Are Single Men "SETTLING" when getting in relationships with Single Mothers?

[Stuntone]

I have noticed a lot of single mom haters moms were single mothers

Rightfully so. Theyve experience how bad it is 1st hand.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

My ex was a single father and I didn't think I was settling. But, it was a lot to deal with. It's not something I would sign up for again.

Fair enough, my hesitancy has always been around the “other guy”. I can never not think about it and these questions start running in my head

-How would this kid father feel if I disciplined her/him?

-Should I take them on a vacation, how would he feel?

-Would if mom and dad want to get back together and create a whole family again?


* That’s why I say it’s settling if you can avoid those issues.

 

[Tom Foolery]

Women are garbage?

Because they're single and have kids?

How did she have these kids?

In short yes. You gonna repeat anymore of my post.

How she got them kids? That's what I'm trying to find out myself.

 

[villain]

Pretty much. No hate to single mothers but ain't no childless nikka that's really in-demand thinking about wifing a single mother unless she super bad.

 

[At30wecashout]

Im trying to understand how a site full of dudes who promote "cream pies" and random acts of unprotected sex hate single mothers..

The two can't coexist.

Step one: Check to see if the same people saying something against single mothers are the same ones advocating reckless sex.
Step two: Realize it isn't all the same people voicing the same opinions

 

[thekingsmen]

At least 80% of the dating scene is single person with single parent.

 

[hostsamurai]

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[BmoreGorilla]

I’m in a different position than most of you being a single dad myself. I’ve been dating a woman for a while who is divorced with a daughter the same age as mine. That’s actually a plus. Only reason I haven’t locked it down is that I don’t think I’m ready for a serious relationship yet

 

[MaxPain]

Well doesn't that suck. But, if she's a single mother, isn't it potentially damaging to her child?. Im mentioned this in another post, but women are trapped in this social paradox, whatever path they choose vilification will follow.

I don't plan on getting married yet, and tbh I don't see it (neither do I want any children), my mind might change later, but when people ask me abut my future they are shocked that I don't want to get married and have children. Life in general taught me that society won't see women as sentient beings capable of human error— thats only reserved for men. Comments I read on this everyday continually reaffirm this notion. I ignore most of the garbage said about women in the locker room cuz its just so much and not worth getting into.

& before someone tells me to join lipstickalley- fukk you alot of them are unhinged, I hate their web layout it gives me a migraine.


&yes I am pmsing.

It is what it is

Most quality men dont want to or have to deal with single mothers and its not their responsibility to. Its nice if one wants to (usually low quality men she wouldnt look @ before the kid) but if she lucks up like Ciara then hey (1 in a million). That almost never happens and the kid is damaged in some way shape or form and really thats no other mans problem but the baby fathers.

I sure as hell dont want a woman with kids but more power to men who do

 

[Rawtid]

Depends on the man and the mother, but most times no. Single mothers are normally more stable with income and housing and a good number of men are not bringing that to the table. In most cases, they are "saving" each other. Single mom providing a stable household and dude may make finances and just general taking care of kids lighter. Very rare does a man with all his shyt together seek out a single mother, it's normally some nikka one bad decision away from being a total and complete piece of shyt.

 

[MaxPain]

I’m in a different position than most of you being a single dad myself. I’ve been dating a woman for a while who is divorced with a daughter the same age as mine. That’s actually a plus. Only reason I haven’t locked it down is that I don’t think I’m ready for a serious relationship yet

Yall both have kids

So thats perfect

If u was early 20s w no kids and had options u would be settling

Would u really date someone at that stage?

 

[MaxPain]

Fair enough, my hesitancy has always been around the “other guy”. I can never not think about it and these questions start running in my head

-How would this kid father feel if I disciplined her/him?

-Should I take them in a vacation, how would he feel?

-Would if mom and dad want to get back together and create a whole family again?


* That’s why I say it’s settling if you can avoid those issues.

Aaaand the kids will never respect u lol unless u raised them since they was lil like 2-3
Step daddies are unsung heroes

 

[Reece]

I have noticed a lot of single mom haters moms were single mothers

Most single mothers don’t want their sons dating single mothers so your argument falls flat anyway You think Grandmom Johnson wants to come pick up all them hoes kids when she babysitting? Nah. She worried about and only wanna see her own grandchildren. If I told my grandmom or my mom the girl I was seeing had 2-3 kids they would hate her off jump.

 

[QuintessentialBM]

I guess I'll shut this down. It depends......

It's settling when the male doesn't have children of his own..... however, if that's what he wants to do, then who are we to judge?

I find it funny that childless black men get shamed and character assassinated when we do want to date single mothers when that shyt isn't allowed or tolerated in any other community. A lot of the shaming is coming from broken black women and the people in their families. Nuclear black families don't have as much to say.

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Yall both have kids

So thats perfect

If u was early 20s w no kids and had options u would be settling

Would u really date someone at that stage?

Hell nah but I do commend dudes who take on that responsibility. A child can’t have enough positive male influences in their lives