As A Man How do u make amends with never being married or having kids?

[Taadow]

I was married at 31, daughter at 31.

There is no timetable on marriage and children though, too many people rush into these things and are unprepared for them and become shytty spouses and bad parents.

I think there is a natural sense of "i`m getting older, i want to settle down" that is a healthy thing if you want a family. I gotta say, i had a good time in my 20's, but at 30 after having an unsatisfying 3 year relationship, i knew i wanted to find a partner and start building a family.

I was so glad i finally got outta that bad relationship, because i was able to find the woman of my dreams and have an amazing family to come home to every day because i refused to continue to be unhappy

I see you left out how you had to break up the family of "the woman of your dreams", but okay...

 

[Carlton Banks]

Dr x threads >>>>>

 

[Carlton Banks]

alotta dudes in this thread a sad deep down...but put on a front

that whole "fukk bytches im stacking and getting p*ssy nikka"

thats bullshyt man...not having a family leaves a hole into u the size of the grand canyon

Sorry bro but I gotta disagree with you there. I was once engaged, she had a kid which was pretty much like having my own family. When you realize all the responsibilities and money that goes into that, you realize being a young single black man is the perfect situation. I look at 50 Cent for example, the man never loses. He went thru a lot of pain and L's in his life but look at him now. Unmarried, millionaire, tip top shape, assets, fukking bad bytches whenever he wants, etc. There are many other men like this that we don't know of but I'd rather live their lifestyle then being married and tied up.

 

[Shadow King]

Not having to worry about anyone myself. Self-improvement, seeking knowledge, pursuing hobbies and passions, living for myself. No "I can't take this risk because it'll fukk up the check for my child/wife/baby mama." No "I can't take this job/go see this opportunity across the country/overseas cause my wife wanna stay here."

Modern marriage is a business contract designed to protect women and punish men if the business fails.

"Legacy" is something can be left without children, especially if you reach your potential and make a mark on your craft and the world. Also, society is fukked up and my kids ain't ask to be here. So while I'm selfish in my quest to reach my potential, it's more selfish to bring my son or daughter into the sick free-for-all cause I want to mold somebody to outdo me or their mother, which they may fail at anyway.

 

[Cat piss martini]

My situation is this....
i'm not planting my seed in fukked up soil.
i'm picking the woman in want to give me children.
have your shyt together and move from there.
my children will never live in the hood......ever!

 

[Carlton Banks]

If you arent going to have children then why are you working and contributing to society?

This has to be the dumbest post in here

 

[Maxine Shaw]

Oh. It's you.

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Teach me Breh after my five year relationship I can't take anyone else seriously.

What ya wanna know? I don't have some magic wisdom or anything like that.

I just know at some point you gotta make your choice to be happy, and if you're in a bad relationship you have to end that.

You also have to take a chance, and know you may get hurt, but that's a part of life. I looked at it this way, there was no guarantee my and my wife would make it forever and all that shyt. But i knew, if i passed up the chance to marry this woman and build a family with her and bring a child into this world, i`d regret it forever.

I`d always look back and regret that i let fear rob me of something i believed could be the greatest thing of my entire life and i never would have had that opportunity if i stayed unhappy with the woman i was with prior to my wife

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

Also it needs to be said, if you are in no rush to have kids or feel you're not ready. Don't have kids.

Too many kids out there with shytty parents, wait until you want them and are ready (no ones ever really ready) mentally

 

[LastEmperor2k2]

I see you left out how you had to break up the family of "the woman of your dreams", but okay...

All of you know that part of the story

You all also ignore all the other parts of that story I mention like how she was separated from the guy for 2 years prior and how we never slept together until they were divorced.

But i`m okay with who i am, i`m not like the majority of people on here. I have no reason to hide, pretend or fabricate myself. I own me, and i`m damn proud of the life i made, the family i have and where i`m at

 

[Rawtid]

That can happen for men at any time. Women are the only ones with an expiration on having children. Marriage doesn't seem like a great thing to me and You can have children and not be married.

 

[hood b. goode]

Op is such a fukking loser

 

[eastsideTT]

timelines are the worst. ive seen timelines birth so many uncared for / unwanted children and force so many people together that really have no business being together or in a relationship at all. people are funny like that though. they'll do anything to avoid being miserable... including making themselves miserable

OP what's the longest relationship you have ever been in with a girl?

 

[blackzeus]

Op is such a fukking loser

 

[mr.africa]

so many classic lines ,for wrong and right reasons, in that original post,god damn!!