Been with my girl for two years and she wants to live together
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Yeah I fuked up. It takes time to sell a house but I shouldn't have allowed it. I just was ready to get married and didn't wanna be alone.
That may be best too depending on the people in the relationship. U do get to know a person more when u live with them.I feel like you should only live with a chick if yall like engaged or something
No, I said, "Folks can't just enjoy spendin' time together?" I was speakin' in general tems... more an assumption regardin' the OP than anything.
I wanted relationships without someone pressurin' me to get married before I was ready.
Various reasons. Growin' apart. Not wantin' to be in a relationship any more. Movin'. Etc. Almost never because I didn't want to live with them, or get married, or whatever you mean by moving forward.
Nope. I was with everything that comes with a monogamous relationship. I just didn't want to get married. I told them that. How is that misleadin'?
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You keep changing your story.
There's a HUGE gulf between "not wanting to get married before you are ready" and "just spending time together"
All of that equates to "we didn't want to make the commitment"
Because your goal was never to have anything more than "spending time together"
Unless you told them up front that the relationship would NEVER go anywhere beyond that, then they were mislead.
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Don't feel too bad man, I been there myself.
Got into an abusive relationship that almost killed me because I needed to be with a "Black woman" to validate myself.
Learned that hard lesson and put the bytch in jail but still paid 18 long years for it.
Always....ALWAYS do what's best for you that doesn't require another person.
If you wanna buy a house, buy a house you can afford alone....FOR YOU!
If you wanna go on a cruise, go on a cruise...FOR YOU!!
Dependence on another person for ANYTHING is the first step towards slavery.
And that goes for sex too!
If ya girl wanna give it up that's good, if not, HANDle it yourself and cum on the back of her head while she sleepin.
Show her you want her...not NEED her.
I didn't change anything. My 1st post was a general response to you and the direction of the thread. I answered personal questions after. Point out where I changed.
For you, sure. For me, we ended a committment. It happens, whether you're lookin' for marriage or not.
Go beyond what? Time?
I say I wanted more than their time, you insist that's all I wanted. Tough convo. I may have to let you continue without me.
You said "some people just want to spend time together"
Then you said "I'm not ready to get married RIGHT NOW"
Huge difference.
It's not about me.
When you are truly committed a move in location means "what do WE do about this"
Not just
"I'm moving lets break up"
Not moving away without considering what that means for the other person
Again, that's not what you said at first.
Seems like you are just against marriage. Which wasn't even the original point of contention. That's a whole different convo.
Dolla$
Minus the bullsh*t...life's great
I had a similar situation with my ex where the agreement was I pay the rent and she just take care of groceries. Shorty would go out and spend mad money on shopping but the fridge would be empty as fukk, needless to say we argued all the fukking time.
MouseTeeth
All Star
i just got out of a 5 year relationship where we played house....
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I missin' the point, but yes, big difference.
And I didn't tell them "right now".
That's what YOU do. That's what it means to YOU. We chose to break up. We weren't interested in a long term relationship at that time.
I considered it. It just didn't stop me.Not moving away without considering what that means for the other person
We've gone over what I've said several times. I've explained, yet you insist.
I'm not against marriage at all. I wasn't interested in it at a point in my life. No, it's not the point, nor did I say it was. Yes, it is a different convo.
Damn so u had to buy food too???
What's wrong with some of these broads? Do they not know how lucky they are? To have an arrangement like that...she a fool to fuk that up. She could buy food drinks and cook for u and STILL have money to shop, have fun and cover for unplanned shyt. Some people just don't appreciate and realize a good thing when they have it.
Action Mike
All praise..
Yall been together for two years already.
What are you waiting for?
Don't do it breh
Unless your marrying that girl
Do not do it
You told me right now.
So which is it? Right now or Never?
It's not about what I do
This thread is about a long term relationship.
Being committed to a person means more than just you.
But just a second ago you said it wasn't about "right now"
I'm confused just talking to you
No question the chicks you delt with left making the same face. Sound like you don't know what the hell you want.
If you aren't planing on at least testing out marriage after 2 years, then what the hell are you still together for?
Don't do it breh
Unless your marrying that girl
Do not do it