I’m 29 right now but a lot of my college friends have kids already ( notice I didn’t say married). It is what it is.
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Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.
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I’m 29 right now but a lot of my college friends have kids already ( notice I didn’t say married). It is what it is.
You Win Perfect
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Most people fukk their life up before 30. (kids, no career, no ownership). I definitely feel you on this. My few closest friends are tied down; have a kid, no career, struggling. All before 30. I'm the only one that is doing the opposite and no one is able to do anything extracurricular besides sit around the crib. The one friend that was on the same path I am moved like 6 states away because of a better job. We always use to hang out.
raoulduke187
All Star
we out here grindin brehs
just a bunch of go gettas livin life by they own terms
ain't nobody gon hold us down
we came for dat monee and all the slutty hoes, roll with us or get rolled over, WE THE BEST
DJ KHALED THIS THE MOVEMENT WE ARE THE STREETS
just a bunch of go gettas livin life by they own terms
ain't nobody gon hold us down
we came for dat monee and all the slutty hoes, roll with us or get rolled over, WE THE BEST
DJ KHALED THIS THE MOVEMENT WE ARE THE STREETS
kenreid0726eabos
All Star
I am 22 almost 23 years old never had a job in my life. OP we all start somewhere. Comparasion is the theft of joy. Everybody works at their different pace in Life. Comparing yourself to other people is not good
Society says you "should" be married by 30. Who cares what society says 
I'll trade you places...
word, married with a son and we went to Cuba and Costa Rica last year. Belize/Guatemala in two weeks and Tokyo in march. Puerto Rico in June.
Plus last summer we went to dallas/tulsa/detroit/baton rouge and new orleans/cincinnati/charleston
h2o_proof
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Wow so crazy this thread popped up as this was on my mind because of an estranged friend who's really going through it.
I'm 36, married with 4 kids. I started to notice around the age of 30 that many of my friends and people I grew up with who weren't in relationships and/or didn't have kids were battling some form of depression. Some admitted it, others haven't but it's pretty obvious. You can tell when the seasons change, Spring and Summer they're typically happier and more outgoing, Fall and Winter they become reclusive. There's something to it. Also I think at times they realize how stuck in their ways they've become and it scares them because they know its gonna be super hard to find someone to meet the lofty expectations they've now set. That's the crazy thing, the older you get, the longer and more unrealistic your checklist becomes
I've got one homeboy that's super neat and organized, always in the gym always keeping his mind occupied but he admitted to me that if he didn't do things in a structured way, he'd go crazy thinking about how unfulfilled his life was. I asked him to help me understand what he meant because he's super successful, has multiple degrees and is well liked. But he almost brought a tear to my eye when he told me he'd give all that up for what I have. This was a couple years ago. He's been in a good stable relationship for the last 12 months and I've seen dramatic changes, he speaks more in future tense now, it's refreshing and I'm happy for him.
I've got another homeboy that was the man in high school, star basketball player, ladies man, had all the fly gear. I was more the nerdy type, but we clicked and had a bond because of music. Our lives have gone in completely different directions and for 4 years straight, he'd be a recluse come August/September. Wouldn't answer phone calls, you'd go by his crib and he wouldn't even open the door. Come March/April he'd be back in action like nothing happened. It started to get weird, I called him out on it, offered to help with whatever he was going through but it became too much and we just cut ties. My wife has been trying to get me to reach back out to him after finding out he was battling depression. I'm on the fence but this thread made me think about him.
I got another homeboy who's a year younger but his maturity level is about 10 years younger and I've always tried to offer him advice and words of wisdom cuz I saw what was coming down the line for him, I've seen this before! He's the epitome of that Nas song '2nd Childhood', he dress like a teenager, very immature but tries to put on a front like he's got it together. He don't be trying to hear me though and so I try not to judge and we just kick it. He's extremely #HOH though, always talking down on women, or telling them what type of man they should look for, he's really bad on Twitter. A lot of what he's doing is projecting, and crying out cuz what he really wants to say is "why don't ya'll like me? why ya'll keep choosing the bad boys? look at me, I'm a good guy, I'll treat you right" but it comes out sounding really abusive so it's super counterproductive, lol. It's to the point where I don't even offer advice no more, but it's definitely straining the relationship cuz we not being 100 with each other no more, me out of fear of being judgmental, and him cuz he ain't trying to hear it.
Another homeboy we got close through work and have been tight for the last 10 years or so. He readily admits that he wants a family and kids and he seeks my advice on things, but he really too far gone. He make good money, he single, got several investment properties, drive a nice foreign automobile, and he's a musician on the side, so he enjoy the perks of life. At the same time, that doesn't fulfill him. Thing is, cat is super messy, house junkie, shyt everywhere, clothes, old plates of food, it's like an early stage hoarder type situation. I keep holding out that that one special chick is gonna come along and motivate him to get his shyt together, but he older than me! We still super cool and I want nothing but the best for him, but I'm afraid we gonna find him in the crib in a real bad way one day
All in all, what I've found is that there are days or sometimes even hours out of the day where I might want to be my single friends, but there are months, seasons and even years where I don't. This was a lot to get off my chest and super specific to the point I hope I don't blow my cover, but thanks OP @Stuntone
I'm 36, married with 4 kids. I started to notice around the age of 30 that many of my friends and people I grew up with who weren't in relationships and/or didn't have kids were battling some form of depression. Some admitted it, others haven't but it's pretty obvious. You can tell when the seasons change, Spring and Summer they're typically happier and more outgoing, Fall and Winter they become reclusive. There's something to it. Also I think at times they realize how stuck in their ways they've become and it scares them because they know its gonna be super hard to find someone to meet the lofty expectations they've now set. That's the crazy thing, the older you get, the longer and more unrealistic your checklist becomes
I've got one homeboy that's super neat and organized, always in the gym always keeping his mind occupied but he admitted to me that if he didn't do things in a structured way, he'd go crazy thinking about how unfulfilled his life was. I asked him to help me understand what he meant because he's super successful, has multiple degrees and is well liked. But he almost brought a tear to my eye when he told me he'd give all that up for what I have. This was a couple years ago. He's been in a good stable relationship for the last 12 months and I've seen dramatic changes, he speaks more in future tense now, it's refreshing and I'm happy for him.
