Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice

[Rozay Oro]

Is it portable?

I had a small blackstar for about a month that was pretty loud...but if you're wanting to use it with a drummer it won't do the job.

Is this for home use?

Blackstar IDCORE10 Stereo Combo Amplifier, 10W
No idea if it's portable, yup home use. Just want it for practice

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

@1-8-7-Skillz I thought u was gonna do more than 2 posts breh

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

@1-8-7-Skillz I thought u was gonna do more than 2 posts breh

Im doing another one in the next 2 hours breh
Been busy as hell the last 2 weeks, a lot to do and just moved back to my crib on monday again so I wasnt in the mood to do anything

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

So first of all Im gonna say that starting tomorrow I‘ll add more of my personal approaches/lays/success etc etc in this thread.
Im gonna talk about what Im doing in that regard from day to day, how i talk, approach, how many girls I got atm etc etc
So a kind of „diary“ every now n then if you want

But heres another gem for now:

Being real

This is something closely connected to the self consciousness aspect. Being real is one of the most important aspects in approaching/getting women and also in more important walks of life. I often see dudes who are trying to impress women, dudes who are trying to analyze what women like and act accordingly or having the misconception that forcing themselves into certain roles is going to be successfull.


Its not.


If you are a self conscious man you absolutely arent worried what some random girl thinks about you. (Something I also touched on in the „emotional connection“ part in the first post). If you are trying to portray something/someone you arent, that just reeks of insecurity and shows that you are not at peace with yourself. Me personally, like everyone else, I have my good & my bad Attributes but Im at peace with that. And its not just your characteristics, its also things like your hobbies, your past, your dreams etc etc
All of those things are part of who you are, and you should never hide your persona and its aspects but embrace it. There are dudes who would lie about their hobbies, their opinions and everything else just to paint a different picture of themselves they hope girls like, but thats weak, insecure and pathetic. Be true about yourself, tell her & show her what you like, what your intentions are, dont play stupid games because you are not a fukking child anymore.
This is especially important for dudes who are not trying to get in the friendzone or bullshyt like that. If you are real and tell her what you want/what you are interested in you wont waste your time with bullshyt.




@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold

 

[Rozay Oro]

So first of all Im gonna say that starting tomorrow I‘ll add more of my personal approaches/lays/success etc etc in this thread.
Im gonna talk about what Im doing in that regard from day to day, how i talk, approach, how many girls I got atm etc etc
So a kind of „diary“ every now n then if you want

But heres another gem for now:

Being real

This is something closely connected to the self consciousness aspect. Being real is one of the most important aspects in approaching/getting women and also in more important walks of life. I often see dudes who are trying to impress women, dudes who are trying to analyze what women like and act accordingly or having the misconception that forcing themselves into certain roles is going to be successfull.


Its not.


If you are a self conscious man you absolutely arent worried what some random girl thinks about you. (Something I also touched on in the „emotional connection“ part in the first post). If you are trying to portray something/someone you arent, that just reeks of insecurity and shows that you are not at peace with yourself. Me personally, like everyone else, I have my good & my bad Attributes but Im at peace with that. And its not just your characteristics, its also things like your hobbies, your past, your dreams etc etc
All of those things are part of who you are, and you should never hide your persona and its aspects but embrace it. There are dudes who would lie about their hobbies, their opinions and everything else just to paint a different picture of themselves they hope girls like, but thats weak, insecure and pathetic. Be true about yourself, tell her & show her what you like, what your intentions are, dont play stupid games because you are not a fukking child anymore.
This is especially important for dudes who are not trying to get in the friendzone or bullshyt like that. If you are real and tell her what you want/what you are interested in you wont waste your time with bullshyt.




@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold

I've started to do daily at home workouts in the morning and afternoon. Until I need the gym to get big. I'm too much of awkward aloof geek, this can help my confidence and make my dorkiness be forgiven by having a good body. I hope

 

[Dreamzeedream]

So first of all Im gonna say that starting tomorrow I‘ll add more of my personal approaches/lays/success etc etc in this thread.
Im gonna talk about what Im doing in that regard from day to day, how i talk, approach, how many girls I got atm etc etc
So a kind of „diary“ every now n then if you want

But heres another gem for now:

Being real

This is something closely connected to the self consciousness aspect. Being real is one of the most important aspects in approaching/getting women and also in more important walks of life. I often see dudes who are trying to impress women, dudes who are trying to analyze what women like and act accordingly or having the misconception that forcing themselves into certain roles is going to be successfull.


