Black man explains why the dating scene is messed up

[Soldier]

Flip side men are going to shoot for hot women regardless of whether she's a loser, broke, etc or not. They'll also shoot at average women, and may even shoot at a chubby chick. Again, regardless of whether she's successful, broke, etc. So when you're the average, unsuccessful, moderately handsome, 5'10 dude you're gonna get rejected. A lot. And instead of better themselves these guys complain about women having...standards.

A loooot of shyt would cease if dudes operated like women and upped their standards. If men stopped entertaining single mothers, broke women, women with obvious emotional problems, etc.

Men innate and natural high sexual drive will make this an impossibility. If men had the low sexual drive of women we would be as picky and demanding. We would have high standards for women too.

And women would take any breh if they had men’s sexual hunger.


Vast majority of men Operating from a place of Scarcity+high sexual drive+Being desperate = low standard simps.

Women don’t have the same urgency to have sex. Not even close. So women especially the most beautiful ones, can afford to sit back, wait and be as picky as they desire. Men can impregnate plenty of women because we can produce sperm anytime. We can have kids at any age. Women can’t have kids after 40 or so. Women have a very limited number of eggs/ovaries, and the quality of their ovaries degrade with time/age. So it is in their best interest to be picky and mate with the best man (money, height, looks, power, health)they can get.

 

[L@CaT]

Women today want the Power of Men, The Benefits of being a Woman, and the responsibility of Neither.

Dating is harder because Women today see themselves fully equal as Men on an Econmomic, Political, and Domestic scale. It wasn’t always like that due to women being subjugated to sexist laws in the past. But now that everything is perceived as being more “equal” The Balance of power in relationships has shifted to point a lot of girls are keeping the ball on their side of court after 1st sex encounters and keeping the ball on their court.

In a traditional courtship a Woman almost always starts with the ball in her court (The Power) because the man is pursuing her with the objective of having sex with her as soon as possible. Once sex happens the power balance would typically shift to the man because 1. We got a girls most prized asset her Vajayjay 2. As males we typically have more money and resources, and have the ability to provide for her and she does not. Thus her reason to stay with me and start a family become exponentially more likely.

Now what’s happening is because Woman are often out earning Men coupled with feminist ideology, Woman are no longer giving their power away after first sex encounters. Most men today are ok with allowing Women to have more Power over them in the relationship which unfortunately has destroyed traditional relationships.

Whether a Man has more Power in the relationship or not is irrelevant . A man has to just “perceive” he is leading the relationship. A good intelligent woman will find a way to make sure she finds a way to make her man feel like he’s leading, whether it’s true or not. Or at the very least inspire him to grow into the leader he needs to become.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Is he right or is he just another bitter/grumpy soul?

Won’t say he’s bitter but he’s probably touched on and thought about this so much that you hear the angst in his voice.

With that said, he’s right.

 

[#1 pick]

Thought that was Kanye in the thumbnail.

I thought that was Ye too

 

[YouMadd?]

Dating isnt hard though.....

 

[Piff Perkins]

Men innate and natural high sexual drive will make this an impossibility. If men had the low sexual drive of women we would be as picky and demanding. We would have high standards for women too.

And women would take any breh if they had men’s sexual hunger.


Operating from a place of Scarcity+high sexual drive+Being desperate = low standard simps.

Women don’t have the urgency to have sex.

I'm talking about dating, not sex and hook ups (which women participate in at a high level too). A lot of men don't take dating seriously, aren't particularly attractive to women overall, then react negatively to standards and end up bitter. To make matters worse, many don't even meet the reduced standards of women who eventually realize they aren't dimes with the best options. I'm talking about guys who are tall, decent money, moderately attractive but can't put a coherent sentence together and are socially retarded.

But I do agree on men in the sense that they blend dating and sex together more than women. At the same time, the most successful men easily separate these things. They understand who they want to date and who they want to fukk. They also have standards for both.

 

[Reality]

He starts out by saying that social media has women thinking they have something they don't so they're pairing with men that have lots of options, men that will exercise their options.

"The more money you have as a man, the less you have to spend"

He then goes on to say that women are chasing men that have no backbones or opinions and that women want nothing to do with men that have their own money.



It's incredible how this stuff gets spin when on a scale of 1 to Andrew Tate, it registers at a 2.5 a best.

It's alllllmost like he's been watching different manosphere content creators and is mindlessly regurgitating different talking points.

He's not wrong though breh. Modern women oscillate between these two things because they want the pleasures of being with a man with money without the accountability of being with a man with options who will walk away.

I was dating a girl who told me she dated a bummy dude for a bit, but then broke up with him because he had no ambition. She said it worked for a while because she, as the higher earner, got to do her own thing without him holding her accountable. He couldn't because he couldn't provide.

In I come. I'm fairly well off, willing to provide for a woman but within certain parameters. There were things she was doing communicating with me, being on social media, that I would not tolerate. Straight up told her I'd have to be a fool to provide for & spoil a woman who can't do the bare minimum in terms of communication, ramping down party life, all that.

