Approach A Chick On POF. She Said She Doesnt Date Her Race?

If You Dont Find Your Race Attractive......Is That Self Hate?

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Claudex

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c00ns are literally everywhere brehs and brehettes. They're just a part of life.
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Real talk, sometimes I can't help but to find the reach of western colonization's damage terrifyingly incredible. It's horrible for sure, but the fallout of a trip to find spices is just galaxy-level crazy.
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you lost for using POF period. shyt is the lowest common denominator of online dating, especially now that tinder is up
 

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Imma be real, she didn't put down black men at all. She simply said she wasn't interested.

Self-Hate by definition means she finds fault in herself. It doesn't mean herself and people like her. Ethnic self hatred would.
1. We don't know her life, we only know this snippet, and The Coli bias for anyone saying something like she did automatically means she will be demonized.
Is the prevailing preference on the coli to date only blacks a form of ethnic love, or simply a hatred for others? We can't have it both ways.
2. Again, she never put down black men, and she made a fair arguement. She might be in love with alabaster skin, square jawed, Calvin Klein model types. What is wrong with that?

Granted, I can never understand writing off dating people simply because of their skin color or ethnic background, as it seems silly for me to say "I dont date black girls/indian girls/white girls/etc" when I find all kinds attractive. That said, her preference to not date them doesn't make her bad, especially if she didn't go on a tangent about the lazy and disrespectful Tyrones and Deshawns of the world.
She might very well love herself, she just don't find particular features of black men attractive. I typically don't find flat butts attractive, whether on white or black women, but its more prevalent on white women. Does writing off a white woman with a flat butt make me racist, and not accepting a flat butt sista me exhibiting self hate? I think this term is being used as a weapon and not a diagnosis.
i guess i look at it from a different point of view

if you dont find your race to be attractive.......then you find them to be inferior

i always assume people like that wish they were the race they are attracted to

im tryna find a way to explain it
 
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You took her preference too personally :yeshrug:
to be honest.........i really didnt care

i just thought it was interesting especially since shes from africa

i recently did a research paper on Ad Analysis......There was a youtube video about a black kid getting fed like a dog. the way i organized the paper was focusing on racism in africa



I found out about Apartheid........that shyt was basically legal segregation. the most crazy part was that it was only abolished in 94. thats only twenty years ago.

i wanted to see her reasoning for preferring a race that degraded her ancestors .
 
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i guess i look at it from a different point of view

if you dont find your race to be attractive.......then you find them to be inferior

i always assume people like that wish they were the race they are attracted to

im tryna find a way to explain it

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That isn't it at all, breh. It literally encompasses the saying "Different strokes for different folks." For all we know, she could have been born in the Lincoln Park area or closer to the suburbs and grew up with mostly white people. We don't know her baggage and why she says what she says, but it doesn't make her a bedwench or c00n or whatever term is hot. In all my days, as far as black women, ive been mostly attracted to jet black women with athletic figures.Depending on what company I say it in, I will get applauded for loving super dark sistas, which is stupid.

On the same token, I rarely find light-skinned black women that interesting. Anything a shade past mocha isn't nearly as striking. Does that make me self-hate because a significant segment of blacks aren't my cup of tea?
 

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That isn't it at all, breh. It literally encompasses the saying "Different strokes for different folks." For all we know, she could have been born in the Lincoln Park area or closer to the suburbs and grew up with mostly white people. We don't know her baggage and why she says what she says, but it doesn't make her a bedwench or c00n or whatever term is hot. In all my days, as far as black women, ive been mostly attracted to jet black women with athletic figures.Depending on what company I say it in, I will get applauded for loving super dark sistas, which is stupid.

On the same token, I rarely find light-skinned black women that interesting. Anything a shade past mocha isn't nearly as striking. Does that make me self-hate because a significant segment of blacks aren't my cup of tea?
you playing that devils advocate roll well
 

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to be honest.........i really didnt care

i just thought it was interesting especially since shes from africa

i recently did a research paper on Ad Analysis......There was a youtube video about a black kid getting fed like a dog. the way i organized the paper was focusing on racism in africa



I found out about Apartheid........that shyt was basically legal segregation. the most crazy part was that it was only abolished in 94. thats only twenty years ago.

i wanted to see her reasoning for preferring a race that degraded her ancestors .


FTFY breh :patrice:
 

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to be honest.........i really didnt care

i just thought it was interesting especially since shes from africa

i recently did a research paper on Ad Analysis......There was a youtube video about a black kid getting fed like a dog. the way i organized the paper was focusing on racism in africa



I found out about Apartheid........that shyt was basically legal segregation. the most crazy part was that it was only abolished in 94. thats only ten years ago.

i wanted to see her reasoning for preferring a race that degraded her ancestors .

Very ironic especially on this site.
 

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to be honest.........i really didnt care

i just thought it was interesting especially since shes from africa

i recently did a research paper on Ad Analysis......There was a youtube video about a black kid getting fed like a dog. the way i organized the paper was focusing on racism in africa



I found out about Apartheid........that shyt was basically legal segregation. the most crazy part was that it was only abolished in 94. thats only twenty years ago.

i wanted to see her reasoning for preferring a race that degraded her ancestors .

You date individuals, not entire races.

Listen, I don't know why some people prefer to date ONLY outside of his/her race...that's their business though and if it is deemed self hate, it's no one else's business. If that's what makes him/her happy, whether you agree with it or understand it is irrelevant...you're not going to change that person's mind.
 
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