You right bruh! I learned that the hard way. Next time ima buy for me and me only. You right about sex too. It fuks u up being dependent on another person. Now I do want to have kids so this situation put a hamper on this right now but hopefully one day I can find a woman to have and raise kids with.Don't feel too bad man, I been there myself.
Got into an abusive relationship that almost killed me because I needed to be with a "Black woman" to validate myself.
Learned that hard lesson and put the bytch in jail but still paid 18 long years for it.
Always....ALWAYS do what's best for you that doesn't require another person.
If you wanna buy a house, buy a house you can afford alone....FOR YOU!
If you wanna go on a cruise, go on a cruise...FOR YOU!!
Dependence on another person for ANYTHING is the first step towards slavery.
And that goes for sex too!
If ya girl wanna give it up that's good, if not, HANDle it yourself and cum on the back of her head while she sleepin.
Show her you want her...not NEED her.
Been with my girl for two years and she wants to live together
- Thread starter the cool
- Start date
talked about getting an apartment yesterday
I'm in a similar predicament. Where you trying to live?
Don't live downtown Dallas if you move in together.
Downtown Dallas is made for single people. Every couple who lives in the city, eventually shares that girl
You be up on the rooftop of the rooftop of the Mosaic watching dimes sit in the hottub sipping margaritas asking you "can you be my personal trainer???"
Action Mike
All praise..
At the end of the day nothing is guaranteed, and any talk If marriage should come from the Breh not her.
if the dude can't fully support himself (in case it goes to shyt) and her at the same time. It's a no.
If the dude is young, it's a no.
If the arrangement is partly because she struggling to even support herself as an adult, it's a no.
Brehettes in here are fully for moving because any fall out would 100% rest on the guy, it's a risk that should be thought very carefully.
It's not "just moving in"
Action Mike
All praise..
Noticed how few people are talking about capability but talking about "timeframes"
Should come from both people in the relationship.
And the talk should happen way before 2 years in.
Obviously if he isn't stable finacially then he shouldn't be I a 2 year relationship. He should be working to better himself.
Agreed.
If she can't support herself or isn't making significant moves to do so, then he should have left her 2 years ago.
Yes, and after 2 years OP should have already done a bunch of thinking.
Please quote these claims when you make them. I'm lost.You told me right now.
So which is it? Right now or Never?
I'm missin' the point.
OK, but I'm missin' your point. Are you assumin' we didn't come to these conclusions together?
I'm also confused.But just a second ago you said it wasn't about "right now"
I'm confused just talking to you
No question the chicks you delt with left making the same face. Sound like you don't know what the hell you want.
Let me try to clarify before I bail on this convo. I simply told these women I wan't interested in marriage. There was no right now. There was no never.
This was cool before you started throwin' insults. Enjoy!
Action Mike
All praise..
what did I say2 years this, 2 years that and not one question about to OP about her or their compatibility.Real life ain't a schedule of events, especially in relationships and anyone who's been in one knows when it happens when the dude is ready, it happens.
And even if you want to approach dude, at least let him know the benefits for him, then both of us of living together...
Not
"it's been 2 years, according to the relationship schedule were supposed move in....ring in the 4th quarter year 3 btw"
That woman is doing it for outsiders not us.
Say 2 years again..
I never insulted you. Not once.
There's is a huge difference between now and never when it comes to marriage.
Most young people aren't looking for marriage "right now"
But again most people wouldn't be in a 2 year monogamous relationship without at least talking about what's next.
From your posts in this thread seems like there is no "next" to you, only "spending time together" perpetually.
You tell a woman "I'm not ready for marriage" they are usualy cool with that. Marriage may be in the cards later if Yall are still together.
You tell a woman "I don't want to get married or move in with you EVER" then that's much more difficult to accept and most women will walk away from you right then and there.
Saying "I'm not looking for marriage" without the "now" or "never" is very misleading.
If they aren't compatible enough to at least try living together after 2 years of dating, then when/how will they find out if they are?
Telling someone "wait until I'm ready" isn't reasonable.
Which is why she is now asking him "what's next"
From the OP we don't have enough info to make this distinction one way or the other.
If you have not decided that you are or aren't compatible with a person after two years of exclusive dating, then you are just playing games at that point.Not
"it's been 2 years, according to the relationship schedule were supposed move in....ring in the 4th quarter year 3 btw"
That woman is doing it for outsiders not us.
Say 2 years again..
It's not about a strict timeline,'it's just common sense.
You said, "No question the chicks you delt with left making the same face. Sound like you don't know what the hell you want." That's an insult.
OK.
But I never used either phrase.
I won't claim to know what most poeple wouldn't do. Not sure how you do.
Your assumptions...
I wanted those relationships without marriage. I was with whatever came with those relationships accept marriage. As long as "next" didn't include marriage, cool.
I never had a woman tell me she felt mislead by me. But I understand you not understandin'. You seem to think everyone has to think like you. Some of us don't. And it's OK.
Ima just stop the back and forth.
You talking in circles right now.
Which is exactly why I said any chick you've been with, left confused as fukk about what you really want.
daboywonder2002
Superstar
Please do not move in with a female unless you're married. If i had to do it all over again, i wouldnt dare. Most men do it because we want the in house sex and the home cooked meals. IT'S NOT WORTH IT. It's not worth losing friends and not working on yourself. Only your wife is worth that. Work on you, follow your goals and dreams, cook your own meals, and make sure any woman you mess with is about their goals too. Plus when u live with your girlfriend,, it's easier to walk away when things go sour. When you're married you got more to lose. So you aren't gonna leave at the first, second sign of trouble.
I'm surprised so many people are saying to do it. This isn't some lighthearted decision and there's no rush. He shouldn't do it unless he wants to do it. Simple as that.
So many people look at marriage as being the end goal of every relationship but I feel like that just puts unnecessary pressure on one or both partners.
I'm sure people will disagree but wouldn't it be better to just enjoy getting to know someone and being intimate with them without having this ultimate end goal that many people obviously aren't prepared for?
So many people look at marriage as being the end goal of every relationship but I feel like that just puts unnecessary pressure on one or both partners.
I'm sure people will disagree but wouldn't it be better to just enjoy getting to know someone and being intimate with them without having this ultimate end goal that many people obviously aren't prepared for?
Action Mike
All praise..
Why should I move in with my girl of 2 years, other than the fact we've been together for two years?
What are the tangibles of living of with your partner. Serious question.
Reginald Noble
Banned
2 years probably enough for a foreign Woman but not American Woman. I would say double the time unless you've also been friends before or have known OF her for longer than 2 years.
Exes stay out of the picture just about 2 years before they start coming up again begging and shyt - So it's about that time when another nikka can pop up into the situation and make himself known once again. I'd say give it at least 3 to sniff out what baggage she can be hiding (if any).
Exes stay out of the picture just about 2 years before they start coming up again begging and shyt - So it's about that time when another nikka can pop up into the situation and make himself known once again. I'd say give it at least 3 to sniff out what baggage she can be hiding (if any).