Are Black Men Losing Hope?

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where do you people reside it when you're not offline, because I see none of this shyt in reality

This was my point when i postes in response yo @Yup. I just dont think about life in the manner that a lot of these póster on the coli do. I try yo be as postive as i can ...who really wants to be pessimistic and angry all the time ? I dont see a lot of problems that i read about on the coli ...I just dont.
 
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Most women not all sit back and marginalize men by TALKING about what we lack as men in the bedroom , career , etc. What women dont realize is all WOMEN have is a womens perspective thats it because MOST women cant handel a lot of truth about our MANLY thoughts. And all this back and forth about black women this and black men that do yall realize that society dosent even promote strong black men to be strong black men ...do yall not realize they DONT promote a family unit of any kind.

Last but not least im learning not post in these type of threads or any other realationship thread hell i take breaks from the quick lil gems dealing with women thread ...cause at 30 as a man i dont wanna be pessimistic , i dont wanna be angry ( when i think about ceartin things women do) , I dont wanna have to give my all to a woman only to have her spit in my face ...and the world tell me its my fault, i dont wanna hear women rationalize there action ...i just dont wont to invest emotionally anymore unless people have solutions. Naww women dont check each other ...women cant even walk across the street together so how you expect men to like yall ? Women anit checking women cause when i approach women ...the intreaction always end up about what i ANIT as opposed what I AM....AND whats she wants /desrves as a woman. So not only do i have to hear it from women what im not but society and tv as well. And you wonder why i dont participate in this threads about relationships that usually turns into a gender war . All i care about is living the most health lifestyle mentally and physically ...as jesus as my word.[/QUOTE


I was talking about this @Yup :sas1:
 

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real nikkas don't even really think in terms of depression and shyt. nikkas who shoot nikkas shoot nikkas cuz they had to shoot a nikka. It wasn't an emotional event. They're not gonna go home and shed tears and cry about they're hard life in the hood. They're gonna move forward.

Depression is a disease that only effects the weak minded. You have the willpower to walk up and shoot a nikka then you're not worrying about being depressed.


Most depressed dudes really are the stever urkel type. Cuz depression stems from being timid and complacent. You sit still in life for long enough you're gonna get depressed. Its your bodies way of telling you to do something. Impossible to be depressed when you're always moving forward and accomplishing your goals. And just being around people naturally increases optimism.


I don't think black men are losing hope. There is hopeless people in every generation. They just get forgotten cuz they're nobodies.

Not true breh. I know killas who regret what they have done when talking about it in comfort. Physical sickness from the act and all of that. Unless you are a stone cold bloodthirsty killa it will eat at you. All that hyper aggressive shyt is a mask to the real world so no one can see how much pain they are in.
 

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Average brotha who has a wife and kids has it hard just like us single dudes One thing to be a leader on the job where your probably underpaid as it is,and where everybody wants ya position.Then you come home might have to put up with a nagging wife who more then likely won't cook,clean and just wants to gossip about FB or something irrelevant.Bill collector's on ya ass,you trying to be a husband and parent.It ain't easy married or single.Cats thinking a woman can bring them peace and joy.Granted some dudes will be blessed with great marriage.If cats wanna be alpha males in this jungle of a society strap up and shut up.I know it sounds harsh but majority of folks around you want you to fail.I don't know about y'all but that right there makes me motivated.
i agree women dont bring happiness...but having a good woman by your side that gets you and is supportive helps with the lows.
 

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Networking helps but it can hurt if you ain't cut out for it.Most of all you gotta have a good mouthpiece and as brotha you are your own businessman.Nobody will promote you but you.Why I tell young ones coming up.Always look fly and well shaven.With us it's mainly image.I'm sure some of us seen that Will Smith "Pursuit of happiness" movie.Will in the movie didn't have a dime,but he ended up getting a good job off of hustle and mouthpiece.

