Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice

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When you get choosing signals all the time so you don't have to cold approach.

Chicks see me before I see them.
 

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:russ: You dudes are still out here approaching total strangers in public?

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Be afraid to talk to fellow human beings brehs
 

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@1-8-7-Skillz called me out too.
I got the dress-fly aspect, but when a sista does talk to me...I see now that I don't know how to follow up.
Example: I'm walkin into Wawa to get breakfast and a fly sista in a business suit holds the door open for me, gives me the look and a smile and tells me "I hope you have a nice day".
All I did was say thank you, smile back at her and keep walkin into the store.
I couldn't come up with ANYTHING to say that would have kept the convo going or grabbed her interest.
I guess I ain't that fast of a thinker...
:mjcry::snoop:

Edit: and thinking about it again...she had to have seen my ring cause I opened the first door with my left hand and she was lookin at it when she opened the second door for me.

:snoop::to::snoop::to:
Bruh what? Just say some shyt like what's yo name? I see you in that suit, what do you do? Don't talk for too long, say you gotta go and y'all should exchange info.

Nikkas act like sh is rocket science. She either like what she sees or not.. no magic words gon change that sh.
 

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Kinda pump faked heavy this past week, i got a lot of looks and openings but never seem to follow through, largely because of approach anxiety due to other shyt. My last 5 approaches ive been rejected so i kinda fell back lately like i lost 92 bricks:to:
How do you get rejected when a shorty was choosing?

If you are getting looks and "openings" as you say, these shorties shouldn't be saying no.. especially your last 5 times :mjlol:

I've only been rejected a handful of times before getting a number. Mostly chicks don't respond to a nikkas text message, a lot of them were playing hard to get but ain't nobody got time for that
 

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Appreciate it breh. Trying to get lean for when I transfer to a university. I don't have the confidence to go to bars or clubs. I don't want to be alone and I look young. I don't think I'm ugly but just no sex appeal. I'm short and skinny af.
Breh most college students look young.

I'm 24 (look 21) with some facial hair and I think I look way more mature than a lot of my peers.

Seen a girl yesterday on campus that looked like she was 15 breh...

Probably cause my face is quite defined, strong jaw etc.. and my facial hair is thicker than it was a year or two ago.

The vast majority of dudes on University campuses are skinny af, average height, and socially awkward around strangers and large groups of people.

I'm a very observant person so I see these things everyday on campus.
 

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I hope this thread will provide insight for you :salute:

Currently thinking about what the next post is gonna be about
Yeah cuz I have been rusty and haven’t approached in the day time the last few months. Just last night at the Gems thread I posted how there is fine redbone shorty I see at the campus gym. I never approached a broad in a gym. Plus I ain’t gonna lie I’m out of shape and she is in shape so I feel a type of way go to approach her cuz in my I feel she ain’t gonna feel me. Plus I’m in a small campus for grad school. So I want to get back at approaching and get out of my head. Doesn’t help I’ll be known on the campus as the creepy grad school nikka approaching broads in the day. But ya thread has opened my eyes. I want to get my groove back.
 

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Yeah cuz I have been rusty and haven’t approached in the day time the last few months. Just last night at the Gems thread I posted how there is fine redbone shorty I see at the campus gym. I never approached a broad in a gym. Plus I ain’t gonna lie I’m out of shape and she is in shape so I feel a type of way go to approach her cuz in my I feel she ain’t gonna feel me. Plus I’m in a small campus for grad school. So I want to get back at approaching and get out of my head. Doesn’t help I’ll be known on the campus as the creepy grad school nikka approaching broads in the day. But ya thread has opened my eyes. I want to get my groove back.
If you see her often I wouldn't even go there unless you don't mind it being awkward if she rejects you.

And the fact that you been watching her for a minute, you probably got high interest in shorty.

Should have holla'd the first time you saw her.

I could smash hella shorties that I see at my campus gyms but I ain't on that casual sex tip so I leave it alone. I go in the gym focused and I go hard. Only been lifting consistently for a year and I'd say I got a nice body. The fact that I'm not seeking validation from other guys or girls in the gym and I go in there focused and bust my azz everytime.. it intrigues these girls.

I've seen guys try and impress girls in the gym and it only chases the girl away.

You can shoot ya shot though.
 

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How do you get rejected when a shorty was choosing?

If you are getting looks and "openings" as you say, these shorties shouldn't be saying no.. especially your last 5 times :mjlol:

I've only been rejected a handful of times before getting a number. Mostly chicks don't respond to a nikkas text message, a lot of them were playing hard to get but ain't nobody got time for that
:beli:shyts :mindblown: breh they clearly feeling ya boy but end not giving up the digits. Cant even explain this shyt:shaq2:
 

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How to approach women COLI EDITION:
Me:"Hey bytch"
Her:"Is that the real nikka mating call?"
Me:"What you think? Now hop up in the whip and let's go"
Her:"To where?"
Me:"dikkland girl"
Her:"But my boyfriend he posts on thecoli"
Me:"Look at my rep and dap to post ratio, now let's go. No games ho"
Her:"Ok since you the realest nikka alive"
Me:"Shut up baby I know it"

:mjlit:
 

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Does it help u being older on campus? Or you just don't tell em your age?

You work full-time? I know most full-time jobs are 9-5 n shyt, so day classes are a no, but that's where the bytches be and I'm tryna get there too.


Breh most college students look young.

I'm 24 (look 21) with some facial hair and I think I look way more mature than a lot of my peers.

Seen a girl yesterday on campus that looked like she was 15 breh...

Probably cause my face is quite defined, strong jaw etc.. and my facial hair is thicker than it was a year or two ago.

The vast majority of dudes on University campuses are skinny af, average height, and socially awkward around strangers and large groups of people.

I'm a very observant person so I see these things everyday on campus.
 
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