Are Average Women RUINED by being Sidepieces to Ballers, Players or just Men with Better Options ?

[Bossino]

I can't tell you how terrible just two years of average life was. I got no bytches. I got clowned for getting no bytches. A bytch would tell me about her "man" (12 yo boy) with no intentions of getting with me, my momma wasn't even telling me I'm handsome anymore and people don't want to be around you like that if you not really good at anything at that time and you just meh to look at.

For nikkas that gotta do this for their entire life. I get why you hang with me. Women want to be around me. You want to be around women. You gotta be a top tier guy. I get to be an a$$hole and a dikkhead who shows no care for anyone and I get what I want. Even if you hate me, you can't hate what's around me and that puts you in place to market yourself to her and sell her on your long term viability.

I really had to think back to that to have appreciation for brehs who just don't got it like that. With cacs, at least they can go to other races where the standards are lower. The only way a Black man can go to another race and benefit is if he's packing. And yes, women talk and they know.

Packing don't mean much for BW. A lot of brehs packing, they want more than just that. White women sometimes want just that.

Also didn't address it in my other reply. I've never been a hanger-on/latcher if not a primary player in the group, I won't be supporting cast. But the times I've worked with/been grouped with top tier men, man the disparity in how women act/behave is striking.

Average brehs with top tier homies should kick with them for a weekend just so they understand all the hoops, shyt tests, and extras women give them are reserved for them more or less. They are cooperative, and compliant with top flight brehs. Honestly to average brehs the hardest aspect of the predicament is the acceptance that at anytime you can get dunked on by a guy with higher playing rank getting at ya broad (partner or smashmate or girl you spitting at) or dunked on by a woman reminding you that you don't have the rank of the aforementioned man. Once you get past this you can proceed but honestly there's a certain distance/reality you have to maintain or you'll end down sumn serious

 

[Bossino]

Yeah, I realize that now. I just had too low of a bar for women. If she was cute enough to smash and tolerable to be around, I'd have them in my crib and open my life to them. I never looked into their past or the types of nikkas they were used to

Breh if you ask about her exes, and by quality of aggregate person, especially stability/character you're the best guy she's dealt with, probably won't work. You want her to have guys like you in her past to know that she actually wants and has wanted the archetype of man you are.

 

[Still Benefited]

No all my dads friends are black but he does get a long with my father in law. Especially since they’re both from SF. But I understand where my dad was coming from, especially looking at the times he grew up in, it’s hard to get used IR relationships when you’ve dealt with racism first hand. So I wasn’t too hard on him.

You could argue a black man should never have to get used to an interacial relationship. But most of you youth dont quite understand genetic quality,and the importance of maintaining a culture. But you are an innocent ,this is your fathers fault. As well as the black man in general. Although maybe he didnt know either due to his programming.


In the future,black seperatist will practice eugenics. Based on science,not racism. But point is,fathers picking a mate sounds good. But what criteria are they using? So I cant cosign that.


Men programmed by America ,probably wont choose much better than women .Not by my standard at least.

 

[#1 pick]

Also didn't address it in my other reply. I've never been a hanger-on/latcher if not a primary player in the group, I won't be supporting cast. But the times I've worked with/been grouped with top tier men, man the disparity in how women act. behave is striking.

Average brehs with top tier homies should kick with them for a weekend just so they understand all the hoops, shyt tests, and extras women give them are reserved for them more or less. They are cooperative, and compliant with top flight brehs. Honestly to average brehs the hardest aspect of the predicament is the acceptance that at anytime you can get dunked on by a guy with higher playing rank getting at ya broad (partner or smashmate or girl you spitting at) or dunked on by a woman reminding you that you don't have the rank of the aforementioned man. Once you get past this you can proceed but honestly there's a certain distance/reality you have to maintain or you'll end down sumn serious

Sounds like a sick twisted game for kicks.

Honestly, i would just travel to where I am beloved. That's easy for me to say, I know the feeling of being beloved but I think every man who has achieved success deserves to see what being loved looks like.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Women have "intuition" and all these super feelings which they act like are super powers, yet they cant pick a great man. Think about it women are hailed as the smarter sex more in tune with their intuition yet they suck at picking a non abusing,cheating man.Some get it right and some dont . Seems to me every woman has a cheating ex bf story.

 

[#1 pick]

Breh if you ask about her exes, and by quality of aggregate person, especially stability/character you're the best guy she's dealt with, probably won't work. You want her to have guys like you in her past to know that she actually wants and has wanted the archetype of man you are.

Everyone has an archetype. Hell I have one.

I love lame females who are extremely smart, beautiful, hard workers, who are freaks sexually and don't care for sex to a high degree.

I am a dude who can go months without sex but you gotta be a freak when we do it and it's like making a movie. It gotta be amazing.

But everyone ain't like me. Most are like my homies, they get a chick that's loyal, she makes it clear that she will leave if they don't get married and he marries her, they have kids, etc, etc.

 

[Bossino]

Sounds like a sick twisted game for kicks.

Honestly, i would just travel to where I am beloved. That's easy for me to say, I know the feeling of being beloved but I think every man who has achieved success deserves to see what being loved looks like.

