Brehettes, what the hell is wrong with some of y’all? :dahell:

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OP..

Try to be a lil more affectionate with your lady. She told you what she wants, so make steps in giving her what she wants.

You will always be who you are, but strive to become a lil more flexible in order to minimize bs and maximize a consistently healthy relationship.

That goes for anyone & everyone including myself.
 

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She could be upset because she’s been having issues at her job and she feels like I’m not listening to her complaints about said job.

We had a discussion about it, she mentioned the issues at her job and I told her she should quit.

I even offered to give her a job until she can find something better. Her father did too (they’re Igbo and run a bunch of African food marts here in DFW).

But at the same time, I don’t know what she expects me to say when she keeps complaining about the same shyt over and over again and I’ve already offered her a solution.

Ahhh, I see. I think she doesn't feel heard. Sometimes when some women complain, they aren't looking for solutions so much as they want to someone to talk to them and let them comment on their issues. In the end it's all about feelings.
When she complains about her job, provide less in the way of solutions (as crazy as that sounds), and instead dig more into why the issues bother her. If she really is vexed by her job, then I'd wonder:
What does she want to do about the issue with her job? How does she feel about it (does she dread going to work)? How does she feel about the solutions offered to her? How does she expect it to realistically resolve? What is stopping her from taking all the advice gives to her?
I wouldn't be direct with these questions but it is something good to know to figure out where her head is at, if that is the issue.

Ultimately she probably doesn't feel heard and by extension, appreciated (women have a tendency to equate one thing for another, even when they aren't really related). Helping her to feel heard or appreciated is a step in the right direction.
Yeahhhhhh my patience way too gone for that dumb ass shyt women be on sometimes :francis:

 

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Feel like there’s more context that isn’t being shared because she sounds wild. Unless you’re that unemotional which honestly I don’t see a problem in a sense that she’s w you knowing you are the way you are so she shouldn’t try to change you. I can be affectionate but these girls don’t really like that shyt op I’m gonna keep it a buck they thrive off aloof, emotionally unavailable men. The moment you start to truly open up they’ll shyt on it seen it time and time again. I would just brush it off, although the you want me to treat u like a bytch was pretty cold line that’s some shyt I’d say to a broad im not afraid to lose.
 

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"Like a little child basically" = Women
I think you answered your own question but didn't realize it. :pachaha:

Won't hurt you to dole out a bit of affection from time to time if this is your main lady/wife & she dotes on you as well.

This.

You saying like a dog but also said like a child and thats what she wants and women always get jealous of a mans relationship with their dog. The dog doesn't have a gang of insecurities, doesn't nag and bytch and moan over stupid stuff, just brings peace and joy. Tell her that next time.....be prepared to breakup tho for keeoing it too real. :mjlol:
 
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