Brehs who split bills 50/50 but expect submission, why?

Ezekiel 25:17

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This is exactly correct. I'm not about to submit to a fukking roommate. Because at 50/50, that's what we are. I don't need a man to take care of me, but if you're asking for half the rent, you'll be getting half of me. I was raised by a father who made sure our home was taken care of so that's all I know. My mom was never a housewife, she had her own, but when my dad put his foot down, there were no complaints because we never wanted for shyt and that was because of him.

I'm not mad at you, that's your preference, but if you making close to what your man makes, why aren't you splitting half on the bills?

And what about how two incomes are better than one and obtains a higher quality of life? You'd rather live in a $200,000 house instead of a $400,000 all because you'd feel like a roommate?
 

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If he wants submission from that woman it makes perfect sense.

So she gets to do whatever with her money?

Financially it'd be dumb for a woman to do that. With her income that's access to a bigger house, nicer neighborhood, and better schools. All of the guise of Submissiveness.
 

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Either you do 80/20 (she works part time/you employ her) (0-20%)

You pay for all bills & she puts money into your vacation, stocks, other venture funds.
 

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Women want men who are BETTER than them.

Smarter, more aggressive about meeting his goals, taller, more athletic, etc.

So if she makes more than you she is probably smarter than you. And yes, I know women can be bad with money and make poor choices but when it comes to pure aptitude your income is an indicator of that.

Being with a woman who is smarter than you is a recipe for disaster. Don’t do it. If she is smarter it should be in areas that don’t really matter to you and your success. But if she can outearn you by a lot ($20k, $50k etc) she is smarter where it really counts.

Just my opinion. My husband is smarter than me in just about every area except child rearing. He defers to me on all that.
 

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1. Because some black men have seen some black women have no problem looking after, funding and housing the bums and worst type of men of our community in exchange for d.

So if that type of breh is getting full cooperation and doesn’t have to provide anything other than his dikk another breh will see that and think “I shouldn’t have to pay all the bills for your cooperation”.

2. Because “50/50” is only a dirty word for one group of women… black women. Cac women and Asian women have no problem sharing the bills and still following their men at the same time if they know their money is being pooled to acquire eventual wealth.

Black women call it “struggle love” or “being a roommate” etc other women call it “getting up the ladder and acquiring wealth faster”
 

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Thank you. You see it. It’s happening all over tik tok and IG. It’s like who is pushing this and we are falling for it over and over again because that’s people’s way of trying to get on or everyone has an opinion on this topic. It’s sad but some people know us better than many of us know ourselves.

This is exactly the game plan the Russians were using to divide blacks voters
 

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Shes either submissive or not. A non submissive female won't suddenly become submissive with 100% of the bills paid.
Submission is conditional, dominance isn't.
You always have to be a leader, but to have a follower they need to trust you.


If it works for them and they find balance, roles don't matter :yeshrug:
 

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Women want men who are BETTER than them.

Smarter, more aggressive about meeting his goals, taller, more athletic, etc.

So if she makes more than you she is probably smarter than you. And yes, I know women can be bad with money and make poor choices but when it comes to pure aptitude your income is an indicator of that.

Being with a woman who is smarter than you is a recipe for disaster. Don’t do it. If she is smarter it should be in areas that don’t really matter to you and your success. But if she can outearn you by a lot ($20k, $50k etc) she is smarter where it really counts.

Just my opinion. My husband is smarter than me in just about every area except child rearing. He defers to me on all that.
So the inverse would be true then

So to have a more successful relationship, men should then date lazier, shorter, fatter, dumber and poorer women

:what: do you hear yourself? Why would I want to marry a dumb woman? that's some insecure bs

Just because a person makes more money doesn't necessarily mean he or she is smarter btw

I know car sales guys who make bank and get sad if they make less than 10k in a month. If his wife is a scientist on the low six figure end, does that mean he's smarter than her because he's good at selling toyotas?

Capitalism has really got some of y'all fukked up
 

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If you’re asking for or negotiating submission you’re going about it the wrong way. The fact people even debate this with women shows how many dudes arent worthy of their woman submitting yet keep trying to tell her to. Just like with sexual desire, if she’s not genuinely feeling you then no amount of talking, reasoning or debating will change that

If she sees you’re a capable man she will naturally want to follow your lead. Women aren’t designed to follow weak or incompetent men. That wouldn’t make any sense
 

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people don't realize that these talking points aren't organically happening. There's a larger American project to get women out of the workplace and back into housekeeper roles. Brehs do a lot of talking about the old days when grandmothers were subservient and submitted to their husbands all while ignoring that on one hand, the unemployment rates for Black men have been above recession levels for more than 50 years now AND women of the time didn't have the opportunities and freedoms they have today.

of the top 15 most popular Black Facebook groups, something like 10 were troll farms, I can't really impress upon you how disturbing it is. This means that people pretending to be Black are steering discussions in Black spaces.

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But when I told em about hyperealism…they didn’t listen. :wow:
 

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I'm not mad at you, that's your preference, but if you making close to what your man makes, why aren't you splitting half on the bills?

And what about how two incomes are better than one and obtains a higher quality of life? You'd rather live in a $200,000 house instead of a $400,000 all because you'd feel like a roommate?


I'm not trying to be "kept" because when the next fat ass comes along, he can ghost and then I'll be stuck with a wet ass and a dry purse. But just to give an example, like I said my mom kept a job. Her check paid for dumb shyt like the house phone bill or groceries here and there or paid for vacations. But my dad's check took care of the household meaning that roof, those lights and that steak and seafood dinners mom cooked regularly, were because of him. If that makes sense. My dad would feel less than a man if he went to my MO and said "pay half the mortgage". I'm 40, so I'm used to the old school ways of things. If folks are okay with splitting their bills, more power to them. Shrugs.
 
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