Can a relationship go back to normal after someone cheated

[Lady.Libra.]

I am sorry for asking but can someone please define what a normal relationship is please?

That has to be defined by the 2 people within the relationship.

What may be your dealbreaker & boundary breaker will vary. These conversations should be had early on -

Money
Sex
Education
Values / Morals
Family
Friends
Spirituality
Health
Autonomy
Long term/short term goals
Political affiliation
Racial POV
Etc

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

Not 'all' coz I'm still with them.

So it can work but its diff

Relationship after

 

[Complexion]

Will you share your thoughts on the 'Honeymoon' phase?

All I know is that I hate it...

Psychologically we see in others what they often don't possess as we have a pencil outline of their personality which we fill in with wishful thinking that invariably leads to disappointment when they don't measure up to our imaginary expectations. Neurologically its all about a flood of endorphins, increased Nerve Growth Factor and various other DNA hacks designed to spur pair bonding.

Why do you hate it?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Men nope.
Women, yep.

That’s b/c men’s side pieces 9/10 fukk it up. Also men lie to themselves about p*ssy not impacting them but they start changing.

Women can get the dikk drama free, have an entire baby for another man, play it off like it’s yours, and take that secret to the grave and never miss a beat. You never know that she’s in a good mood after dealing with your bullshyt b/c she had an emotionally cathartic session with her side dikk. Im tempted to say side dikk might keep some relationships stable.

Men be fumbling, changing it up, making dumb moves and mistakes, getting caught up, getting mad at side chicks for ending it.

Also silly bro babble stories about women not being able to compartmentalize emotions makes it even easier. Dudes be doing their dirt, arrogantly never even EXPECTING chick to step out.

Meanwhile, lil Bobby be suspiciously resembling that military captain with the nice lawn next door and wifey still fixing pancakes on Saturday morning.

“Hey Bob! Crazy weather we got today, amirite?”

Spoiler

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

What if he love her

Just made a mistake chelsea

Sure he did...

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

But in all seriousness, no. And if u do, u just give leverage to somebody to do it again or do worse to u in retaliation.

 

[Thanos]

No

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

But in all seriousness, no. And if u do, u just give leverage to somebody to do it again or do worse to u in retaliation.

Yea it seems that way it seems that way

 

[Vandelay]

Nope. You can pretend it doesn't exist, but the frustration will pop out from time to time.

If both of ya'll can deal with that...

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Psychologically we see in others what they often don't possess as we have a pencil outline of their personality which we fill in with wishful thinking that invariably leads to disappointment when they don't measure up to our imaginary expectations. Neurologically its all about a flood of endorphins, increased Nerve Growth Factor and various other DNA hacks designed to spur pair bonding.

Why do you hate it?

It's too much fire. [I'm not one for playing games but I seriously think you should answer the phone every 2nd time & see him every other time he requests.I don't do it though, just think it.] Because that fiery, fever can't be sustained...realistically. Doesn't mean the attraction turns to dust or ice but you have to...resume regular life soon. (This is where men whine about having to 'Entertain her all day, everyday' and where women moan about 'He's not as attentive as before'. Well, duh. You set the tone & expectations up for this nonsense.
Also, I think chics do themselves a disservice by forgetting about friends/family when a new love interest steps on the scene. Then rediscovering them when she he kicks her in the rump with his boot.

I just hate it.

 

[Jalether]

"new normal" yes but not old normal. The trust is broken forever and it's never worth it in the end

 

[Trav]

No. The relationship cannot and should not go back to how it was before. If y'all choose to stay together then you have to start a new relationship with different terms.

I'm not gonna judge a person that chooses to stay with a cheater because you don't know how you will react until you're in that situation.
Personally, If my wife cheat on me I likely will not reconcile with her. If I do reconcile with her it would be just for the kids and to protect assets. Our new relationship would become open. I know I can't expect fidelity from her and she now has no grounds to demand or expect it from me.
By it's definition, cheaters are cowards, selfish, and hypocritical lowlives. They have certain expectations of their partner that they themselves aren't willing to reciprocate.

As Brother Malcolm said, betrayal is worse than death.

All dis shyt right chere

 

[King Ming]

Only if dude did the cheating...

 

[mortuus est]

cheating is wrong man, the fact that thats how some people get STD'S and pass it on is a madness to me

one girl i was kool with thats how she got the herp derp, cause her man cheated on her and brang that shyt back to her and infected her, and she still took him back, i was like


people in long distance relationships be doing the most too , shyts sad

be careful out there , sometimes the best sex you've ever had is the sex you haven't had, cheat in your mind and keep it moving

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

I don’t think so as the other person will always harbor some sort of trust issues and resentment even if they won’t admit it.

yep....

they'll admit it.....1st time they get mad