So here is a little overview of my last approaches. There are a couple things that I‘ll have to elaborate on first regarding the content & how im presenting it here (and in the future in this thread) though.
I will not share any personal data of the women, no pics or anything. There are 2 reasons for this:
First of, I simply dont put other peoples private data out there on the internet without their knowledge & consent, its something I personally just dont want to do and I see no reason for it.
Second, ive seen other people mention this on here as well, there are some incel basement dwellers on here that would definitely invest their time & energy into trying to find out about the people mentioned & shown here Through reverse searches & shyt and try to mess up things and that’s something that’s definitely not needed.
Now something thats also one of those frequently asked questions when it comes to the topic of the cold approach:
„Whats your quota ?“
In my opinion this whole obsession with the quota is exaggerated. Its definetely gonna get better overall, the longer you are „in the game“ and the more experience you have because you‘ll simply mess up less situations you couldve handled with more practice & confidence. Of course some days you are also just lucky and run into the „right girls“, while other days you have much more misses or even straight up only rejections. But that’s something that should not bother you, otherwise you’ll become frustrated super fast and maybe throw in the towel. Especially the beginners is a bit rough because you lack practice & experience, make mistakes in the conversation/ run out of stuff to say/are too nervous etc etc. That’s definitely getting better with time, after a while you’ll recognize situations & patterns differently and be able to handle them „correctly“. Still at the end of the day, you are always gonna have more misses & rejections than girls you‘ll get. Its a super played out metaphor, but a pro basketball player will also have more misses than hits in his whole career & practice time combined so thats just something you have to accept. Thats why I cant take dudes seriously who‘ll brag about: „I can have all the girls I want!“. There is simply no one that could reach a 100% quota, its impossible.
Another classic question is „Whats the best opener“?
Simple answer: There is no best opener.
If you say a certain thing to 20 different people it might work for 10 of them and for the others, it wont. In general though, its not important what you say, its HOW you say it. You can write down 100 of those „the perfect opener“ video bullshyt phrases, if you deliver them with no self confidence & just super obviously give out the „Im just memorizing something ive seen online without any personal level to it“ vibes its not gonna work out. On the other hand you can walk up to a woman and deliver some super corny, dumb opener, as long as you deliver it with confidence and some humoristic intention its still gonna work out. In general the best opener is always just the truth. If you see a girl you like just walk up to her & be real about your intention & disregard all the corny fake persona stuff & „routines“ some people want to convince you of.
So the girls I approached I just saw while I was on my daily grind, buying stuff, driving around etc etc.
Of those 10 I took one home & gonna meet up with another one in the next few days. Of the 8 rejections I got, not a single one was some terrible kind if experience or anything (Its repetitive af to always mention this in every single post but I think its still important to mention, maybe it wil help people to get over some irrational fear and start actually getting into it instead of watching chance after chance pass them by).
One girl of the two I approached when she was standing around outside with some guy looking like they were waiting on somebody. I walked up to them, stated why I approached her by just saying how she looks great and caught my eye so I had to introduce myself and got into a conversation with her. The dude wasnt her boyfriend (A lot of people would probably not approach if they saw a girl standing around with some guy, automatically assuming its her boyfriend. If they are holding hands, hugging etc of course it’s obvious and I wont bother them, but if they are just casually standing around often its just some regular friend of hers and not someone shes actually in a relationship with. Me personally, ill just say take your chance, be respectful & cool when you open the conversation in this situation. Even if it happens to be her bf its no problem, just say bye & keep it moving then.) and was actually just waiting to meet up with somebody else at a spot not top far away. She was friends with him so she just accompanied him and they were getting ready to walk there. I just tagged along, had some conversation with them, and after he left I went to some cafe with her. We talked for a while there, just getting to know each other better and getting the right vibe. Regarding the conversation we had and how I do it: What I can only recommend is to be open about your intentions. Of course you arent supposed to act like a creepy sex offender, reeking of thirst and just say something like: Lets go to my house and fukk now. But if you try to play it safe, avoid all physical contact, focus on not talking about anything sexual/setting the vibe you will just bore her to death or be placed in the friendzone immediately. Something I can recommend is to open the discussion about her personal opinion on the whole dating stuff and how she sees the whole topic and the reputation of different „lifestyles“. Ill just keep it real about me not being a classic romantic relationship type of guy and how Im just open to let things go their way without putting a tag on it. Whats also Important to get a connection & trust on that level is to make it clear that you wont judge her for living out her sexuality & desire. If you play with open hands, she knows she can trust you and can actually act on what she wants & feels like without you considering her a „slut“ or stuff like that. What I also did (and always do) is to crack some jokes here & there, play with irony etc. This makes a conversation interesting, challenging & rewarding for both participants. The worst thing you can do is turn the conversation into an interview where you just ask one question after another and bore her to death without getting on a personal level & connection. If you do it this way, she wont trust you, you wont be on the same level, and there will be no attraction or even sexual tension. If you challenge her a bit in the conversation she will take action, open up and actually invest into the situation by pushing the whole thing. It should basically be a bit like ping pong where you actually bounce around the input and work towards building up the vibe & tension until its time to go to her/ or (as in this case) my place which I did after about 30-45 minutes at the cafe.
The other one i just saw sitting outside on a bench, reading a book. I walked up to her, introduced myself and started a conversation about the book she was reading. From there on the convo was just flowing, I briefly touched on a couple other things and told her Id really like to get to know her better when I got more time. So we set up a date for next week & changed numbers. Ill see what happens then.
Another interesting situation was when I approached a girl near a library. She was just coming out carrying some books & I just walked up to her and told her I had to stop her because she looks amazing and I had to take my chance. She was super surprised and a bit confused at first, telling me that barely ever happens to her which had me surprised in turn because she was absolutely cute. She had a bf but her reaction was super cool, told me that more men should do this and it made her super happy to actually have someone come up to her for a change.
I hope this helps some people here and gives y‘all a little glimpse into the whole thing.
Sidenote: Ill never announce a bigger post ever again, just dropping them without announcement from now on, before my flabby posting consistentcy becomes the subject of more jokes here
@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman
@Address_Unknown
but again it was my fault. she didn't actually reject me the 1st time I saw her, so when I went back up to her, it wasn't even to ask for her number again. I thought I was just keeping the conversation going like "hey you" or something like that
you doing great then. U met them going cold approaches