Being in your 30s with no kids and not being married puts you in a strange place.

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I mean, that's a selfish way to look at it.

Problem is, it seems like folks is content with trying to live their 20s forever.

At some point, IMO you're supposed to find a mate, create a stable union and family structure to raise children in, then raise them within the culture, traditions, and value set agreed upon by you and your mate, with the hopes of y'all together nurturing them into responsible, disciplined, stable, productive, family oriented adults, that will carry on your family name with honor, when you and your mate are no longer able to.

As someone that's been married for 13 years, with 5 children, marriage and fatherhood have been far from a walk in the park, but that's not what I got into it for in the first place.

I knew giving up a piece of myself, and dealing with the growing pains of my wife also giving up a piece of herself, for us to jointly create this family would be anything but easy, and I welcomed the challenge head on.

Looking back, I wouldn't change a damn thing.

Being a husband and father gives you a sense of focus and purpose that you will not find as a single man.

You can fool yourself into thinking that your career, toys, and social status are enough, but you will eventually find yourself looking back at all your accomplishments and conquests with an empty feeling, because that's ultimately not what you're here for.

You're here to share your life experiences with a mate, spread your wisdom to your seeds, and raise them with the tools necessary to keep this muthafukka going.

100 pure bullchit. No, Thats your your purpose in life. Every other man will go his own way and if it means kids and wife then so be it. But dont try to shame these brehs into doing something they dont want to do. People like you are what is wrong with humanity in general. All that projection makes you pathetic. If you were truly happy then you would live and let live instead of trying to shame someone into your way of thinking
 

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The annual pat yourself on the back because you married with no kids circle jerk. Like damn, I don’t have any kids or a wife either but this topic gets made every two weeks:hhh: Majority of the people on this board ain’t got a wife or kids.
 

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I’m 27 with all that. My only fear is being a stepdad :mjcry:

At only 27? Nah, to be honest the biggest change dating from late 20s on is if you want to find someone without kids you need to steer towards educated girls with a career. They typically wait for marriage.
 

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What I always find interesting is when brehs are single, 30s, no kids, they not only brag about "the great life" they also find time to shyt on brehs that did get married and have the family. There are positive and negatives to both situations and trust the married brehs know the negatives of being in your 30s and single and no kids, we all have friends that are there and we can see it, that depression is real and mostly comes from just not have enough people that are in the same situation they are in. The prime time for any man when it comes to interacting with women is in his 20s, period, broke or well off, and its purely because of the social circle that exists when you are in your 20s, brehs gonna really try to prove to me that being 35 and single hollaring at women is better than doing it 25?? stop it. Live your life, make the most of it, but no reason to shyt on married brehs with a family.
 

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Big cities are definitely a lot better.

I disagree. Before I got married I lived in a smaller city for most of my late 20s/early 30s. Small cities are cool because:

1) You have a cheaper cost of living and can stack money/get out of debt. I had one of the best 2BR apartments in town for a little over $1k/month
2) Everyone who lives in a big city (NYC, DC, etc.) still basically works like a dog all week, pays a lot of cost of living, and still only party on the weekends. With the money I was saving I could afford to fly to NYC, DC, Toronto, or anywhere else to party all weekend. I seriously would do the same shyt in DC or NYC my friends who lived there did and go back Sunday night. Best of both worlds.
3) Yeah the women pool (especially Black women) is worse if you aren't in the South in small towns but unless you are out West, there are a lot of nearby cities you can find people at

As a (happily) married breh, I will be the first to say don't rush it. Women are staying single later too. Unless you get it all out of your system (partying, girls, travel/wanderlust, etc.) you will be a grumbling trapped dad like others. Thankfully I am not but I had fun before I settled down.

The only thing you have to think about is if you want kids and marry someone your age, they are going to want seed IMMEDIATELY if you get married from mid-30s on due to their clock and biological issues.
 

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What I always find interesting is when brehs are single, 30s, no kids, they not only brag about "the great life" they also find time to shyt on brehs that did get married and have the family. There are positive and negatives to both situations and trust the married brehs know the negatives of being in your 30s and single and no kids, we all have friends that are there and we can see it, that depression is real and mostly comes from just not have enough people that are in the same situation they are in. The prime time for any man when it comes to interacting with women is in his 20s, period, broke or well off, and its purely because of the social circle that exists when you are in your 20s, brehs gonna really try to prove to me that being 35 and single hollaring at women is better than doing it 25?? stop it. Live your life, make the most of it, but no reason to shyt on married brehs with a family.

I don't rush dudes to get married, but honestly, I am pushing 40 and most of my friends still single are kinda depressed at this point...
 

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People like you are what is wrong with humanity in general.

:russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ::russ:

People like me keeps civilization going, while selfish, dipshyt nikkas like you continue to pollute the planet with nothingness for the 65 years you will spend on this planet, doing nothing but sucking life and resources from the planet, dragging your knuckles along the Earth, and leaving absolutely nothing of value for the folks that come after you.
 

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brehs gonna really try to prove to me that being 35 and single hollaring at women is better than doing it 25?? stop it.

35 I dunno, but 30? Yeah, it was. At 30 the bad bytches have not yet completely fallen off, and that's enough time for you to have graduated and settled into your career. In terms of cashflow, it was the start of good times. If you are single, good looking and have your career right, 30 and single makes 20's look ridiculous.

How quickly y'all forget all them hoes you were watching when you were 22 that were fukking them old nikkas.... them "old" nikkas was 30, unmarried and getting prime ass. lol
 

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A lot of people have kids in their 20’s - 30’s.
Some people mature faster than others.
I’ve heard a lot of people who had kids late in life wish they had their children younger so they would have the physical ability to keep up with them.
You can’t put everyone in the same box when it comes to maturity. I’ve seen older parents who were terrible maturity wise.

Yeah I'll bet most people who have kids in their early 20s are the kind of people that don't mature much past age 25 :huhldup:
 

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I mean, when you're 35 with your first child... you'll be 40 when they start Kindergarden, you'll be 50+ when they're in HS
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I'm just saying, if you're content at 25 with who you're having a kid with, why not? What's wrong with being a younger responsible parent?

I had my first at 31 and I think about this shyt all the time.
Nothing wrong with being a younger responsible parent.
The issue is most people who are younger are neither responsible, nor are they at the point in their careers where they make a suitable amount of money to not handicap their child.
 

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:russ: at cats asking their wives for permission to go out with the boys."Hey honey can I go out with Ray and the homies tonight be back at 10 to tuck little peanut head in for bed"

They'll tell you it's diff
But it ain't
my friend has a fam with 2 kids. His vacations every year are legoland and Disneyland. And his wife has to approve things he buys. Like a PS4. Or a new bike. :flabbynsick:

It's the same with every married dude at work. One guy said his wife won't "let" him watch Star Wars until it's on DVD :wow:
Another one had to ask for permission to stay out for some work happy hour

bbbbbbbut it's the most amazing thing you can ever do. :mjlol:
 
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