Brehette shares her struggle supporting 3 kids alone

[Uachet]

We're simps until someone impregnates your goofy ass daughter. Imagine defending some nikka with 10 kids. If this was the OLD DAYS none of the men would agree with you fukk boy. The men would've shot the nikka or forced him to handle his responsibilities way before he ever had multiple broken families. That shyt is terrible for community building and needs to be forcefully shamed.

Yes, we would do that. What you are forgetting in that equation though is the women were also restricted and punished too when they broke the rules. This was not a one-sided issue, where only one sex was held responsible for their actions. Both sexes received instruction, restrictions, and punishments.

So please again, what would you do about the other 50% of the problem?

 

[Strapped]

Tie them things

 

[lib123]

We're simps until someone impregnates your goofy ass daughter. Imagine defending some nikka with 10 kids. If this was the OLD DAYS none of the men would agree with you fukk boy. The men would've shot the nikka or forced him to handle his responsibilities way before he ever had multiple broken families. That shyt is terrible for community building and needs to be forcefully shamed.

We won’t collectively shame it because it’s become so common. It’s hard to shame something when 80% of the community engage in it (out of wedlock childbirth).

 

[The Burger King]

We're simps until someone impregnates your goofy ass daughter. Imagine defending some nikka with 10 kids. If this was the OLD DAYS none of the men would agree with you fukk boy. The men would've shot the nikka or forced him to handle his responsibilities way before he ever had multiple broken families. That shyt is terrible for community building and needs to be forcefully shamed.

This is not true, at least not entirely.

My Grandfather had upwards of 20 kids. Some he took care of, some were with married women who cheated on their husbands with him and got pregnant, some were left to be single moms.

We know now because my Dad constantly has half-brothers and sisters reaching out to him on 23andMe.

No man or men ever pulled up on him and checked him, despite the fact it was well-known what he was doing.

Part of that is because he was basically King Von type of nikka, who would’ve bodied anyone who confronted him about it. This shows part of the issue is the selection criteria of these women.

But the other reason why they wouldn’t confront him is because regular working men weren’t about to risk prison or ending up dead trying to for women who make bad decisions. And rightfully so.

I’m not insulting you personally, because generally you’re a good poster. But a lot of these narratives about what men “used to do” is simp fairytales.

In addition to that, like @Uachet said, if that did happen it’s not really a fair comparison because society had expectations of women back in those days. Women these days aren’t held to those same standards but wanna talk about “back in the day”.

 

[Still Benefited]

Shes playing herself,she needs to get housing assistance

 

[Insensitive]

I feel sorry for her.

I have empathy tbh.
Do I think she should've had a gang of kids dolo?
hell no.
Do I still sympathize with it ?
YES!

I've been there, I know what that stress is like.

 

[Ozymandeas]

This is not true, at least not entirely.

My Grandfather had upwards of 20 kids. Some he took care of, some were with married women who cheated on their husbands with him and got pregnant, some were left to be single moms.

We know now because my Dad constantly has half-brothers and sisters reaching out to him on 23andMe.

No man or men ever pulled up on him and checked him, despite the fact it was well-known what he was doing.

Part of that is because he was basically King Von type of nikka, who would’ve bodied anyone who confronted him about it. This shows part of the issue is the selection criteria of these women.

But the other reason why they wouldn’t confront him is because regular working men weren’t about to risk prison or ending up dead trying to for women who make bad decisions. And rightfully so.

I’m not insulting you personally, because generally you’re a good poster. But a lot of these narratives about what men “used to do” is simp fairytales.

In addition to that, like @Uachet said, if that did happen it’s not really a fair comparison because society had expectations of women back in those days. Women these days aren’t held to those same standards but wanna talk about “back in the day”.

Yes it was. Nikkas did not have 7 baby mamas in 1895. GTFOH with those fairy tales

 

[lib123]

This is not true, at least not entirely.

My Grandfather had upwards of 20 kids. Some he took care of, some were with married women who cheated on their husbands with him and got pregnant, some were left to be single moms.

We know now because my Dad constantly has half-brothers and sisters reaching out to him on 23andMe.

No man or men ever pulled up on him and checked him, despite the fact it was well-known what he was doing.

Part of that is because he was basically King Von type of nikka, who would’ve bodied anyone who confronted him about it. This shows part of the issue is the selection criteria of these women.

But the other reason why they wouldn’t confront him is because regular working men weren’t about to risk prison or ending up dead trying to for women who make bad decisions. And rightfully so.

I’m not insulting you personally, because generally you’re a good poster. But a lot of these narratives about what men “used to do” is simp fairytales.

In addition to that, like @Uachet said, if that did happen it’s not really a fair comparison because society had expectations of women back in those days. Women these days aren’t held to those same standards but wanna talk about “back in the day”.

