I feel where you coming from and I agree. The problem is that they expect me to play clean up man for the guy that they chose wrong in their 20's. I can't blame them either for acting like that, but don't expect me to be that dude to offer my commitment on a plate, when she turned down decent dudes like myself and others when she was in her 20's. It aint my problem that you chose incorrectly.
It's better to just find a mid 20's woman who recognizes real and chooses you from jump.