Are Average Women RUINED by being Sidepieces to Ballers, Players or just Men with Better Options ?

[dr. pill biden]

This why despite a strong amount of bodies haven't had an actual GF, I only see dating as worth it if you see the potential of a life partner in the woman. Anything else is fwb/kick it/coolin

^^^ not directed at you personally brother but nikkaz with attitudes like this are exactly yes why women do get ruined every day

behind every ruined woman is a man (not always a baller a lot of them are just regular degular dudes) who can wipe his hands clean of responsibility and feel no conscience about it bc he got his nut and could bounce n leave the consequences in his rearview mirror

 

[FluffyEyes]

They're always tweeting about refusing to settle and listing their requirements which all happen to describe me. Like @LadyJ2 said, they'd rather be with that nikka once in a while than be taken off the market by a man they deem as below them.

This is why I don't understand why ppl complain about certain woman refusing to "settle". If she is doing that, that means she's taking herself out of the position of lying to a man she doesn't actually respect. The problem is when ppl feel they're settling and sell another person romance and dreams knowing they just don't want to be the last bytch not coupled up.

 

[D.C Young]

why are you assuming that women have a problem with being a side piece to a highly successfull man?

women would rather share a king then to be loyal to a peasant

 

[FluffyEyes]

I tell women not to do the fwbs/situationships. There’s no benefit for women. If you never do those and only get in relationships, you understand where you stand a bit more. I do think the hook up culture has had a negative effect.

Hard agree. These are situations where someone (usually the woman) is clearly taking what they can get from a particular person. They tend to have no boundaries but an expectation that FWB will turn into a relationship and end up hurt and mad at the end. Some women will accept this because they deep down believe they can't get anything else. Some women think they're "savages" but they're really being used as time wasters until that person finds someone they actually want.

 

[Gloxina]

This is why I don't understand why ppl complain about certain woman refusing to "settle". If she is doing that, that means she's taking herself out of the position of lying to a man she doesn't actually respect. The problem is when ppl feel they're settling and sell another person romance and dreams knowing they just don't want to be the last bytch not coupled up.

Because men still want access to those women lol

Basically, a woman who isn’t sharing herself with someone is basically a waste.

Truthfully, as long as single ppl aren’t a drain or drag on others, their being single shouldn’t be an issue

 

[FluffyEyes]

Because men still want access to those women lol

Basically, a woman who isn’t sharing herself with someone is basically a waste.

Truthfully, as long as single ppl aren’t a drain or drag on others, their being single shouldn’t be an issue

Right it has to be that. Because if she is "delusional" why would you even want to waste your time there??

 

[#1 pick]

aren't you married?

Yeah, if you read the thread, you would see I stated that like multiple times in the thread.

 

[MikelArteta]

Yeah, if you read the thread, you would see I stated that like multiple times in the thread.

just checking you never entered divorce realm breh

 

[#1 pick]

just checking you never entered divorce realm breh

Never. Marriage is goat shyt when you choose right. Otherwise, I would be gmb too.

 

[Chrishaune]

Men and women should be courting for marriage. Anything outside of that will lead to the current ”community” we have. Then with no pride we have now started the next phase of disfunction, which is to be whited out through dating out. No dude seeing my daughter if he just wanna “date”. Go ”date” the next man daughter.

"dating" is a play on words for prostitution.

or "a-whoring"

 

[Gloxina]

Right it has to be that. Because if she is "delusional" why would you even want to waste your time there??

It’s not really about the woman. It’s the wasted potential sex she isn’t having. lol Delusional women can have sex.

When they see a pretty woman, it isn’t about “Oh I wonder if she’s a great cook and has a wonderful personality” it’s “I want to see the man who locked her down”
or who is “enjoying her” before her looks are gone.

What’s funny is men say that the “average man” needs to know that women think they are settling for them, but all these “average women” need to realize that they are being used/settled for (temporarily) as well.

Truthfully, if everyone knew and stayed in their lane, things would be better.

