Are Average Women RUINED by being Sidepieces to Ballers, Players or just Men with Better Options ?

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No I definitely agree, but most men in marriage/long term partnership were not the initial type of man that woman gave the time of day to at all. But as stated ITT, if the woman fixes this quickly has her "fun" from 15-22 she still can find a man who wants her.

Almost disagreed but you right. I had my fun from 16-19 and then met him while still having fun. :skip:

But we're exactly each other's type. So much so that, when we started meeting the fam and old friends, everybody was like, ':ohhh: :leon:You really did go out and find your perfect match, thought you was gon hafta marry out. :heh:'

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This is an interestingly different take from the "water finds its own level" trope in dating.
I'd say modern dating has skewed the market. In the past people wanted someone who had a job and didn't cheat on them. If they weren't making 6 figures or were only working blue collar, it didn't mean much in the grand scheme. Something changed in the later 90's that shifted the playing field.

Now it's a combination of traits that are often rare to find in unison and anything less is settling. Usually for both women and men.
 
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It's been said that women can't go backwards in lifestyle. So if she's chilling with a high caliber man, but never getting wifed. Will she able to go back to a normal guy?

Im a womanizer. I keep a roster. I consider myself a 7/8, bcuz I date mostly 6s and 7s., but I only wife up 8s and 9s. But I will put 5 on the bench with the quickness. Some of these 5s are very cool. I take them out and chill, they have great times, but I couldn't wife them right now.


I guess what i'm asking, if I'm a 7, smashing a 5. Will this 5 ever be able to be with a 5. Or will she always chase 7s.?

What's the obsession with numbers around here tho? 5....6...7.. breh there's no consensus. i can say a woman a 10 and you could go "nah strong 7"
 
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I'd say modern dating has skewed the market. In the past people wanted someone who had a job and didn't cheat on them. If they weren't making 6 figures or were only working blue collar, it didn't mean much in the grand scheme. Something changed in the later 90's that shifted the playing field.

Now it's a combination of traits that are often rare to find in unison and anything less is settling. Usually for both women and men.
By "people" you mean women lol. This is enough for most men even today.
 

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You’re very right. As long as those pretty women use their looks while they have them they’ll probably be aight. And as long as a man actually has money he’ll always be straight.

We’re ultimately talking about people not looking past the looks or money/clout to appreciate the person within.

Dudes play with “average” women and don’t take them seriously because of their looks, women avoiding average dudes because they aren’t as fine or successful as other guys 🤷🏾‍♀️
This game is hard to play for people who don’t actually have looks or success.

Ultimately there are a lot of people overlooking people they could be with.

It's really funny because MOST ppl are average to ugly(and possibly fat), and most ppl regardless of race and gender aren't making 6 figures. That's why the time spent on these conversations is interesting. Some of these women aren't as pretty or catches like they think they are and some of these men are not even middle class and lacking in character as well. You would think ppl would figure out a way to meet in the middle.
 
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It's really funny because MOST ppl are average to ugly(and possibly fat), and most ppl regardless of race and gender aren't making 6 figures. That's why the time spent on these conversations is interesting. Some of these women aren't as pretty or catches like they think they are and some of these men are not even middle class and lacking in character as well. You would think ppl would figure out a way to meet in the middle.
Entitlement. Most of these people feel entitled.
 

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No I definitely agree, but most men in marriage/long term partnership were not the initial type of man that woman gave the time of day to at all. But as stated ITT, if the woman fixes this quickly has her "fun" from 15-22 she still can find a man who wants her.
Yea. The truth is it’s gonna be very hard for black(Israelite) women going foward, do to their haughtiness and letting white women fleece them into abandoning their men.The Most High already cursed their hair for past haughtiness.


Isaiah 4:1​


“And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.”

Isaiah 3:16-17
16The LORD said:
Because the daughters of Zion are haughty
and walk with outstretched necks,
glancing wantonly with their eyes,
mincing along as they go,
tinkling with their feet,
17therefore the Lord will strike with a scab
the heads of the daughters of Zion,
and the LORD will lay bare their secret parts.
 

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It's really funny because MOST ppl are average to ugly(and possibly fat), and most ppl regardless of race and gender aren't making 6 figures. That's why the time spent on these conversations is interesting. Some of these women aren't as pretty or catches like they think they are and some of these men are not even middle class and lacking in character as well. You would think ppl would figure out a way to meet in the middle.
EXAAAAAAAACTLY!
B-I-N-G-O

A bunch of average people thinking they are above average and better than their options.

Again: A lot of trauma in this community.
 

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Hi

Reading some of your posts and responses, I find it difficult to believe you are a womanizer or what I consider a true womanizer. I don't know if this thread should be taken seriously.

Anyway, I'm Gen Z and just entered the dating scene. We are moving way differently. A woman told me she wishes women from her generation and previous would have listened when men were letting them know what they 'wanted' and moved accordingly. She has hope for the Gen Z girls. I make more money then nearly 80% of the men I've met. A lot of Gen Z are actually. So are these men trying to come up off me? Ideally, I'd be with a guy in my age range but, so many of them don't have what I'm looking for yet.

ALL of the women in my family are married or dating a man with means. Several are housewives. I have several aunts that have NEVER had to work a day in their lives. Why should I or any woman not want a man that will provide, lead, and protect? What man that has things going on worried about this?

I do agree with some posts, some people just aren't going to get what they want and that is because of a few interactions. Change or be left behind, I guess.
No. The system is purposely propelling women ahead of men to disturb the natural balance and collapse certain nations/communities from within. That is the truth. Everyone else is collateral, but their prime targets are full negro ppl(srs), because they know who we are.

Women give it up so easy men don’t really have incentives to work that hard. If a breh good looking or has the the gift of the gab, they could easily crack 100 women before 25. Why get married really at that point? Both men and women are doing it to the detriment of the community as a whole and themselves even.
 

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Hi

What exactly are you telling me?
The women in my family are doing something right. I will be listening to their advice, not this thread or yours. In fact, I want a man that will take charge. I like men that know how to handle. That is what I like, but I'm not going to accept any one at the risk of my own happiness or health. I don't give nothing up if you ain't got it. A man's looks aren't the most important to me.

I'm still meeting men, just not what I want often in my age range. I just want my age range. If I wait for them, I'll be waiting about 7 years + for them to MAYBE catch up. I adjust. I'm just a bit more hesitant with older men because of their motives. I tend to have more fun with the men closer to my age. I guess that is the one issue I'm having compared to some of my family. They weren't making more than a lot of men they meet. 🤔
I didn’t give advice tho. Gen Z is very pretentious I see. I was answering your question about men trying to leech off women with making more money. The system purposely works against men to propel women. That said do what works for u or your family but my advice would be to keep your legs closed till marriage.

This isn’t your mother or aunt’s day and even the squarest men are aware of how women have always moved nowadays, so if you “have your fun”, you’re likely to be the first to break the cycle of married women unless you a looker, im talkin a real looker.
 
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