Its not.


If you are a self conscious man you absolutely arent worried what some random girl thinks about you. (Something I also touched on in the „emotional connection“ part in the first post). If you are trying to portray something/someone you arent, that just reeks of insecurity and shows that you are not at peace with yourself. Me personally, like everyone else, I have my good & my bad Attributes but Im at peace with that. And its not just your characteristics, its also things like your hobbies, your past, your dreams etc etc
All of those things are part of who you are, and you should never hide your persona and its aspects but embrace it. There are dudes who would lie about their hobbies, their opinions and everything else just to paint a different picture of themselves they hope girls like, but thats weak, insecure and pathetic. Be true about yourself, tell her & show her what you like, what your intentions are, dont play stupid games because you are not a fukking child anymore
This is especially important for dudes who are not trying to get in the friendzone or bullshyt like that. If you are real and tell her what you want/what you are interested in you wont waste your time with bullshyt.




@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold

All of those things are part of who you are, and you should never hide your persona and its aspects but embrace it. There are dudes who would lie about their hobbies, their opinions and everything else just to paint a different picture of themselves they hope girls like, but thats weak, insecure and pathetic. Be true about yourself, tell her & show her what you like, what your intentions are, dont play stupid games because you are not a fukking child anymore



I've been that guy breh. Its better to be yourself. You should rather be hated for who you are then loved for who your not

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

All of those things are part of who you are, and you should never hide your persona and its aspects but embrace it. There are dudes who would lie about their hobbies, their opinions and everything else just to paint a different picture of themselves they hope girls like, but thats weak, insecure and pathetic. Be true about yourself, tell her & show her what you like, what your intentions are, dont play stupid games because you are not a fukking child anymore



I've been that guy breh. Its better to be yourself. You should rather be hated for who you are then loved for who your not

New post coming soon

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

Might also be a cool read for you


Think im gonna deliver a post of all my approaches im doing tomorrow to get some more insight

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

Ok, tomorrow ill type out a lil report of all the approaches done on that day, for now a couple lines to hold you over:



Using your insecurities and turning them into advantages


This may sound strange at first, but here is how I mean it:
The last time I wrote something here, it was about being real & authentic. This is going in the same vein.



If you are starting with approaching women in your everyday life, first of all you HAVE to realize that the act of ACTUALLY doing/trying it makes you more of an actual MAN than 90/95% of the other guys out there. If you approach a girl and dont know what to say in the conversation you are more of a man than those other 95%. If she rejects you after the conversation you are more of a man than those other guys. If she brushes you off before you can even introduce yourself you are, you can already guess it, more of a man than those other dudes as well. If those dudes are seeing you „fail“, stare from across the room, look at you strange etc etc you can be damn sure that those guys dont actually have the balls to do what you just attempted. Those are the guys who want to act cool most of the times and desperately want to protect their frail egos, thinking „if I approach her and she doesnt want me/rejects me Im a loser „.

The problem of those guys is the fact that they depend on other people (In this case the girl) to give them confirmation. Those are guys who arent at peace with themselves, they can’t see their own value, accept their own personality and work with that/on themselves so they give others the power to categorize their worth & value. Basically if you are that way you will always be the other people‘s bytch, depending on them and their opinion. This wont get you anywhere in life, in your career, with women, basically with everything.




So now to touch the second point:

Turning your insecurities into advantages. If you try to play a role when you approach women, trying to portray someone you arent, bragging with non existent (yet) strengths, and desperately push your real state/feelings behind/cover them with a fake persona women will notice. They will realize „This dude isnt honest with himself, he isnt honest with me and doesnt accept himself. Thats not a man, thats a coward.“

She will immediately realize that you are too p*ssy to actually present yourself as the man who you are. And the more you try to cover yourself the more it will jump in her face. A real man is honest about himself, he knows where hes currently at, where he wants to go and what hes working on. He recognizes his weaknesses, doesnt beat around the bush but chooses to change it/work on it. So for example if you dont know what to say to the girl when you approached her, dont make a secret out of it/trying to cover it up with ridiculous pre written „lines“. For example:

You walk up to her, just say „Hey, I know it may seem strange but I just saw you walking down the street and I just HAD to stop you because you look amazing, couldnt let this chance pass to introduce myself“ or something like that. If you now got her attention just be real and tell her that you arent that experienced with it yet, dont really know what to say know and also dont take yourself too serious. I‘ll tell you when you begin and just adress the situation she‘ll immediately know „Ok, this dude doesnt have to lie/fake it, hes telling it how it is and actually got the balls to adress it .
If you try to cover up/fake your persona this will be an instant turnoff and you have a MUCH higher chance of getting a negative reaction.




