Clark Griswold
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I don’t get how grown ass nikkas don’t know how to talk to women. That’s weirdo cac shyt.
Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice
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I don’t get how grown ass nikkas don’t know how to talk to women. That’s weirdo cac shyt.
1-8-7-Skillz
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1-8-7-Skillz
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Imo the whole internet/social media focus of today has turned many people into this state. Back in the days people actually had to interact with each other much more, nowdays many people seem to get lost in this whole fake social media image, they feel like they are worth less in comparison, they communicate in front of their screens instead of face to face etc
Keeps getting worse every generation imo
Thats also something thats messing up the climate between men & women imo
And many girls think the same, Ill promise y‘all as y‘all get better with women/approach them daily you will hear „Damn, finally someone that approaches me“ „I was actually starting to think Im ugly because no one ever approaches me“ „Finally a man doing something/being straight up“ a trilion times from them
MischievousMonkey
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I meant "writing only the truth" I fukked up hahaWhat you mean breh?
im kinda slow right now
1-8-7-Skillz
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Appreciate it breh. Trying to get lean for when I transfer to a university. I don't have the confidence to go to bars or clubs. I don't want to be alone and I look young. I don't think I'm ugly but just no sex appeal. I'm short and skinny af.Ok, tomorrow ill type out a lil report of all the approaches done on that day, for now a couple lines to hold you over:
Using your insecurities and turning them into advantages
This may sound strange at first, but here is how I mean it:
The last time I wrote something here, it was about being real & authentic. This is going in the same vein.
If you are starting with approaching women in your everyday life, first of all you HAVE to realize that the act of ACTUALLY doing/trying it makes you more of an actual MAN than 90/95% of the other guys out there. If you approach a girl and dont know what to say in the conversation you are more of a man than those other 95%. If she rejects you after the conversation you are more of a man than those other guys. If she brushes you off before you can even introduce yourself you are, you can already guess it, more of a man than those other dudes as well. If those dudes are seeing you „fail“, stare from across the room, look at you strange etc etc you can be damn sure that those guys dont actually have the balls to do what you just attempted. Those are the guys who want to act cool most of the times and desperately want to protect their frail egos, thinking „if I approach her and she doesnt want me/rejects me Im a loser„.
The problem of those guys is the fact that they depend on other people (In this case the girl) to give them confirmation. Those are guys who arent at peace with themselves, they can’t see their own value, accept their own personality and work with that/on themselves so they give others the power to categorize their worth & value. Basically if you are that way you will always be the other people‘s bytch, depending on them and their opinion. This wont get you anywhere in life, in your career, with women, basically with everything.
So now to touch the second point:
Turning your insecurities into advantages. If you try to play a role when you approach women, trying to portray someone you arent, bragging with non existent (yet) strengths, and desperately push your real state/feelings behind/cover them with a fake persona women will notice. They will realize „This dude isnt honest with himself, he isnt honest with me and doesnt accept himself. Thats not a man, thats a coward.“
She will immediately realize that you are too p*ssy to actually present yourself as the man who you are. And the more you try to cover yourself the more it will jump in her face. A real man is honest about himself, he knows where hes currently at, where he wants to go and what hes working on. He recognizes his weaknesses, doesnt beat around the bush but chooses to change it/work on it. So for example if you dont know what to say to the girl when you approached her, dont make a secret out of it/trying to cover it up with ridiculous pre written „lines“. For example:
You walk up to her, just say „Hey, I know it may seem strange but I just saw you walking down the street and I just HAD to stop you because you look amazing, couldnt let this chance pass to introduce myself“ or something like that. If you now got her attention just be real and tell her that you arent that experienced with it yet, dont really know what to say know and also dont take yourself too serious. I‘ll tell you when you begin and just adress the situation she‘ll immediately know „Ok, this dude doesnt have to lie/fake it, hes telling it how it is and actually got the balls to adress it.
If you try to cover up/fake your persona this will be an instant turnoff and you have a MUCH higher chance of getting a negative reaction.
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Crayola Coyote
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I cold approach women all the time. I don’t get shyt.
1-8-7-Skillz
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Bout to continue this, been on vacation and was too lazy to type long texts there
Dwayne_Taylor
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Dont over think Just make direct eye contact and smile.
If shes interested then she will maintain the eye contact or look down in submission.
If she's not interested then she will look away and pretend not to see you. Dont harass uninterested women; its thirsty af
Convo will be better if you have things in common. Talk about whatever, she wont care if shes interested. but get to the point.
Dont try to get her approval. See if she is worth your time. Does she have a job, in school her own place or kids? Do you have shyt in common ? If not dont fukk with her.
If shes interested then she will maintain the eye contact or look down in submission.
If she's not interested then she will look away and pretend not to see you. Dont harass uninterested women; its thirsty af
Convo will be better if you have things in common. Talk about whatever, she wont care if shes interested. but get to the point.
Dont try to get her approval. See if she is worth your time. Does she have a job, in school her own place or kids? Do you have shyt in common ? If not dont fukk with her.
I agree but since women have the power initially and the 80/20 rule....some guys get intimidated.
My issue is that some women expect too much when they can't bring much to the table themselves. Its like a basic broke chick want a dude to pay for everything and to take care of her but she not willing to do much for him.
Clark Griswold
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The bolded is the problem with 99% of males. Women only have power when you give it to them.
Yeah they do initially. They do the choosing and get approached on the regular. Even average chicks get approached regularly so its easy to get rejected, sidelined or friendzoned.
Now if u a top tier bruh....later u got way more power especially if she wanna keep u.
Clark Griswold
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Women only have power if you care about the outcome of the approach... if you cold approach a female without any signals the ball is in her court... and she’s only going to pass you the ball if she likes you... I wouldn’t call that “power”...
Bottom line they either like you or not...
Is looking down always in submission?
Idk if it has been said but having an end goal with women is paramount.