Nyc has alot of people.Everyone isn't where you are either
Can we all admit that both black men and women have work to do on themselves?
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The_King_of_Everything
Yeah.
Yeah first thing should be to lose weight. Tired of seeing y'all fat maufakkas. Stop being lazy and eat healthy/go to the gym.
Yeah but working on yourself is not considered acceptable. "Let me ask you something. Are you in a relationship? Have you been wifed?" "Um, well no. I'm working on myself." "Bitter bytch can't even get a man"
"Dry dyck coli nikkas" ect
What do you consider trash? Some women have certain emotional needs that can seemingly only be meet by a certain type of man.
Hmm. I feel you can get to know people while working on yourself or have varying experiences. That can help us improve.Yeah but working on yourself is not considered acceptable. "Let me ask you something. Are you in a relationship? Have you been wifed?" "Um, well no. I'm working on myself." "Bitter bytch can't even get a man"
"Dry dyck coli nikkas" ect
What do you consider trash? Some women have certain emotional needs that can seemingly only be meet by a certain type of man.
What kind of man are you referring to?
HeavyTheDon
Banned
This is a dead conversation because black folks love/fear their enemy and hate each other and that will NEVER change.
King Kreole
natural blondie like goku
I think a lot of people approach this topic from an egoistic viewpoint, and that leads to an inability to engage with the issue constructively or in totality. It also obscures the reality of the situation. To me, there is no equivalency here. This isn't about black women misbehaving and black men misbehaving, it's about systemic and historical imbalances that lead to subjugation. Black women are domestically abused at higher rates than white women, latino women, and asian women. They are 8% of the population but 22% of those killed by their intimate partner. Black women are the ones who are primarily bearing the brunt of the institutionalized single parenthood in the black community. 1 in 5 have reported been raped. 40% report coercive sexual contact by the age of 18. These are primarily intra-racial crimes. And on top of that, they're dealing with the unique pressure of having to stow that pain away because the criminal justice system is overzealous towards black men. They're told to deal with it, and that bringing up their suffering at the hands of black men is considered divisive to the community. There is simply no equivalent being levied on black men by black women. So to attempt to smoothen this issue out to "well, both sides do it!" is a brutal act of erasure, and we don't tolerate it from whites when they do it to us.
Taking it to the realm of the personal masks these brutalities because no one here is an admitted rapist, murderer or serial abuser, and I would imagine very few women here would admit to being raped or abused. But it's a silent reality in the black community, more so than most other racial communities. Black women are treated abominably inside and outside the black community. If we're unwilling to even acknowledge the problem and its scale without reflexively squawking about the relatively venial sins of the black woman, what hope is there for a progress that includes all of the black community? Black women, as all women, are the bedrock of the community. Life flows through them. They are the first point of contact for a black child. If they cannot reasonably expect to find refuge inside the community, there is no hope.
Taking it to the realm of the personal masks these brutalities because no one here is an admitted rapist, murderer or serial abuser, and I would imagine very few women here would admit to being raped or abused. But it's a silent reality in the black community, more so than most other racial communities. Black women are treated abominably inside and outside the black community. If we're unwilling to even acknowledge the problem and its scale without reflexively squawking about the relatively venial sins of the black woman, what hope is there for a progress that includes all of the black community? Black women, as all women, are the bedrock of the community. Life flows through them. They are the first point of contact for a black child. If they cannot reasonably expect to find refuge inside the community, there is no hope.
In general nobody is perfect and should work on themselves. When did the become a black thing? Also I don't hear this in real life and I also see black families all the time
Actually, the only post I like.
You calling me out breh?
If I were calling you out specifically then I would've tagged you, but your thread topic is built on false conclusions.
Enlightenment me then.
You already buy into respectability politics as THE solution with no context as to how economics impact social behavior thus it would be a waste of my time.
So all that was for nothing. Gotcha.