She told me she hated being called out on her shyt but also loved that I put her in her place. p*ssy stayed wet as fukk so it was real, but at some point, I bushed her. She wasn't ready to let go of just doing whatever she wanted, so I had to leave.

And I'm sorry to say, but most women are not good long term planners financially, so they need men who have and/or are good with money. This woman has made low 6 figures for a decade but didn't have $10K to put together to invest when I tried to put her on to I-bonds.

At some point she's going to have to pick, and I'm guessing she'll pick doing her thing. Modern women do not like responsibility or being held accountable, and they are surrounded by enablers. Most are not raised to set themselves up for retirement without financial assistance or guidance from a man.

It sounds sexist as hell, but it's just reality.

 

[MikelArteta]

dating is easy, finding someone quality for a relationship is hard

 

[Justin Nitsuj]

That brother's spitting 1000% of truth

 

[africngiant]

He’s spot on. This is the curse that women suffer given to them in Genesis. They don’t desire men, but they desire to rule over men and are mad because they don’t have the might to rule men, so they rule men by using a plethora of weak men/Agressive mentally weak men/dumbmen to act on their behalf.

That’s why they divorce at over 70% and make the claim the problem is with men, but the only problem is men letting women have any authority to begin with. Women can never rule, because they are more prone to evil than men and they are attracted to it as well. Why do you think they love the occult so much?

Just because a women will tell a brute to stop beating a nerd, doesn’t mean women are good. They will still get with that brute and deep down they enjoyed seeing the nerd get beat. Why would a “good girl” lay with a bad man, knowingly? Like gang bangers/drug dealers. We see it all the time. They will use the brute if they can, to work on their behalf. If a woman doesn’t fear The Most High or isn’t sheltered/square in some way, wickedness will come. Women might be “nice” but they have no honor.

preach

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Dude look regular but because he said some shyt women don't like he ugly broke and etc

 

[africngiant]

Won’t say he’s bitter but he’s probably touched on and thought about this so much that you hear the angst in his voice.

With that said, he’s right.

nikka sound like pac

 

[Gloxina]

He’s spot on. This is the curse that women suffer given to them in Genesis. They don’t desire men, but they desire to rule over men and are mad because they don’t have the might to rule men, so they rule men by using a plethora of weak men/Agressive mentally weak men/dumbmen to act on their behalf.

That’s why they divorce at over 70% and make the claim the problem is with men, but the only problem is men letting women have any authority to begin with. Women can never rule, because they are more prone to evil than men and they are attracted to it as well. Why do you think they love the occult so much?

Just because a women will tell a brute to stop beating a nerd, doesn’t mean women are good. They will still get with that brute and deep down they enjoyed seeing the nerd get beat. Why would a “good girl” lay with a bad man, knowingly? Like gang bangers/drug dealers. We see it all the time. They will use the brute if they can, to work on their behalf. If a (wo)man doesn’t fear The Most High or isn’t sheltered/square in some way, wickedness will come. Women might be “nice” but they have no honor.

Uh, yea that goes for men too.

Plenty more men would live for themselves and COMPLETELY give in to their carnal desires if they weren’t “squares” or have some morality built in from religious teachings. PLEEEEEAASE

If men were so altruistic there wouldn’t be women out here turning tricks. They would just look at the would-be whores of society and put them in some government or charity funded group homes to keep them off the streets. But NO, everyone knows that when you encounter some chick who is down on her luck or a little slow or young/naive with no family assistance her ass is food in these streets because men will be throwing some money at her to use her body instead of guiding her to some social services to get on the right track.

Strip clubs, porn, etc are only a thing because of MEN. Women aren’t getting in their cars and driving into alleys at 2am to pay someone for some “strange”. Women aren’t leading double lives and sleeping with transwomen and then killing them so that the secret doesn’t get out. So let’s not get ahead of ourselves.


BOTH men and women are currently full of shyt. That’s why we are where we are. The people who want something genuine and aren’t being unrealistic will find a partner.

 

[Piff Perkins]

He’s spot on. This is the curse that women suffer given to them in Genesis. They don’t desire men, but they desire to rule over men and are mad because they don’t have the might to rule men, so they rule men by using a plethora of weak men/Agressive mentally weak men/dumbmen to act on their behalf.

That’s why they divorce at over 70% and make the claim the problem is with men, but the only problem is men letting women have any authority to begin with. Women can never rule, because they are more prone to evil than men and they are attracted to it as well. Why do you think they love the occult so much?

Just because a women will tell a brute to stop beating a nerd, doesn’t mean women are good. They will still get with that brute and deep down they enjoyed seeing the nerd get beat. Why would a “good girl” lay with a bad man, knowingly? Like gang bangers/drug dealers. We see it all the time. They will use the brute if they can, to work on their behalf. If a woman doesn’t fear The Most High or isn’t sheltered/square in some way, wickedness will come. Women might be “nice” but they have no honor.

Women are more prone to evil than men. But men commit far more crime, far more murder, far more violent acts, have started virtually every war in history, greenlit nearly every genocide....

You dusty bible nikkas need to get some p*ssy.

 

[Chrishaune]

No such thing as dating. You are supposed to be looking for a wife. There are not many wives today. Not many husbands either.