I've got another homeboy that was the man in high school, star basketball player, ladies man, had all the fly gear. I was more the nerdy type, but we clicked and had a bond because of music. Our lives have gone in completely different directions and for 4 years straight, he'd be a recluse come August/September. Wouldn't answer phone calls, you'd go by his crib and he wouldn't even open the door. Come March/April he'd be back in action like nothing happened. It started to get weird, I called him out on it, offered to help with whatever he was going through but it became too much and we just cut ties. My wife has been trying to get me to reach back out to him after finding out he was battling depression. I'm on the fence but this thread made me think about him.
I got another homeboy who's a year younger but his maturity level is about 10 years younger and I've always tried to offer him advice and words of wisdom cuz I saw what was coming down the line for him, I've seen this before! He's the epitome of that Nas song '2nd Childhood', he dress like a teenager, very immature but tries to put on a front like he's got it together. He don't be trying to hear me though and so I try not to judge and we just kick it. He's extremely #HOH though, always talking down on women, or telling them what type of man they should look for, he's really bad on Twitter. A lot of what he's doing is projecting, and crying out cuz what he really wants to say is "why don't ya'll like me? why ya'll keep choosing the bad boys? look at me, I'm a good guy, I'll treat you right" but it comes out sounding really abusive so it's super counterproductive, lol. It's to the point where I don't even offer advice no more, but it's definitely straining the relationship cuz we not being 100 with each other no more, me out of fear of being judgmental, and him cuz he ain't trying to hear it.
Another homeboy we got close through work and have been tight for the last 10 years or so. He readily admits that he wants a family and kids and he seeks my advice on things, but he really too far gone. He make good money, he single, got several investment properties, drive a nice foreign automobile, and he's a musician on the side, so he enjoy the perks of life. At the same time, that doesn't fulfill him. Thing is, cat is super messy, house junkie, shyt everywhere, clothes, old plates of food, it's like an early stage hoarder type situation. I keep holding out that that one special chick is gonna come along and motivate him to get his shyt together, but he older than me! We still super cool and I want nothing but the best for him, but I'm afraid we gonna find him in the crib in a real bad way one day
All in all, what I've found is that there are days or sometimes even hours out of the day where I might want to be my single friends, but there are months, seasons and even years where I don't. This was a lot to get off my chest and super specific to the point I hope I don't blow my cover, but thanks OP @Stuntone
WaveMolecules
Superstar
I'm 31 and I live in NYC and even here it's crazy how social circles change. People get married have kids and move into different circles. It's cool and all but as a single guy wit no kids it feels weird not sharing my life with as many like minded individuals as before. Still I feel like marriage and having kids are traits of adulthood that are becoming pasé. Not as many of my friends are married with kids as I would've thought by now.
Matter of facts I got 10 cousins on my father's Side, all of whom are above 27 and only 1 of us has kids. The rest don't have kids nor are they married.
I love the freedom though don't get me wrong. Friends with kids need the stars to align to do shyt I do whenever I want
Matter of facts I got 10 cousins on my father's Side, all of whom are above 27 and only 1 of us has kids. The rest don't have kids nor are they married.
I love the freedom though don't get me wrong. Friends with kids need the stars to align to do shyt I do whenever I want
Poetical Poltergeist
Precise and cold hearted
Kids complicate everything. You love them to death but they totally change your life dead in it's tracks.
ill_will82
What you see, is what you get
Yeah it does put you in a strange place. I'm 35 & an introvert. Single w/no kids. I'm at the point now where I don't want kids (never was a kid person) and trying to find the right woman well...
I just have to put my life into serious perspective as into where I'm going. As far as dealing with ppl goes loyalty is hard to find.
I just have to put my life into serious perspective as into where I'm going. As far as dealing with ppl goes loyalty is hard to find.
h2o_proof
Thread Closed...As Usual
I hear ya but me and my wife have mastered this. Birthday parties and stuff be out of control, everybody show up cuz they know it's gonna turn into a night cap with drinks and whatnot, lol. It's easier once the kids get older, plus I have teenage nieces and nephews. The couples can be outside on the deck by the firepit enjoying a libation or two and shooting the breeze while the kids inside on the Xbox. There's balance, that's whats so incredible about being grown and having kids.
we arent, really
i dont think any other animals do that shyt. maybe a few
samtalksradio
Banned
Man fukk having kids, Ion even like to take care of my relatives kids. plus most people who have kids early in life are Miserable af because most of them didn't want them to begin with or wasn't ready to take care of em. not to mention the child support that I have to hear about every time I hang with a nikka.... like damn cuz why you telling me about your child support I ain't the one that got to pay it.
getting married is overrated in a Cac thing. people these days don't even stay married long anyways and there's too much p*ssy out there to be tied down to one bytch only if you're
should you get married but other then that
nah I'll stay unmarried and kid free until I'm. than my old ass would've save up enough money to take care of a kid.
getting married is overrated in a Cac thing. people these days don't even stay married long anyways and there's too much p*ssy out there to be tied down to one bytch only if you're should you get married but other then that nah I'll stay unmarried and kid free until I'm. than my old ass would've save up enough money to take care of a kid.
xXOGLEGENDXx
Veteran
Seriously what is wrong with y'all? Do y'all live in the real world at all? 