Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice

[Booker T Garvey]

You dudes are still out here approaching total strangers in public?

 

[Marezzy]

Ok, tomorrow ill type out a lil report of all the approaches done on that day, for now a couple lines to hold you over:



Using your insecurities and turning them into advantages


This may sound strange at first, but here is how I mean it:
The last time I wrote something here, it was about being real & authentic. This is going in the same vein.



If you are starting with approaching women in your everyday life, first of all you HAVE to realize that the act of ACTUALLY doing/trying it makes you more of an actual MAN than 90/95% of the other guys out there. If you approach a girl and dont know what to say in the conversation you are more of a man than those other 95%. If she rejects you after the conversation you are more of a man than those other guys. If she brushes you off before you can even introduce yourself you are, you can already guess it, more of a man than those other dudes as well. If those dudes are seeing you „fail“, stare from across the room, look at you strange etc etc you can be damn sure that those guys dont actually have the balls to do what you just attempted. Those are the guys who want to act cool most of the times and desperately want to protect their frail egos, thinking „if I approach her and she doesnt want me/rejects me Im a loser „.

The problem of those guys is the fact that they depend on other people (In this case the girl) to give them confirmation. Those are guys who arent at peace with themselves, they can’t see their own value, accept their own personality and work with that/on themselves so they give others the power to categorize their worth & value. Basically if you are that way you will always be the other people‘s bytch, depending on them and their opinion. This wont get you anywhere in life, in your career, with women, basically with everything.




So now to touch the second point:

Turning your insecurities into advantages. If you try to play a role when you approach women, trying to portray someone you arent, bragging with non existent (yet) strengths, and desperately push your real state/feelings behind/cover them with a fake persona women will notice. They will realize „This dude isnt honest with himself, he isnt honest with me and doesnt accept himself. Thats not a man, thats a coward.“

She will immediately realize that you are too p*ssy to actually present yourself as the man who you are. And the more you try to cover yourself the more it will jump in her face. A real man is honest about himself, he knows where hes currently at, where he wants to go and what hes working on. He recognizes his weaknesses, doesnt beat around the bush but chooses to change it/work on it. So for example if you dont know what to say to the girl when you approached her, dont make a secret out of it/trying to cover it up with ridiculous pre written „lines“. For example:

You walk up to her, just say „Hey, I know it may seem strange but I just saw you walking down the street and I just HAD to stop you because you look amazing, couldnt let this chance pass to introduce myself“ or something like that. If you now got her attention just be real and tell her that you arent that experienced with it yet, dont really know what to say know and also dont take yourself too serious. I‘ll tell you when you begin and just adress the situation she‘ll immediately know „Ok, this dude doesnt have to lie/fake it, hes telling it how it is and actually got the balls to adress it .
If you try to cover up/fake your persona this will be an instant turnoff and you have a MUCH higher chance of getting a negative reaction.




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I used this yesterday and got two numbers. Adrenaline was pumping like crazy. Now I have to set up two dates.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Dont over think Just make direct eye contact and smile.

If shes interested then she will maintain the eye contact or look down in submission.

If she's not interested then she will look away and pretend not to see you. Dont harass uninterested women; its thirsty af

Convo will be better if you have things in common. Talk about whatever, she wont care if shes interested. but get to the point.

Dont try to get her approval. See if she is worth your time. Does she have a job, in school her own place or kids? Do you have shyt in common ? If not dont fukk with her.

True...though I've bagged chicks who had that nervous look.

In my thinking chicks who aren't interested in me wouldn't be intimidated by me..

Them stone face chicks who just look straight ahead I don't waste my time with them...

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Kinda pump faked heavy this past week, i got a lot of looks and openings but never seem to follow through, largely because of approach anxiety due to other shyt. My last 5 approaches ive been rejected so i kinda fell back lately like i lost 92 bricks

shyt.
@1-8-7-Skillz called me out too.
I got the dress-fly aspect, but when a sista does talk to me...I see now that I don't know how to follow up.
Example: I'm walkin into Wawa to get breakfast and a fly sista in a business suit holds the door open for me, gives me the look and a smile and tells me "I hope you have a nice day".
All I did was say thank you, smile back at her and keep walkin into the store.
I couldn't come up with ANYTHING to say that would have kept the convo going or grabbed her interest.
I guess I ain't that fast of a thinker...


Edit: and thinking about it again...she had to have seen my ring cause I opened the first door with my left hand and she was lookin at it when she opened the second door for me.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

shyt.
@1-8-7-Skillz called me out too.
I got the dress-fly aspect, but when a sista does talk to me...I see now that I don't know how to follow up.
Example: I'm walkin into Wawa to get breakfast and a fly sista in a business suit holds the door open for me, gives me the look and a smile and tells me "I hope you have a nice day".
All I did was say thank you, smile back at her and keep walkin into the store.
I couldn't come up with ANYTHING to say that would have kept the convo going or grabbed her interest.
I guess I ain't that fast of a thinker...


Edit: and thinking about it again...she had to have seen my ring cause I opened the first door with my left hand and she was lookin at it when she opened the second door for me.

Maybe she was just being courteous.

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

I used this yesterday and got two numbers. Adrenaline was pumping like crazy. Now I have to set up two dates.

 

[Marezzy]

Idk if it has been said but having an end goal with women is paramount.

Explain?

 

[Neuromancer]

Explain?

A lot of dudes don't seem to think through what they want from a woman. They want something but they aren't sure what, is it a one night stand? a fwb? a girlfriend? A wife? nikkas don't know what they want, shyt just sounds good. You have to approach everything in life with intention. As a man this is important. When you approach women what are you trying to get from her. If you know this you will waste less time because your goals will be refelected in your actions.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Maybe she was just being courteous.

Really bruh...
SHE opened the door for ME.
that NEVER happened to me before I got back to being myself.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Really bruh...
SHE opened the door for ME.
that NEVER happened to me before I got back to being myself.

Okayyy......somebody opened the door for you. That don't mean they feeling you.
So from now on, if somebody opens the door for you, you will come to the conclusion they like you because you just got back to being yourself

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Okayyy......somebody opened the door for you. That don't mean they feeling you.
So from now on, if somebody opens the door for you, you will come to the conclusion they like you because you just got back to being yourself

Another fkn troll.
fukk off.

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[Dwayne_Taylor]

Is looking down always in submission?

In my experience, yes especially if her head tilts down.

 

[ZoeGod]

This thread came right on time in my life.

 

[Rozay Oro]

You dudes are still out here approaching total strangers in public?

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

This thread came right on time in my life.

I hope this thread will provide insight for you

Currently thinking about what the next post is gonna be about