Been with my girl for two years and she wants to live together

[NaijaProdigy Redux]

Goodbye to any semblance of privacy breh

 

[the kid]

You could do her like my man did me when I pressed the issue yrs ago.

He started talking about not wanting to just shack up because he knew i was the one and to give him a little time to get finances in order (he was already at 75k at that point) so he could have me living like Im supposed to. I was so impressed and happy then he told me yrs later he was just buying time lol.

Savage

 

[Strapped]

do it

 

[Arc]

talked about getting an apartment yesterday

Don't do it. Once that nest is built the bird will never leave.

 

[stealthbomber]

you're always free to walk out once it gets boring

 

[Yagirlcheatinonus]

Get used to having the smallest closet

 

[Dolla$]

Get used to having the smallest closet

Lol

 

[KinksandCoils]

These types of statements always mystify me. Are all extended datin' scenarios supposed to end in marriage / livin' together? Folks can't just enjoy spendin' time together?

In this scenario, sure, one party wants more & is startin' to push. So things need to be thought about and decisions made. But I never understood the time = more stance.

i'm in the same boat. Been with my girl going on 2 years and she wants to move in with me. I still value my personal space and freedom and moving in with her will change that.

Date with the intentions of marriage not to waste each other's time is how I feel. If you don't want a future with me why are we even dealing with each other? After 2 yrs u should be at least willing to live with someone even if Yall don't .

 

[360dagod]

good luck

Some relationships actually work better when both parties have space...

Every dynamic is different...

 

[Neuromancer]

How does she carry herself with her living situation?

Is her place clean and tidy?
Her bills paid righteously on time?
Does she have habits that would conflict with yours if you were around her more?
Etc, etc..

Some folks just move into together sometimes impulsively without putting each other to a litmus test.

I did this. It didn't turn out well. Think about how compatible you two are and if the above are addressed.

 

[Neuromancer]

Date with the intentions of marriage not to waste each other's time is how I feel. If you don't want a future with me why are we even dealing with each other? After 2 yrs u should be at least willing to live with someone even if Yall don't .

How long have you been married?

 

[MeachTheMonster]

To enjoy whatever it is 2 people have in the confines of a monogamous relationship.

Some folks don't want/need the state's acknowledgement. Some enjoy the space. Some enjoy the looser committment.

Some folks have already been married, had kids and don't require buildin' a life with someone.

We're all different people with different experiences & expectations. It's OK.

You want to enjoy the benefits of a relationship without any of the sacrifices. Good luck finding a mate that would be down for that

 

[GetInTheTruck]

You know your girl better than anybody here. Use your own judgement, for better or worse.

 

[360dagod]

You want to enjoy the benefits of a relationship without any of the sacrifices. Good luck finding a mate that would be down for that

Upcoming generations are pushing the boundaries and trying new dynamics in terms of how traditional relationships go about..I think its brilliant in some ways

Some people like to operate without these "ideals" that are pushed as something we have to do..

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Upcoming generations are pushing the boundaries and trying new dynamics in terms of how traditional relationships go about..I think its brilliant in some ways

Some people like to operate without these "ideals" that are pushed as something we have to do..

It's not about an ideal.

If you are exclusively giving yourself to someone, the assumption is they have plans to give it back.

The idea that you could convince someone to stay single for their entire life, while allowing you to come smash when you want, is asinine.

Like I said, if Yall can find someone that'll do it, good for you, but I don't know of any woman that would willingly sign up for that.