As A Man How do u make amends with never being married or having kids?

[African Peasant]

I'm sure there's examples in the real world I'm not disputing that.

Some people may feel like life just got started for them at 30 (yes it's possible). The woman health, wealth, and overall happiness might have came at 30.

Idk I just never got the "quick bag em while you can" mentality that is somehow always the face of women. When in this very thread nig$as acting like it's all over at 30. I mean who's really the desperate ones here?

Started at 30 ? It's an illusion !

At that age, most women have past their prime and the number of partners approaching them for a long term relationship (marriage) is decreasing in quantity and quality. They know it. Plus, the biological clock is tickling. Many women now try to rationalize it, but deep down they know what time it is.

The fear of ending up alone really hit them at that moment.

Men are facing another problem : at 30, he needs to hurry up to catch a "good young girl" avoid the risk of ending up with a "thot". But the capacity of seduction of a man at that age is higher than the capacity of a woman at the same age. It's basically the opposite situation of their early 20's where the woman is the queen.

 

[Momentum]

they did a study on this....black men suffer from PTSD ...its universal...

The Link Between Racism and PTSD

Dark (brown) skin American black people are the strongest people on earth. To go through what we go through on a daily basis and not retaliate, contribute, and share our genius while KNOWING we are hated for nothing other than our appearance takes a Godly amount of confidence and greatness.

We are truly the most magnificent people in society on this planet. I'm convinced every other race low key idolizes black excellence to some degree.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

Started at 30 ? It's an illusion !

At that age, most women have past their prime and the number of partners approaching them for a long term relationship (marriage) is decreasing in quantity and quality. They know it. Plus, the biological clock is tickling. Many women now try to rationalize it, but deep down they know what time it is.

The fear of ending up alone really hit them at that moment.

Men are facing another problem : at 30, good young girls are getting rare because they are being bagged by other men and the risk of ending up with a "thot" is increasing. But the capacity if seduction of a man at that age is higher than the capacity of a woman at the same age. It's basically the opposite situation of their early 20's where the woman is the queen.

How can you say how a person feels about their life is an illusion? Lol

That's my problem with people. GENERALIZATIONS. I can respect an opinion long as they don't try to make it seem like it's fact.

All this prime stuff y'all speak of. Newsflash: If a person doesn't take care of themselves they're hit. No buts about it.

Personally, I just wanna be happy and age gracefully. This past year has taught me stop putting time on things you have no control over.

I'm not even 30 either.

I may be more mind boggled than anything about "hitting the wall at YOUNG ASS 30" but carry on.

 

[African Peasant]

How can you say how a person feels about their life is an illusion? Lol

That's my problem with people. GENERALIZATIONS. I can respect an opinion long as they don't try to make it seem like it's fact.

All this prime stuff y'all speak of. Newsflash: If a person doesn't take care of themselves they're hit. No buts about it.

Personally, I just wanna be happy and age gracefully. This past year has taught me stop putting time on things you have no control over.

I'm not even 30 either.

I may be more mind boggled than anything about "hitting the wall at YOUNG ASS 30" but carry on.

Illusions may also come in the form of feelings. It's not because you're feeling something that it's true. You can feel that you're in a great shape while being overweight. It's a feeling, but an illusion.

If you're not 30, start thinking about your future NOW. That's the idea. I'm not telling you to freak out. You should know that time will catch up to you and when it does, you better be in a comfortable situation. That's what I'm saying. Live your life, enjoy, but don't forget about tomorrow. Don't live like those girls who thought their 20's will be eternal. Use time at your advantage, while you can.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

Started at 30 ? It's an illusion !

At that age, most women have past their prime and the number of partners approaching them for a long term relationship (marriage) is decreasing in quantity and quality. They know it. Plus, the biological clock is tickling. Many women now try to rationalize it, but deep down they know what time it is.

The fear of ending up alone really hit them at that moment.

Men are facing another problem : at 30, he needs to hurry up to catch a "good young girl" avoid the risk of ending up with a "thot". But the capacity of seduction of a man at that age is higher than the capacity of a woman at the same age. It's basically the opposite situation of their early 20's where the woman is the queen.

O and when I mean 'started at 30' I meant some people didn't have the esteem in their earlier years and they finally became happy with themselves whether by health, wealth, are both and they're not worrying about somebody tryna save them from being an ol hag....at 30!

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

Illusions may also come in the form of feelings. It's not because you're feeling something that it's true. You can feel that you're in a great shape while being overweight. It's a feeling, but an illusion.

Ok great point.

Feelings are fickle.

However, if a man doesn't want to date a 30 year old woman because this preconceived notion that she's damaged goods, so be it. Doesn't make it true and it damn sure doesn't mean this woman doesn't have a right to pick a suitable partner to her liking because she suppose to be desperate.

I digress

 

[African Peasant]

O and when I mean 'started at 30' I meant some people didn't have the esteem in their earlier years and they finally became happy with themselves whether by health, wealth, are both and they're not worrying about somebody tryna save them from being an ol hag....at 30!

Yeah accidents happens. Some people didn't have the opportunity to enjoy their 20's and live like they wanted. It's sad but it's life. However, if you are able to get back on your feet in your 30's, don't try to have a second childhood. Don't try to live your 20's in your 30's. It's tempting but it's a wrong move, especially for a woman. It will bite un you in the ass and you will regret it.