I think what he’s saying is men in the community were more likely to intervene to prevent the foolishness that has become commonplace today. Of course there were still dysfunctional out of wedlock dynamics but it wasn’t as commonplace as it is now.

 

[Ozymandeas]

I think what he’s saying is men in the community were more likely to intervene to prevent the foolishness that has become commonplace today. Of course there were still dysfunctional out of wedlock dynamics but it wasn’t as commonplace as it is now.

He trying not to understand what I'm saying.

Imagine telling this man you had 5 baby mamas in 1927 You'd come nowhere near his daughter. He wouldn't allow it. The brothers wouldn't allow it.

 

[lib123]

He trying not to understand what I'm saying.

Imagine telling this man you had 5 baby mamas in 1927 You'd come nowhere near his daughter. He wouldn't allow it. The brothers wouldn't allow it.

Yeah and he’s also overlooking that back then extended families lived together under one roof and pooled resources. So if young women in the family turned up pregnant with no man, that was taking food (literally) out of the mouths of everyone else in the family including other children. There was an inherent shaming and survival mechanism back then.

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

In these situations usually the father isn’t equipped. If they were she would be getting more in child support.

If you need child support to take care of your child, you don't need to be the primary parent. It's really that simple.

 

[The Burger King]

I think what he’s saying is men in the community were more likely to intervene to prevent the foolishness that has become commonplace today. Of course there were still dysfunctional out of wedlock dynamics but it wasn’t as commonplace as it is now.

Yes, and the point I’m making is that the “prevention” he’s talking about didn’t happen as commonly as he is saying that it did.

At least based off of my initial impression, I was thinking he was talking about our Grandfathers generation.

Many of the issues we are dealing with today didn’t just spawn overnight. What we’re seeing today is the outcome of behavior that was taught to this generation of women by previous women.

Besides that, I notice yall overlooked the part where I said that women back in those days were also held to certain expectations, therefore if the men DID intervene it was with the expectation that said women would at least listen.

Try to tell one of these THOTs in 2025 to close their legs and don’t get pregnant before marriage. See how that works out for you.

Try to tell one of these reckless YNs to stop getting these braindead whores pregnant. See how that works out for you.

It’s like yall want us to be in the room while these two are fukking and force the man in the scenario to pull out.

He trying not to understand what I'm saying.

Imagine telling this man you had 5 baby mamas in 1927 You'd come nowhere near his daughter. He wouldn't allow it. The brothers wouldn't allow it.

Are you serious my guy? Initially, I didn’t respond to your reply to my post because I thought you were trolling, but you are dead ass serious.

We’re talking about what is happening in 2025 and you are bringing up what was going on in the 1800s.

Like, I really shouldn’t have to explain to you why what you’re saying makes no sense…

You're talking about what happened in 1927 and what men would’ve done, not acknowledging that the men in the family would’ve had more say in who the women in the family are allowed to date in the first place.

Go on ahead and propose the concept of allowing black men and their sons to influence who their daughters/sisters date in 2025. See how that works out for you.

 

[lib123]

If you need child support to take care of your child, you don't need to be the primary parent. It's really that simple.

That’s not always true.

 

[SheWantTheD]

When you have low self esteem, and feel
unloved, kids have a way of temporarily relieving that misery. They love you unconditionally and are genuinely excitied to see you.

You’re doing yourself a disservice in the long run tho because not many people want someone with a bunch of kids.

A lot of women have kids for this very reason even if they know the man isn’t fit to be their partner or father their children.

 

[Ozymandeas]

Yes, and the point I’m making is that the “prevention” he’s talking about didn’t happen as commonly as he is saying that it did.

At least based off of my initial impression, I was thinking he was talking about our Grandfathers generation.

Many of the issues we are dealing with today didn’t just spawn overnight. What we’re seeing today is the outcome of behavior that was taught to this generation of women by previous women.

Besides that, I notice yall overlooked the part where I said that women back in those days were also held to certain expectations, therefore if the men DID intervene it was with the expectation that said women would at least listen.

Try to tell one of these THOTs in 2025 to close their legs and don’t get pregnant before marriage. See how that works out for you.

Try to tell one of these reckless YNs to stop getting these braindead whores pregnant. See how that works out for you.

It’s like yall want us to be in the room while these two are fukking and force the man in the scenario to pull out.


Are you serious my guy? Initially, I didn’t respond to your reply to my post because I thought you were trolling, but you are dead ass serious.

We’re talking about what is happening in 2025 and you are bringing up what was going on in the 1800s.

Like, I really shouldn’t have to explain to you why what you’re saying makes no sense…

You read what I wrote and understood nothing. I specifically said men in the old days wasn't going for this foolishness.

What you thought I was talking about when I said OLD DAYS. I shouldn't have to explain THAT to you. Wasn't no dudes walking around with 4, 5, 7 babymamas in the 1920s, 1930s, 1910s, and expecting to marry anybody's daughter. You KNOW that, there's no need to keep responding to me