Maybe instead of having posts about how or what you need to get women...we need posts on how to attract quality women. I say that because too many of us on here have skewed views on women meaning we attracted or keep being around women the OP described. I've been thru a lot myself and wasn't dealt with the best hand of cards but even I know there are quality women/sistas out here. You just have to put urself in the position to be around them and attract them.
As A Man How do u make amends with never being married or having kids?
I'm a little scared to be honest. I really want a black woman with no kids and low body count. But as I get closer to 30, im starting to be fearful.
it is complicated...u have to be set financially....plus at 23 that girl isnt mature and still might flip as she get older and see all her friends having fun fukking and suck...going on trips living it up while shes in the damn us watching love and hiphop reruns bored
30 is the magical # breh
now the thing is...u might find one without kids, but forget that body count shyt....ima tell u like this...most 30 year old females sucked and fukked alot of dudes....u just have to make amends with that and hopefully she got that out of her system
Champagne Kudo
Shyness Boy
by knowing that my kids could never live up to my goatness. So I did them a favor 
and I don't fukk with marriage anyway. I do want a women by my side one time but in the back of my mind I feel like I'd get tired of her eventually and be like fukk it.
and I don't fukk with marriage anyway. I do want a women by my side one time but in the back of my mind I feel like I'd get tired of her eventually and be like fukk it.
i always wanted to take a family trip to the magic kingdom....wearing matching family outfits...matching white on white polo gear
but its hard to picture that now.....both us will be 30 plus and jaded....her belly hanging over her pants, with grease stints from spilling food over the her shirt....and me wth a receding hairline all stressed out arguing with her about leaving early because its too hot out
lol theres going to be alotta jaded 30 year olds soon...im already there
but its hard to picture that now.....both us will be 30 plus and jaded....her belly hanging over her pants, with grease stints from spilling food over the her shirt....and me wth a receding hairline all stressed out arguing with her about leaving early because its too hot out
lol theres going to be alotta jaded 30 year olds soon...im already there
likewise .... let the tears flow
Thecoli is going is going to raise seedless generation of men
nikkas are being trained on her to hate damn near every demographic of women,overthink absolutley every damn thing....its a such thing as being too smart for your own good when it comes to finding love....thecoli creating a bunch of smart nikkas to stupid to settle,and too miserable to ever be happy....Some of yall need to break away from that,these lessons wasnt meant for you
nikkas are being trained on her to hate damn near every demographic of women,overthink absolutley every damn thing....its a such thing as being too smart for your own good when it comes to finding love....thecoli creating a bunch of smart nikkas to stupid to settle,and too miserable to ever be happy....Some of yall need to break away from that,these lessons wasnt meant for you
This financial situation is a big thing here on teh coli. Like a religion. Kind of a tangeant, but it seems illogical as a society to have life and happiness determined by a system of commerce and the earnings from it.
On a personal level my financial situation has never been a condition of my relationships. All men are subject to the fate of life and financial success is not enttiled nor promised, so the majority of the world(most of which are in poverty should just stop existing based on this logic). If your partner is truly determined by your financial condition one must re evaluate everything along with themselves. It can bring about an existential crisis.
Black Cobain
Donkey Punch? I Donkey Slap!
Knowing that I won't have any other people besides me to worry about is very comforting.
African Peasant
Veteran
It's sad but it plays a role. Don't foul ourselves. Women will look at your finances, especially if you're old. The same way they will look at your physical condition. When you're young it's different : there is room for improvement. It's not the only factor but it's there, like I've said, especially if you reach 35. All things being equal, a broke 35 yo has less chance than a stable 35 yo.
It's not impossible but it will be more difficult.
On ne vit pas d'amour et d'eau fraiche.
Real life has been way more complicated than this. This fascination between 6 figures and beign broke seems to toggle on LSA and the Coli. Looking at economic numbers I guess men will always get left because most people are one paycheck away from crisis.
I personally see people with little income find dedicated partners they're in love with and I see lonley people with money. It's not that black and white.
African Peasant
Veteran
Stop being afraid. Be man and take the risk. Anyway, you don't have any other choice : it's either that or the 30 yo who did the things you're scared the 23 yo might do. It's your job to keep her out of it. Life is not easy for the righteous man in this century.
Stop whining and start looking for the right girl right now. When you hit 35, you'll be married with a kid. At the same time, get your stuff together.
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