Brehs with Young Daughters and Sisters

[The ADD]

I think you took what I said out of context. I'm not approving of my daughter dating an older breh at all. Especially if he's my age. I know what he wants up front. I'll tell her the exact same thing and to avoid it. But if she still chooses to go along with it after my counsel, she gotta eat whatever negative consequences that come on the back end. But I do talk to my younger brothers and cousins and try to coach them. They've fallen into the trap where they feel that all they have to do is make a lot of money and it will solve their problems when it comes to life and women. I want them to be more well rounded because there's so much more to life than what you produce. Your character and what type of man you are will stand the rest of time way longer than the dollars that you made.

Wouldn’t he want the same thing any man would?

 

[Gloxina]

Older black men want to 'hoard' younger women and price younger black men out the dating market. The gag is, is that these older black men are not marrying these younger women. They are running through them and 'ruining' them and then throwing them back into the dating pool. They are getting off on the con of damaging these women. Its really a pimp strategy that washes, rinses and repeat with every generation of black men.

This is the entire point! Age gaps happen, but there is this constant conversation in our online community about this shyt.

Ionno. Why is it the Asian girls are marrying Asian/white dudes who are young professionals and growing together? Who is telling the white and Asian girls that their future hubby is probably 15yrs older than them?
Where are the young black men who are ready to put a ring on it at 32? 34?

If this were some serious shyt all these older men would be marrying the younger women they are dating. Where are the upticks in marriage between older, established black men and younger black women? Who is seeing this happen in their part of the country?

Marriage is promoted to young women but Black culture isn’t promoting it to young Black men. If you happen to come from a good background you see it being promoted, but if not…?

What is happening where in other cultures it’s ok to marry and build with your partner, but we aren’t being encouraged to do the same?

 

[Numpsay]

She's a year younger than me, and we met at 24.


But you ain't gotta take my word for it.


"The brain finishes developing and maturing in the mid-to-late 20s. The part of the brain behind the forehead, called the prefrontal cortex, is one of the last parts to mature. This area is responsible for skills like planning, prioritizing, and making good decisions."

I honestly don't care what science says about when the brain finishes developing. I have dealt with enough women in their 30s to know that that means next to nothing when it comes to the maturity of women at age. So whatever point you think you are making isn't what the reality actually is. People especially women don't stop, growing, evolving, or maturing in there late 20s.

 

[Stuntone]

That’s about my age gap and that’s cool! She’s grown and mature. Compare that to a 19YO one year outta HS with a 33YO. Ol boy would be running mental circles around the girl lol

Not if she was raised to be a wife. My girl has been more ready for marriage than me since we met 6 years ago. I shouldve married her 4 years ago, but I wasn't ready.

Now a young lady that was raised to be a career focused, independent and a socialite, probably wouldn't match well with an older man.

 

[V Skyye]

If a woman wants to be taken care of, more than likely she will have to marry an older man. Men in their 20s, (most) are not set up to take care of a woman. 50/50 is the standard or 60/40 in most cases.

Women don't want broke dudes, so what age range does a man make his most money? 20s, 30s, or 40s and so on??

Even Mary (young virgin) got with Joseph, he wasn't 22 or 19.

A father just has to really mold the daughter on what the results could be from dating an older man or younger man. Women hit their prime around 24-26, Men hit their prime around 45-55.

The creator set it up that way for a reason.

Men are in their prime from 28-38. 45-55 men are deeply in status physically and mentally. By 55 you talking hypertension and diabetes. They probably have already had their first heat attack.

 

[5n0man]

I honestly don't care what science says about when the brain finishes developing. I have dealt with enough women in their 30s to know that that means next to nothing when it comes to the maturity of women at age. So whatever point you think you are making isn't what the reality actually is. People especially women don't stop, growing, evolving, or maturing in there late 20s.

You right, who needs science when you can rely on coli breh logic and use personal experience with retarded women to form your opinion. Maybe you just have a type breh.

 

[NO-BadAzz]

Exactly,plus shes also acknowledging it isnt about dreams and goals. But instead our women are working because they feel they have to. Which means maybe by their nature,they would rather not work.


So is it possible a woman would takE a few occasional slaps. So that they can continue to be kept women and not have to work? You can interprate those studies two different ways.


Are the women too afraid to be homeless? Or do they enjoy being taken care of so much, that they would take a few slaps or gut punches. Rather than have to leave and fend for themselves within white supremacy?



So instead of pushing that women need to be independent. Cant we just teach them how to become wifeable and good homemakers? Since MOST black men arent actually abusive? Why create an entire narrative and culture,based around the few black men who are abusive?

You see it,

But look at this: I'm willingly to bet that these black men that are abusive, I am almost certain to bet that these BW are not married to these BM but they have kids for these men. Which goes to me asking her, why is it that these BW have babies for these no good ass abusers?

