Attractiveness and how we and other view ourselves

[Chelsea Bridge]

I follow the proximity rule. If your in my space often and arent that aquainted with me then you like me or have some interest on some level. Unless it's a group thing.

Hell I do it, women I don't find attractive I won't be in their space often or for long. Unless they are just cool people and we have rapport.

Ok that makes sense but me I could talk to a guy for hours and feel nothing for him without even realizing he's probably only talking to me to eventually get my number, lol.

 

[EightBall]

I've been wondering. In your opinion, are we more attractive than we think we are to others or less attractive than we think we are to others?


I can see both sides.

More attractive because you see your flaws and things you don't like, and also look at yourself the most and we're often our own worse critics.

Less attractive because some of us kind of have a way I think I look set in stone in my head. Body changes over time or again can be not in a good way. (Let's not use the arguement of IG and social media cuz even then a lot of those females really think they ugly but put up a facade to appear more confident with pics to get attention)

Beauty is subjective, breh.
Just because a few people think your unattractive doesn't mean you're unattractive to the whole world.

Everybody has their own tastes and standards of beauty. What matters is how you view yourself.
If you look in the mirror and find things you like about your face then subconsciously you will think that you're attractive regardless of what someone says. Finding yourself attractive also boosts your self esteem which also helps when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex.

 

[cyndaquil]

Too good for her?

No he shouldn't let rejection bother him regardless of the reasons for it.

idk why that sounded so G in my mind

 

[Music Fiend]

well like i always say. i wasn't a loser per say when i was fat, because i was a class clown. And the only reason i was funny/ acted like a fool was because i knew i was fat and ugly, and there would obviously be no way to get women. i wasn't a virgin, but i wasn't hitting anything "quality" i guess is the word before. the difference between being fat and in shape is like night an day. everyone treats you better. you yourself might be oblivious to it but you treat good looking people way better than you do fat/ugly people. and you might even realize that someone is attractive and intentionally try to treat them as you would someone unattractive because you don't want to come off as that kind of person, when in reality everyone is. i Can't sya i enjoyed being fat because i didn't it caused me a lot of pain and bad memories, however it did make it into the person i am today. it opened my eyes like a person on molly, to the way peple treat others in this world and i will not forget it. no matter how many peple tell you to get over it or " grow up" it will never go away. call it bitter or jaded i could careless.

I share a similar experience, went from chubby and short to a skinny 6 foot cat. I've put on weight since but I'm certainly not fat, no muscle either tho. Need to get back on it. It's amazing the difference. Being chubby almost makes you invisible. It's prolly also why i treat women the way I do

 

[Tim Dripcan]

yep, i'm ugly af. some girl even had the nerves to tell me I looked like an ugly version of Nas except my beauty mark is on the left side of my face instead of the right.

#Uglyteamstunnin

i don't even look like Nas.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Your a pretty woman, don't sell yourself short

Aww thank you

Same
I be like "what the hell does he want with me?"
Then I be like " I am attractive"
But most of the time it's "yep, I'm gross"
Like I know I'm not ugly but I still feel ugly

Lol exactly. It's like one minute we think we are so fine and then next thing you know we're wondering how we ever thought that.

 

[cyndaquil]

well like i always say. i wasn't a loser per say when i was fat, because i was a class clown. And the only reason i was funny/ acted like a fool was because i knew i was fat and ugly, and there would obviously be no way to get women. i wasn't a virgin, but i wasn't hitting anything "quality" i guess is the word before. the difference between being fat and in shape is like night an day. everyone treats you better. you yourself might be oblivious to it but you treat good looking people way better than you do fat/ugly people. and you might even realize that someone is attractive and intentionally try to treat them as you would someone unattractive because you don't want to come off as that kind of person, when in reality everyone is. i Can't sya i enjoyed being fat because i didn't it caused me a lot of pain and bad memories, however it did make it into the person i am today. it opened my eyes like a person on molly, to the way peple treat others in this world and i will not forget it. no matter how many peple tell you to get over it or " grow up" it will never go away. call it bitter or jaded i could careless.

So how did you come to the conclusion everything is in the face tho? If you changed your body?

 

[Music Fiend]

Beauty is subjective, breh.
Just because a few people think your unattractive doesn't mean you're unattractive to the whole world.

Everybody has their own tastes and standards of beauty. What matters is how you view yourself.
If you look in the mirror and find things you like about your face then subconsciously you will think that you're attractive regardless of what someone says. Finding yourself attractive also boosts your self esteem which also helps when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex.

True.

However regardless we all know what attractive is and isn't. It's pretty universal and a pattern. The edge comes in minor points based off preference. My homie might think a chick is gorgeous and I'll be in the cut like she's average or maybe a lil bit more.

I think around average, its mostly based on preference. Once you get into the 3s and under and 7+ range, it's damn near univeral you are attractive to just about everyone. I've never seen a dimepiece not be anyones type, just like I've never seen an ugly chick be called pretty.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

But last time I checked I'm 6" 4

 

[cyndaquil]

yep, i'm ugly af. some girl even had the nerves to tell me I looked like an ugly version of Nas except my beauty mark is on the left side of my face instead of the right.

#Uglytemstunnin

i don't even look like Nas.

should have ethered that bytch like Nas did Jay, that bytch was rude as fukk

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

6'4 not that tall to me

I kinda wish I was 6"8
I'd be in the L

 

[cyndaquil]

I kinda wish I was 6"8
I'd be in the L

If not you would take Ls from hitting door frames and food costs

 

[Houston911]

I'm inclined to think I feel I'm less attractive than what people think. I've had some pretty attractive guys hit on me and the first thought that pops in my head is "why is he talking to me?". I always think they could do better so I never give them a chance.

So maybe they're seeing something I'm not

They wanna smashing

 

[Music Fiend]

Ok that makes sense but me I could talk to a guy for hours and feel nothing for him without even realizing he's probably only talking to me to eventually get my number, lol.

You sound like you might be shy or naive. Either that or you breaking nikkas hearts left and right. If that's you in the avi I would

 

[BujuBoombastic]

Same
I be like "what the hell does he want with me?"
Then I be like " I am attractive"
But most of the time it's "yep, I'm gross"
Like I know I'm not ugly but I still feel ugly

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