Anyway, I told you what I had to say, regarding this matter. Do you and good luck.

 

[chkmeout]

Started at 30 ? It's an illusion !

At that age, most women have past their prime and the number of partners approaching them for a long term relationship (marriage) is decreasing in quantity and quality. They know it. Plus, the biological clock is tickling. Many women now try to rationalize it, but deep down they know what time it is.

The fear of ending up alone really hit them at that moment.

Men are facing another problem : at 30, he needs to hurry up to catch a "good young girl" avoid the risk of ending up with a "thot". But the capacity of seduction of a man at that age is higher than the capacity of a woman at the same age. It's basically the opposite situation of their early 20's where the woman is the queen.

#facts whether you like it out not.

 

[African Peasant]

Ok great point.

Feelings are fickle.

However, if a man doesn't want to date a 30 year old woman because this preconceived notion that she's damaged goods, so be it. Doesn't make it true and it damn sure doesn't mean this woman doesn't have a right to pick a suitable partner to her liking because she suppose to be desperate.

I digress

You're right. I'm not saying all women above 30 should be desperate, but the fact is a lot of them are. That's why many become easy prey for bums and predators. The best thing os to avoid that situation. But if it's happen, the best thing is to stay calm : precipitation and fear lead to disasters.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

it is complicated...u have to be set financially....plus at 23 that girl isnt mature and still might flip as she get older and see all her friends having fun fukking and suck...going on trips living it up while shes in the damn us watching love and hiphop reruns bored

Sound like my female coworkers

 

[Street Knowledge]

The reality is lots of people regret having kids. It's not just not socially acceptable to admit

 

[MikelArteta]

I swear the coli is an alternate universe sometimes lol

Everyone I know if in relationships and getting married and having kids IRL

My Facebook timeline has a bunch of people enjoying life

I think I'm just now starting to see the coli for what it is :ohhh

yes your 150 fb friends is a angus poll

 

[MikelArteta]

kids take so much time and money to raise, DINK (dual income no kid) is a great lifestyle

 

[Phitz]

Started at 30 ? It's an illusion !

At that age, most women have past their prime and the number of partners approaching them for a long term relationship (marriage) is decreasing in quantity and quality. They know it. Plus, the biological clock is tickling. Many women now try to rationalize it, but deep down they know what time it is.

The fear of ending up alone really hit them at that moment.

Men are facing another problem : at 30, he needs to hurry up to catch a "good young girl" avoid the risk of ending up with a "thot". But the capacity of seduction of a man at that age is higher than the capacity of a woman at the same age. It's basically the opposite situation of their early 20's where the woman is the queen.

This choice illustrates a problem with the society as a whole. If there is a strong patriarchy a man does not have to make such a choice. This is a community/cultural problem. Women follow men. If men stopped having sex with women until marriage thots would vanish. But I guess that's too much to ask, so you become victims of your own 'success'.

 

[BlackBall]

Its pretty sad man, most men want children, a lovely wife and a legacy. But ever since white liberal males flipped the natural family structure upside down...thats over. Now str8 men are punished. and this is babylon anyway. Most woman by 30 are all ran through and hate men. They got so much DNA in their mouth, they could clone atleast 15 men

Their bodies are tinted from experimental sex, having abortions, drug and alcohol abuse. What man (besides a cuck) want to reproduce with that? the answer is simple...none

This society Imo isn't really set up for family life. So getting married and not having children is probably in the cards for not only me but several other men. Unfortunately its too many pitfalls plus age and location factor in. I'm not going to blame woman but alot of them were affected by social conditioning. They're not mentally stable enough to be wives or mothers anymore. Its not even their fault. They cant even help it anymore, its just what society has them turned into.

Plus its a financial burden. That combined with the fact your lady could mentally metamorph into a whole new fukking person in a span of 24 hours. She might be michelle obama Tuesday and rihanna Wednesday. Woman are fickle, all it take is her seeing a movie and shell get in a trance and fall in live with the main character. Then start fukking any man that resemble the made up character. Women are fukked up in the head. U never know who they are.

you might lose everything. Money, kids ya house. then she'll fukk your homeboy in your kid bed, while you have to stay in a studio apartment in the hood...crying you're self to sleep everynight. Downing a bottle of Jack Daniels, staring at a pistol...contemplating the meaning of life

Thats a real scenario, oh WE ALL KNOW somebody that got fukked over for child support or alimony. Do it even make sense anymore to have a wife or child? I don't know anymore

Plus once u hit 30, the market is flushed when it comes to other 30 year old woman. Most of them are all fukked up. Mentally, emotionally. And she don't have the tight body or cute bubbly aura of a young girl. Her t*ts ain't perky anymore, they're all saggy, her posture is bad and her demeanor is all negative n shyt from the baggage. Teeth all yellow n shyt like she ate a pack of newports, bags under her eyes...wearing grandma jeans...her swag and confidence is all depleted n shyt.

If you're 30 and not married, its probably best just to take the L and adjust your life goals.

A legacy? This ain't game of thrones motherfukka