Can a relationship go back to normal after someone cheated
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If it's a man who cheated, yes.
If it's woman, mostly no.
If it's woman, mostly no.
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The relationship can survive but the dynamics would change
It’s all about security
It’s all about security
No.
The person who cheated most often expects the same level of trust before they violated. The audacity.
Second, they aren't willing to be transparent and earn trust back.
If you're like me (I don't check on men) you will feel a mix of emotions (mostly discomfort, annoyance and even more suspicion) when he starts w/
-I'm leaving work now. ***Keeps you on the phone all the way home.***
-Here's my pin #.
-Leaving the phone near you face up now.
-Taking calls on speaker phone now.
-Calling the chic in front of you and telling her it's over. ***Now call the others***
-Changing his number ***What about the apps, Google voice, etc***
-I'm at my Mom's. Wanna facetime to say hi to her?
-I'm home in bed. Wanna facetime until we fall asleep?
All of this is annoying because it wasn't the flow of things before. It's too taxing when you're working harder to trust again and you didn't even violate.
As a woman, you can't cheat back: That's another body, he'll never find out thus never be hurt, and it's like drinking poison but hoping it harms the other person.
Familiarity already breeds contempt...just imagine sticking around for someone who dogged you out and had a good time doing it. They are going to feel disgust and think you're a Mark.
With the exception of eating a chic out, I don't think the sex would bother me.
It would be the lying, causing friction with me on purpose to go slide and most of all - spending money on another woman.
I hate cheaters and will never take one back.
The person who cheated most often expects the same level of trust before they violated. The audacity.
Second, they aren't willing to be transparent and earn trust back.
If you're like me (I don't check on men) you will feel a mix of emotions (mostly discomfort, annoyance and even more suspicion) when he starts w/
-I'm leaving work now. ***Keeps you on the phone all the way home.***
-Here's my pin #.
-Leaving the phone near you face up now.
-Taking calls on speaker phone now.
-Calling the chic in front of you and telling her it's over. ***Now call the others***
-Changing his number ***What about the apps, Google voice, etc***
-I'm at my Mom's. Wanna facetime to say hi to her?
-I'm home in bed. Wanna facetime until we fall asleep?
All of this is annoying because it wasn't the flow of things before. It's too taxing when you're working harder to trust again and you didn't even violate.
As a woman, you can't cheat back: That's another body, he'll never find out thus never be hurt, and it's like drinking poison but hoping it harms the other person.
Familiarity already breeds contempt...just imagine sticking around for someone who dogged you out and had a good time doing it. They are going to feel disgust and think you're a Mark.
With the exception of eating a chic out, I don't think the sex would bother me.
It would be the lying, causing friction with me on purpose to go slide and most of all - spending money on another woman.
I hate cheaters and will never take one back.
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As a wise man told me: “cheating and staying together is like breaking a wine glass and sticking it together again. No matter how much you mend it, the cracks will always be there.”
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First off, we never truly interact with anyone as we form our own version of them in our head. Once that model does something "out of character" it is, by default, a wrap for that version and its up to the person if they wish to created a revised take or walk away.
Are you still with that personI have. Couldn’t get the thought of her sucking another man’s dikk and getting smashed outta my head pause.Did it go back to normal, yes, but the thoughts were still there like I said.
That shyt can cause insecurities foreal.
depends on what the couple's concept of normal is tbh..also heavily depends on the individuals
i understand where op & most of y'all coming from but the first thing y'all doing wrong is assuming that the person being cheated on in the relationship has the self-respect, confidence, dignity to even mention it to their partner, let alone blatantly project animosity over a long period.
basically i mean: some women/men will look at being cheated on as them being inadequate in some way. these are usually people wit low self esteem, not necessarily "ugly" ppl..
others will project most of the blame towards the cheater..these are usually the more rational folks, but to answer ya question , YES
i understand where op & most of y'all coming from but the first thing y'all doing wrong is assuming that the person being cheated on in the relationship has the self-respect, confidence, dignity to even mention it to their partner, let alone blatantly project animosity over a long period.
basically i mean: some women/men will look at being cheated on as them being inadequate in some way. these are usually people wit low self esteem, not necessarily "ugly" ppl..
a girl i was with for like 6months found out i cheated by going thru my phone.. didn't mention it until 3months later. in that time span she treated me like a god in the crib nbs.. netflix & head every night.. more head in the morning before making breakfast.. i mean she turned up on some " i bet this nikka won't cheat again" type shyt..
I did & after she found out about that (by going thru my phone again) she spilled the beans about knowing the other time i stepped out. & she was still willing to stay together.. i slid
I did & after she found out about that (by going thru my phone again) she spilled the beans about knowing the other time i stepped out. & she was still willing to stay together.. i slid
others will project most of the blame towards the cheater..these are usually the more rational folks, but to answer ya question , YES
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