Black Girl Lawst....Help!!!

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@PeridotPuss you are very good at projecting outwards and giving advice to others. You need to take time to look inwards.

You are constantly labeling and limiting yourself. Have you given up hope? Do you believe you can change?

It all starts with yourself. One of the first steps I hear to start dating yourself, loving yourself. Developing a positive self-image. You are more than your past. You are more than your sexual experiences. You change the course of your future with just one first step.

Change your thoughts, change your life. If you don't believe anyone can be good to you, be good to yourself. That's the first step. Know what you deserve.

You are worthy of love and happiness. You are not a victim. You are strong enough to overcome whatever comes your way.

Once you believe that and know your worth you won't accept or settle for anything less than you deserve.
 

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Although I always joke @Chill was that. A genuinely good guy that actually opened my eyes to the fact that all y'all ain't shyt.

Time on your own is always healing, but that time alone should be based on self reflection and being the best version of you so that when you meet that guy you're not a mess. You are ready. I don't think it's fair to those out there actually looking for something meaningful to deal with damaged folk that refuse to change. You have to deal with that part of you first. You have to be willing to change first though.

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respect is earned,....not demanded.
you can't demand respect,..you earn it.
over time with a party who knows the time parameters and social construct it takes to build respect.

loyalty, and monogamy is a demand of a committed relationship.
if they don't exist you do not have a commtted relationship.



art barr
The demand of respect is in DIRECT regard to the relationship and household in the lane of said loyalty coming with monogamy.

That same demand for loyalty is coming from the sum total of respect for the relationship.


We are speaking on females being cheaters, infidelity is socially frowned upon and lacks virtue, so

I feel it goes without saying..its to be expected in a committed relationship

you shouldnt have to tell somebody "Dont cheat :usure:"

I mean do you actually exclaim "I demand no cheating!"
 

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The demand of respect is in DIRECT regard to the relationship and household in the lane of said loyalty coming with monogamy.

That same demand for loyalty is coming from the sum total of respect for the relationship.


We are speaking on females being cheaters, infidelity is socially frowned upon and lacks virtue, so

I feel it goes without saying..its to be expected in a committed relationship

you shouldnt have to tell somebody "Dont cheat :usure:"

I mean do you actually exclaim "I demand no cheating!"


if you don't say you demand no one cheats on you.
they never know where you stand on cheating and with me it is immediate redflag it is over with no exceptions.
so, yeah,....i do tell that particular female person before hand.
that if you don't want to be in a committed relationship.
just say when you want to discontinue being in a committed relationship.
all because you can create an open relationship or end it.
if you feel you don't want to be committed any longer.
which means, i don't allow cheating and i demand loyalty, and a full committment.
to being monogamous to me while being in committals.

what you are talembout is allowing someone to see if they can cuckold you, and i don't allow that shyt at all.
a committed relationship demands loyalty and monogamy and it is no way around it.


art barr
 

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The demand of respect is in DIRECT regard to the relationship and household in the lane of said loyalty coming with monogamy.

That same demand for loyalty is coming from the sum total of respect for the relationship.


We are speaking on females being cheaters, infidelity is socially frowned upon and lacks virtue, so

I feel it goes without saying..its to be expected in a committed relationship

you shouldnt have to tell somebody "Dont cheat :usure:"

I mean do you actually exclaim "I demand no cheating!"


You have to say, I don't allow cheating.
Maybe you don't but you do have to say so.
You have to verbalize a great commitment based relationship and that is part of it.
Maybe the verbiage is not as harsh as you are saying it with no malleability.
Yet, and still you have to be adamant about loyalty and the subject of cheating never existing in your committal based relationship.


Art Barr
 

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I can't rep you anymore breh chill :francis:

all these quality posts and shyt

cmon man

:francis:


You are who you create.
So, get to creating, you.
There is no such thing as soul searching.
You are either going to commit to being a good faith forthright based person.
Or, be sent off thinking and waste your time talking about finding yourself.

Art Barr

You are who you create, period.
 
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