermaine", daddy, daddy "Jermaine." She said "Daddy... Daddy is a good name for you.

My heart melted brehs...

question for you. how do you handle finances in your situation? do you put everything in one pot including child support. i told my wife that i prefer the child support be used for her kids. school lunch, they need clothes, start a college fund for them, etc. She wants everything to go in one pot

 

[Mordith]

I pay over $2500/month, around ... not including health care and private school and random other shyt. like 40k or some shyt..

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Jesus 2500 month

Wtf

 

[Mr. Somebody]

No i had a baby with a woman i wanted to marry.

 

[Blackking]

2500? good lord... Oh she must go on some great vacays if she has a job as well. lol

j/k dont mean to make a joke of your situation. Thats a hell of a payment.. geez

At first she was wilin out... acting stupid n shyt for a year or so.. even my pops was smh at me. Back when i had a facebook... I remember saving money biweekly just to pay bills (per court order-- i had to also pay off a Victoria secreats card, macys card, citibank, and chase.... I never shopped or used any of these cards) .. and seeing her n her broke girls n vegas n shyt.

I re-lawyered' up eventually. Now I'm not even required to pay for health n school... but I do have to pay madd support money.

I just figured as long as my 2 sons are cool, then I'm cool. What goes around comes around.. cuz I'm looking better with age, she's looking Great but that wont last forever, She has a masters degree but zero career, no work experience ... and no relationships since we spit, just nikkas that dikk her down, zero life skills besides being raised bilingual.... as nothing to offer the world besides looks.

eventually she will die after an unfulfilled superficial life.... and I'll be as happy n chill as I am now.


I'm good. the problem is.. I also have a daughter and another son. so i basically be working w not that much after i've worked madd hard for 15 years to build up.

 

[Blackking]

Daddy is a good name for you.

My heart melted brehs...

that was a great story in the end doe