Man def easier said than done, but when men do that they get called weak, or shaded for looking for a smaller pond. Honestly I'd assume most average men have a lowered sense of self after enough bad experiences so they just are happy with whatever portions of care/affection are served, how ever scarcely, especially if there's attached sex often enough to be "consistent"

If you're too aware shyt can make you cynical curmudgeon for sure

 

[#1 pick]

Man def easier said than done, but when men do that they get called weak, or shaded for looking for a smaller pond. Honestly I'd assume most average men have a lowered sense of self after enough bad experiences so they just are happy with whatever portions of care/affection are served, how ever scarcely, especially if there's attached sex often enough to be "consistent"

If you're too aware shyt can make you cynical curmudgeon for sure

Ain't no shame, you gonna get hate because women have placed you in this group with this certain grade and aint nothing but hate coming if you achieve better than that. That's facts!

They don't choose your future, you do.

No one can lower my self esteem, I know my worth. That's how you got to be especially when you are single

 

[Bossino]

Everyone has an archetype. Hell I have one.

I love lame females who are extremely smart, beautiful, hard workers, who are freaks sexually and don't care for sex to a high degree.

I am a dude who can go months without sex but you gotta be a freak when we do it and it's like making a movie. It gotta be amazing.

But everyone ain't like me. Most are like my homies, they get a chick that's loyal, she makes it clear that she will leave if they don't get married and he marries her, they have kids, etc, etc.

I have something similar to yours except she can be a 5-6 in looks, I don't need her to be freaky AF. I don't care if her drive is higher as long as I get sex at least 3 times a week. In terms of going long periods without it. It's not in me.

As for the bolded if she likes you like that she won't set ultimatums. If I tell her I'm not interested in gov sanctioned marriage and she says she needs it, I'm already fairly skeptical, because it just seems like you need my resources more than you need/want me

 

[#1 pick]

I have something similar to yours except she can be a 5-6 in looks, I don't need her to be freaky AF. I don't care if her drive is higher as long as I get sex at least 3 times a week. In terms of going long periods without it. It's not in me.

As for the bolded if she likes you like that she won't set ultimatums. If I tell her I'm not interested in gov sanctioned marriage and she says she needs it, I'm already fairly skeptical, because it just seems like you need my resources more than you need/want me

Women sometimes have to set ultimatums because some nikkas will stall forever and a day waiting for the perfect time. There is no perfect time, just do it is sometimes the best case.

I agree with that, you gotta communicate. What you want and what does she want. Gotta be on the same page or it won't work.

It's really hard to get sex 3 times a week with kids especially if both of you are grinding. While the relationship is fresh and in the early stages, you should be knee deep in her. Letting her know who's the man and finding her spots, what she likes, teaching her what you like, etc.

 

[Bossino]

Women have "intuition" and all these super feelings which they act like are super powers, yet they cant pick a great man. Think about it women are hailed as the smarter sex more in tune with their intuition yet they suck at picking a non abusing,cheating man.Some get it right and some dont . Seems to me every woman has a cheating ex bf story.

Because women desire men other women desire, (top flight) so they have to share. It's always been this way. Dudes are just finally getting hip to it and easing off all the sympathy. Any chick who tells me about multiple ain't shyt exes is giving herself the ceiling of sex because she's not owning up to her shortcoming in choosing them. When they act like they were completely fooled it's just an attempt at absolution

 

[Bossino]

Women sometimes have to set ultimatums because some nikkas will stall forever and a day waiting for the perfect time. There is no perfect time, just do it is sometimes the best case.

I agree with that, you gotta communicate. What you want and what does she want. Gotta be on the same page or it won't work.

It's really hard to get sex 3 times a week with kids especially if both of you are grinding. While the relationship is fresh and in the early stages, you should be knee deep in her. Letting her know who's the man and finding her spots, what she likes, teaching her what you like, etc.

Agreed, I just bow out because keeping your head on a swivel for women looking for a way out of a life of hoing bad decisions is exhausting. Also most men will want to have dominion over the women through some agreed/established life partnership if she truly likes him/betters his quality of life

I just have a label on me that says husband material, but not in the clean up back handed way not the desire sultry way. Every time I fukk and a woman says I wasn't expecting that from you. It just makes me saltier

 

[#1 pick]

Agreed, I just bow out because keeping your head on a swivel for women looking for a way out of a life of hoing bad decisions is exhausting. Also most men will want to have dominion over the women through some agreed/established life partnership if she truly likes him/betters his quality of life

I just have a label on me that says husband material, but not in the clean up back handed way not the desire sultry way. Every time I fukk and a woman says I wasn't expecting that from you. It just makes me saltier

Women like men can put people in a box. It's unfair that you have to prove yourself out of it.

 

[Bossino]

Women like men can put people in a box. It's unfair that you have to prove yourself out of it.

Nah I def get it, but when you're dealt a less favorable hand it's better to just spectate, with the occasional PT coming off the bench and hitting the shots that you know like the back of your hand. At this point anything else is a waste.

In general I'm just lower my expectations, while maintain standards. Harder to get caught off guard that way.

 

[Reality]

I think if you date a woman for more than 4 or 5 months, and you're the best they've had total package, that yeah it can shift their mindstate. What's dangerous though is that you as a man can look back after that same relationship and be like "I never want to date somebody like that again". So you might become their standard even though they don't meet your standards anymore.

This is especially true between like 27-35 when men are on the upswing on most things women value (money, status) & can hold steady on others (physique, pipe game) while women are generally on the decline on what men value (looks, # of bodies).

Of the last few women I've dated, I'd only re-enter a relationship with one of them and she's only just about to turn 32.

The women I've smashed and dashed after a few months have gotten married almost immediately after our situation was done. The women I've dated long term and entertained for marriage are still holding out. I've seen this with friends as well.