Attractiveness and how we and other view ourselves

[MikelArteta]

I hate and depise seafood, doesn't matter if its some world renowned chef offering me a free meal of it thanks but no thanks. Should that world renowned seafood chef feel and because I find it ? nah

Hell give me a hamburger and fries over some delicacy seafood plate and I'll enjoy it more

and in the same way brehs and brehettes, not everyone will feel you or find you attractive. Who cares, the beauty of life you never know who will find you attractive, so why fret over the ones who don't

 

[thewiz]

Never tripped bout my appearance.. my problem has always been lookin like a young ass nikka

 

[Gully Bull]

Personally I never felt I was attractive enough to pull a girl off the strength of my looks


With that being said, I think there is a larger portion of the population that believes they aren't as attractive as people actually see them as because of the influx of top tier people being broadcasted eery where

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

because you have a vagina

:kony:

but nah you should never sell yourself low, ive had ugly hideous girls think im ugly, and ive had models think im the best thng since bread you NEVER know.

your good enough for anyone

At the first sentence but I agree with the rest.

 

[cyndaquil]

breh, she was with her friends. my heart was broken and i didn't have a comeback because my of feelings. the laughs breh...

different girls called me ugly before. breh there is no place for an ugly brother to shine in america.

i'm still living my life though.

You'll find you a dime one day breh

 

[Giselle]

I've been wondering. In your opinion, are we more attractive than we think we are to others or less attractive than we think we are to others?


I can see both sides.

More attractive because you see your flaws and things you don't like, and also look at yourself the most and we're often our own worse critics.

Less attractive because some of us kind of have a way I think I look set in stone in my head. Body changes over time or again can be not in a good way. (Let's not use the arguement of IG and social media cuz even then a lot of those females really think they ugly but put up a facade to appear more confident with pics to get attention)

People are both. It depends on the person. Some people are more confident and have a higher self esteem than others no matter what they look like.

 

[cyndaquil]

are you trolling? your face gets better as you lose weight. i didn't become swole or ripped my body was average. however i lost tons of fat on my face which opend up my cheeck bones, and my amazing jaw line. also my skin became less oily and my skin pigmentation evened out and became more clear.

good shyt mane. wish i could rep ya. always good to hear weight loss stories and how they effect people. Same, i actually used to treat women like pure trash when i first lost my weight. the sudden change in how they treated me caused me to have a great disdain for them. however iv'e come to a realization. why would i get mad at a woman for not wanting me when i was fat? I was a fat sack of shyt and filth. Why would or should they choose me over a more in shape healthier male? yea i was funny and kind... so what? they could find a funny, kind in shape better looking man. it's only natural to want the best you can. the only part i still hold on to is how they go about it. ya don't have to make a person feel like nothing and shun them like they have lupus or something.

Nah I wasn't trollin you just didn't address that part specifically

 

[Will Ross]

Lol I'm not ugly.

I know

 

[ben anderson]

People are both. It depends on the person. Some people are more confident and have a higher self esteem than others no matter what they look like.

you can have all the self esteem in the world and still be ugly. you are not getting with a quazimoto esque dude because he has confidence. period.

 

[PlainSight]

I've been wondering. In your opinion, are we more attractive than we think we are to others or less attractive than we think we are to others?


I can see both sides.

More attractive because you see your flaws and things you don't like, and also look at yourself the most and we're often our own worse critics.

Less attractive because some of us kind of have a way I think I look set in stone in my head. Body changes over time or again can be not in a good way. (Let's not use the arguement of IG and social media cuz even then a lot of those females really think they ugly but put up a facade to appear more confident with pics to get attention)

I can agree with this. I had severe issues with how I looked but wasn't even sure why or what I would want to change. I just thought I was ugly or unattractive and that girls didn't like me the way I liked girls. Then after a while I began to see myself a little bit in a better light - and also once I did that, I actually started to notice girls noticing me. Then I realized they were doing so the whole time

Sometimes how you see yourself has an effect on how other people see you.

 

[Killer Instinct]

I'm inclined to think I feel I'm less attractive than what people think. I've had some pretty attractive guys hit on me and the first thought that pops in my head is "why is he talking to me?". I always think they could do better so I never give them a chance.

So maybe they're seeing something I'm not

You know Im not on the natural hair wave
(

) but unless you were catfishing the coli in that other thread, you're not hard to look at at all.
If you didn't have an aversion to kitchens and patriarchal households, I'd holler too.

 

[Giselle]

you can have all the self esteem in the world and still be ugly. you are not getting with a quazimoto esque dude because he has confidence. period.

That wasn't the question though. This was.lol

I've been wondering. In your opinion, are we more attractive than we think we are to others or less attractive than we think we are to others?

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Pic vio

Lol no.

You know Im not on the natural hair wave
(

) but unless you were catfishing the coli in that other thread, you're not hard to look at at all.
If you didn't have an aversion to kitchens and patriarchal households, I'd holler too.

Oh really? Well this is a surprise.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Self esteem plays a major role in how attractive someone thinks they are. If someone feels good about the way they look and are naturally positive about themselves then they are going to think that they look good no matter what and deserve attention from the opposite sex. There are overweight people who think they look good and deserve attention from good looking people from the opposite gender when some of them clearly put little effort into their appearance.

There's also in shape people who put effort into their appearance yet are hard on themselves about the way they look. It's especially the case for women since there are good looking women who have nice features, but still don't see anything special about themselves and think they need to change stuff about the way they look. They can have 5 nice features about themselves, but feel completely down about their appearance because they're breasts aren't big enough for example.

 

[Music Fiend]

but wouldn't that make you treat women nicer?

Sure, I WANT to.

But women see it as weakness.

I advocate being firm and reasonable. Most women are unreasonable