Image is key it took me a good amount of time to figure this out
 

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Someone tell @legacy not to tag me and I agree @philmonroe he whines too much. As for mental health...black people sre very susceptible to it but never get help.
I agree. Black people don't really like talking about mental health because of the stigma in society as a whole then tack on the stigma within black culture. I think the history of black people and doctors also has something to do with it, this has been a problem with my own family; many of my older relatives don't trust doctors. I think Black men especially are in a unique position since they also have social pressures and expectations of masculinity, and to ask for help or guidance is seen as a negative thing. Then again culturally to ask for help with your mental health you're viewed as a crazy person. We (black people) have low suicide rate stats, but that doesn't mean mental health should be overlooked.
Most women not all sit back and marginalize men by TALKING about what we lack as men in the bedroom , career , etc. What women dont realize is all WOMEN have is a womens perspective thats it because MOST women cant handel a lot of truth about our MANLY thoughts.
Which are what, if you don't mind me asking or are you generally speaking?
And all this back and forth about black women this and black men that do yall realize that society dosent even promote strong black men to be strong black men ...do yall not realize they DONT promote a family unit of any kind.
I agree with you that they don't, however a good representation of that should start at home before anything. If you're looking to the media for an example of what to do and find inspiration, as a black person, then you're fukked. There are a few good examples in the media, but we know why there aren't more. How did our ancestors do it? They were their own role models.
 

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No one wants to give their all to someone to have it thrown in their face. Both women and men are susceptible to that, that's why you have to vet people and know how to be in a relationship. While women may judge you according to what they need to have, men will judge you on what you look like. I can sympathize with someone provided that they can see that they can be marginalized and be the cause of someone else's marginalization. But many dudes here just want to talk about how women have wronged them and never want to acknowledge how they have wronged women or do so begrudgingly.
 
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I agree. Black people don't really like talking about mental health because of the stigma in society as a whole then tack on the stigma within black culture. I think the history of black people and doctors also has something to do with it, this has been a problem with my own family; many of my older relatives don't trust doctors. I think Black men especially are in a unique position since they also have social pressures and expectations of masculinity, and to ask for help or guidance is seen as a negative thing. Then again culturally to ask for help with your mental health you're viewed as a crazy person. We (black people) have low suicide rate stats, but that doesn't mean mental health should be overlooked.

Which are what, if you don't mind me asking or are you generally speaking?

I agree with you that they don't, however a good representation of that should start at home before anything. If you're looking to the media for an example of what to do and find inspiration, as a black person, then you're fukked. There are a few good examples in the media, but we know why there aren't more. How did our ancestors do it? They were their own role models.


As far a male truth goes and our perspective that another subject for another time it would be a post that would last foreva and a day . I will say just lurk around the lil gems on dealing with women thread ...but be aware that its all diffrent types of animals in that jungle but its definitely a lot of truth in there as well

Are you talking about our slavey ancestors or are you talking about before we was kidnnapped and brought over here ?. I would say every decent example that we had after slavery was sabatoaged...to some degree. Lindon b johnson was the president that ALLOWED women to pump out as many kids as they wanted ...as long as there was no black male in the house. In those days it was a NEED for one another the man needed the women and the women needed the man. In today's world women really dont need a man due to the value or lack there of that society places on men . Women dont take cues from men anymore ...and dont wont to. Society along with the devaluing of men have made it were women can be the man and the woman. And it dosent help that men are losing the stride to even wanna be great anymore ...i see men clearly just settling for being average and having average lives . All i do nowdays is focuses on bettering myself as a man ...regardeless of what society say and even lack of cooperation from women . Its a lot worse out here than people think.
 

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The system is set up for the black man to fail and many do

Just read an article wherein black Canadian professionals like lawyers describe discrimination and racialized attitudes towards them in the workplace. Apparently non-black Canadians in the higher rungs of professional society often deem blacks to be "incompetent or ineffective". :mjcry:
 
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As far a male truth goes and our perspective that another subject for another time it would be a post that would last foreva and a day . I will say just lurk around the lil gems on dealing with women thread ...but be aware that its all diffrent types of animals in that jungle but its definitely a lot of truth in there as well

Are you talking about our slavey ancestors or are you talking about before we was kidnnapped and brought over here ?. I would say every decent example that we had after slavery was sabatoaged...to some degree. Lindon b johnson was the president that ALLOWED women to pump out as many kids as they wanted ...as long as there was no black male in the house. In those days it was a NEED for one another the man needed the women and the women needed the man. In today's world women really dont need a man due to the value or lack there of that society places on men . Women dont take cues from men anymore ...and dont wont to. Society along with the devaluing of men have made it were women can be the man and the woman. And it dosent help that men are losing the stride to even wanna be great anymore ...i see men clearly just settling for being average and having average lives . All i do nowdays is focuses on bettering myself as a man ...regardeless of what society say and even lack of cooperation from women . Its a lot worse out here than people think.

There are pros and cons to everything. If African American women didn't have so many kids, blacks would be less than 12% of the population. Black Americans actually have a lower birth rate that what you might expect and a death rate that's all too high. Need more babies.
 
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