Even if she says "oh you can't tell, or they didn't know" I'll press more and ask, So all these BM that were abusive all waited until AFTER the child was born to throw haymakers and slaps towards their children mother?? They all were prince charms before the children came into play,

I'll even press and ask, especially if the woman has multiple children, Why did she have 'another' child with her abusive boyfriend??
What's going on here? Why we having babies for these kinds of men?

But that'll be too much like right to put accountability on the anyone that needs guidance in picking a mate.

I'm sure these situations that she brought up, I can almost bet, that these parties weren't marriages.

 

[Still Benefited]

I think you took what I said out of context. I'm not approving of my daughter dating an older breh at all. Especially if he's my age. I know what he wants up front. I'll tell her the exact same thing and to avoid it. But if she still chooses to go along with it after my counsel, she gotta eat whatever negative consequences that come on the back end. But I do talk to my younger brothers and cousins and try to coach them. They've fallen into the trap where they feel that all they have to do is make a lot of money and it will solve their problems when it comes to life and women. I want them to be more well rounded because there's so much more to life than what you produce. Your character and what type of man you are will stand the rest of time way longer than the dollars that you made.

I got what you were saying,i just think boys and men are ill prepared for the #WeCanAllBeCosby era. As bad as the result can be for these young girls. The result can end just as badly for the older man who thinks he a playa,because he pulled a young chick. In this day and age it can easily backfire if things go left

 

[The Realist Perspective]

Spin from the Irv thread.
I can’t answer this question.


Would you encourage your 18/20 YO daughter to be with a 40YO man?

Why or why not?



Would you be ok with your 23YO daughter/sister “dating” a man as old and flabby as Irv?

I’m genuinely curious.

If he has as much money as him yes.

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

As I am 38 () and I know I am only tryna be in some innards

I would be seeing a man about twice her age tryna fork a relationship with my nieces

 

[kevm3]

A 40 year old man cruising around for 18 year olds is very questionable. Sorry, it might be 'legal', but it's strange. The girl just got out of high school, is very immature, you likely have nothing on common and she has no real career. You're well into your career dating some 18 year old girl working at popeyes who is going wild at some Lil Durk concert?

The only thing this man likely has intentions of is sleeping with a young girl or trying to control her with his money. What are they going to be talking about? NBA Youngboy and Charleston White?

A man going after women that young likely has grooming tendencies and needs to be watched. Let that woman develop some, get out out of college and get a couple of years into her career.

 

[born of fire]

old men have worms.

 

[NO-BadAzz]

This is the entire point! Age gaps happen, but there is this constant conversation in our online community about this shyt.

Ionno. Why is it the Asian girls are marrying Asian/white dudes who are young professionals and growing together? Who is telling the white and Asian girls that their future hubby is probably 15yrs older than them?
Where are the young black men who are ready to put a ring on it at 32? 34?

If this were some serious shyt all these older men would be marrying the younger women they are dating. Where are the upticks in marriage between older, established black men and younger black women? Who is seeing this happen in their part of the country?

Marriage is promoted to young women but Black culture isn’t promoting it to young Black men. If you happen to come from a good background you see it being promoted, but if not…?

What is happening where in other cultures it’s ok to marry and build with your partner, but we aren’t being encouraged to do the same?

I would ask you, are these women wives?? Black men want wives, not partners or city girls or boss bytches etc, or attention seekers

I would ask you to look at the young women today and compare them to the young women of 1960s, 50s, 40s, 30s, Those young women were married early snatched up quickly, do you think the young women of 2022, 2023 are the same as their grandmothers?

Have you asked yourself, why these women are "getting ran through" instead of being married?

 

[Scaaar]

I got what you were saying,i just think boys and men are ill prepared for the #WeCanAllBeCosby era. As bad as the result can be for these young girls. The result can end just as badly for the older man who thinks he a playa,because he pulled a young chick. In this day and age it can easily backfire if things go left

It definitely is backfiring. That's why you have older brehs out here whining about the women out here now. The older you get and don't settle down you price yourself out of the market. You've entered certified permanent sugar daddy/trick status and every chic you bag at that stage you gotta sleep with one eye open because they might run out on you with something the minute you turn your back. Or they're gone the minute you can't do something for them or they get bored and want someone that's actually in their age bracket. It's plenty of stories like this. Men just hold their Ls in private better than women

 

[Stuntone]

Not too many men under 35, financially or mentality ready to be a providers and good fathers.


Most men start getting money around 35 and start their player phase.


My advice to a mid 20s young lady looking to be a wife is to either find a good man that a few years older to grow with. Not some popular, fly guy but a man that has a decent career and hardworking with decent parents. Or get a decent older man, that's established.

At the same time, this young lady can't be into clubbing and going out all the time.