Men have causal situations with women they won’t even be seen in public with, and some of those women confuse that with dating. Women overlook the less charismatic guys because the cute popular guys naturally garner attention.

But there are “average guys” who play games and believe that average girls aren’t worth investing in either because they want a shot at the prettier girls too. And average girls who don’t realize they are potentially missing out on better treatment from other guys.

Plenty of guys would drop the average girl for the hotter girl who seems to be genuinely interested in them.
Plenty of girls would drop the average guy for the more successful guy who seems genuinely interested in them.

And then it all blows up in their faces when that person walks away, because they didn’t stay in their lane.

I don’t know. I really don’t know.
It would be great if everyone just picked someone and decided to be the best version of themselves for their spouse. But it all gets messy because someone cheats or decides to leave and “upgrade”. Which is what causes people to lack trust and be selfish.

If you find someone real, hold on tight

 

[MikelArteta]

It’s not really about the woman. It’s the wasted potential sex she isn’t having. lol Delusional women can have sex.

When they see a pretty woman, it isn’t about “Oh I wonder if she’s a great cook and has a wonderful personality” it’s “I want to see the man who locked her down”
or who is “enjoying her” before her looks are gone.

What’s funny is men say that the “average man” needs to know that women think they are settling for them, but all these “average women” need to realize that they are being used/settled for (temporarily) as well.

Truthfully, if everyone knew and stayed in their lane, things would be better.

Men have causal situations with women they won’t even be seen in public with, and some of those women confuse that with dating. Women overlook the less charismatic guys because the cute popular guys naturally garner attention.

But there are “average guys” who play games and believe that average girls aren’t worth investing in either because they want a shot at the prettier girls too. And average girls who don’t realize they are potentially missing out on better treatment from other guys.

Plenty of guys would drop the average girl for the hotter girl who seems to be genuinely interested in them.
Plenty of girls would drop the average guy for the more successful guy who seems genuinely interested in them.

And then it all blows up in their faces when that person walks away, because they didn’t stay in their lane.

I don’t know. I really don’t know.
It would be great if everyone just picked someone and decided to be the best version of themselves for their spouse. But it all gets messy because someone cheats or decides to leave and “upgrade”. Which is what causes people to lack trust and be selfish.

If you find someone real, hold on tight

Looks fade, money can go and then you're left with...........

 

[Gloxina]

Looks fade, money can go and then you're left with...........

You’re very right. As long as those pretty women use their looks while they have them they’ll probably be aight. And as long as a man actually has money he’ll always be straight.

We’re ultimately talking about people not looking past the looks or money/clout to appreciate the person within.

Dudes play with “average” women and don’t take them seriously because of their looks, women avoiding average dudes because they aren’t as fine or successful as other guys
This game is hard to play for people who don’t actually have looks or success.

Ultimately there are a lot of people overlooking people they could be with.

 

[Raphaello]

It is what it is. Women have been doing this forever. It's just that due to the internet the average dude who shed eventually settle with is now aware of how they move and is losing interest in marriage.

The smart girls go through that phase and move to marriage early on before men catch on. The dumb ones wait til their late 20s and you're left dudes with a mindset not suited towards marriage.

 

[Gloxina]

It is what it is. Women have been doing this forever. It's just that due to the internet the average dude who shed eventually settle with is now aware of how they move and is losing interest in marriage.

The smart girls go through that phase and move to marriage early on before men catch on. The dumb ones wait til their late 20s and you're left dudes with a mindset not suited towards marriage.

^^^^^^ That’s the game, in a nutshell.

But it works on the flip, too. You have men who realize they won’t get their “type” of woman to commit so they “settle” for the woman who wasn’t really their first choice or type.

Plus you have to factor in the folks who don’t actual come from households that rear them for marriage or who have a troubled past or family so they are figuring everything out later than others.

I’ve said it before: there’s a lot of trauma in our community so most younger Black folks aren’t getting it right, in the proper time frame. When the community was tighter and more traditional this wasn’t as big of a problem.

It’s good these conversations are happening now because Gen Z and younger might be ok if we redirect things NOW.