@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Breh writing only in his posts, yall need to listen

And work on yourself too, the glow up effect is real. Anybody can get 1, 2, 3 etc points on a scale of 10 if they put their mind to it (sports, skin, facial hair, haircut, teeth, swag)

 

[Clark Griswold]

Y’all make females seem more complicated than a fukkin honors Cal 3 lecture.

 

[Rozay Oro]

Ok, tomorrow ill type out a lil report of all the approaches done on that day, for now a couple lines to hold you over:



Using your insecurities and turning them into advantages


This may sound strange at first, but here is how I mean it:
The last time I wrote something here, it was about being real & authentic. This is going in the same vein.



If you are starting with approaching women in your everyday life, first of all you HAVE to realize that the act of ACTUALLY doing/trying it makes you more of an actual MAN than 90/95% of the other guys out there. If you approach a girl and dont know what to say in the conversation you are more of a man than those other 95%. If she rejects you after the conversation you are more of a man than those other guys. If she brushes you off before you can even introduce yourself you are, you can already guess it, more of a man than those other dudes as well. If those dudes are seeing you „fail“, stare from across the room, look at you strange etc etc you can be damn sure that those guys dont actually have the balls to do what you just attempted. Those are the guys who want to act cool most of the times and desperately want to protect their frail egos, thinking „if I approach her and she doesnt want me/rejects me Im a loser „.

The problem of those guys is the fact that they depend on other people (In this case the girl) to give them confirmation. Those are guys who arent at peace with themselves, they can’t see their own value, accept their own personality and work with that/on themselves so they give others the power to categorize their worth & value. Basically if you are that way you will always be the other people‘s bytch, depending on them and their opinion. This wont get you anywhere in life, in your career, with women, basically with everything.




So now to touch the second point:

Turning your insecurities into advantages. If you try to play a role when you approach women, trying to portray someone you arent, bragging with non existent (yet) strengths, and desperately push your real state/feelings behind/cover them with a fake persona women will notice. They will realize „This dude isnt honest with himself, he isnt honest with me and doesnt accept himself. Thats not a man, thats a coward.“

She will immediately realize that you are too p*ssy to actually present yourself as the man who you are. And the more you try to cover yourself the more it will jump in her face. A real man is honest about himself, he knows where hes currently at, where he wants to go and what hes working on. He recognizes his weaknesses, doesnt beat around the bush but chooses to change it/work on it. So for example if you dont know what to say to the girl when you approached her, dont make a secret out of it/trying to cover it up with ridiculous pre written „lines“. For example:

You walk up to her, just say „Hey, I know it may seem strange but I just saw you walking down the street and I just HAD to stop you because you look amazing, couldnt let this chance pass to introduce myself“ or something like that. If you now got her attention just be real and tell her that you arent that experienced with it yet, dont really know what to say know and also dont take yourself too serious. I‘ll tell you when you begin and just adress the situation she‘ll immediately know „Ok, this dude doesnt have to lie/fake it, hes telling it how it is and actually got the balls to adress it .
If you try to cover up/fake your persona this will be an instant turnoff and you have a MUCH higher chance of getting a negative reaction.




@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

Thanks breh

 

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Y’all make females seem more complicated than a fukkin honors Cal 3 lecture.

I don’t get how people can be intelligent enough to sign up for an Internet forum but not intelligent enough to realize not everyone is adept at certain skills.

Imagine a chef looking his nose down on someone else because they don’t know how to cook yet

 

[LiveFromLondon]

keep up the good work breh

 

[Dreamzeedream]

Y’all make females seem more complicated than a fukkin honors Cal 3 lecture.

It's not that there complicated. Alot of the brehs on here suffer from depression/low self esteem/anxiety/have no game/no social skills/ dont take care of there self physically and mentally.... it's more about the guys than women