Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice
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Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
See...you know how to react to those situations. For some reason my mind just goes blank. Like a fukking dialtone just ringing in my head and I'm standing there like a goddamn idiot.
I gotta keep what you said on auto-play in my head.
Make that my primary response to every situation...
Thank you breh!
I look 15 too. I'm in community college tho, all I see is cacs. The few times I see a black girl, they boo'd up. I'm no mr steal yo girl. I got this caclette who's cute in one of my classes choosing. At first I thought bytch was looking at the clock, but ain't no damn clock in our small class lol. I ended up getting partnered up with her and another caclette. I couldn't flirt cause we had to be on the assignment and we were right next to the teacher. After that shyt we went back to taking notes (due to being grouped we were all seated in different spots). She still choosing me, I noticed twice with peripherals. I guess next time I'll try to smile. After class ends this bytch jets with her bytches. Can't wait to transfer to a university. Hopefully I'll be decent at piano and singing then to maybe join the choir.
I never done it
SheWantTheD
Veteran
The thing is you approaching chicks with the mindset that you wanna smash. From what it seems, you ain't genuinely interested in getting to know every chick you approach.. you just doing the numbers game.See...you know how to react to those situations. For some reason my mind just goes blank. Like a fukking dialtone just ringing in my head and I'm standing there like a goddamn idiot.
I gotta keep what you said on auto-play in my head.
Make that my primary response to every situation...
Thank you breh!
With me I like meeting new people and learning about them, what they are about etc.. so I naturally ask questions. And based off the answers they give you, ask more questions.
Example:
guy: So where you from?
girl: random state like Chicago.
guy: Oh word? You live there your whole life or what?
girl: No, I originally grew up in Atlanta but my family moved to Chicago when I was 13.
guy: Oh okay cool. Which do you like better, Chicago or Atlanta?
girl: Atlanta because.. blah blah blah
The convo above can literally happy in 8 seconds. That's a lot you can talk about in 5 minutes and then get the digits.
FLYINHAWAIIAN
Vegan For a Reason
cold approach is usually only successful if you're super perceptive of social cues... i have a hunch a lot of nikkas on here are NOT good at that lmao
Thats been established a while ago.
shyt with me, im not entertaining that mind reading shyt. They gots to be straight up obvious with it
SheWantTheD
Veteran
These chicks don't care if they find you attractive.
A lot of these chicks look like kids to me, I'm imagining I look like a senior in college to them. I go for the ones that look at least 20 but you never know really.
And nah I don't work full time, my classes are all over the place. I might go back to my old job and do part time though.
The biggest thing that hinders me really is the fact that I commute to and from school (even tho it's only 10-20 mins depending on the campus).
SheWantTheD
Veteran
I think a lot of people confuse what cold approaching is.cold approach is usually only successful if you're super perceptive of social cues... i have a hunch a lot of nikkas on here are NOT good at that lmao
Cold approaching to me is approaching women that don't even notice you or aren't giving you choosing signs to approach them.
do u mean you'd rather live on campus? would you take out loans ?
what you do for work ? I only ask because If I could get a higher paying part time job I'll be good because I don't wanna take out loans.
what you do for work ? I only ask because If I could get a higher paying part time job I'll be good because I don't wanna take out loans.
SheWantTheD
Veteran
Of course I'd rather live on campus, but am I gonna do it? hell nah! I live like 10-15 mins from school depending on the campus. And I do take out loans. I went to community college first then transferred.
I was working at a warehouse over the summer but it's a REALLY small company.. like 6 people in total.. and they told me I could come back and work any hours I wanted during my semester.
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
cold approach is usually only successful if you're super perceptive of social cues... i have a hunch a lot of nikkas on here are NOT good at that lmao
*Raises both hands*
I da pappy....
Behind-the-wheel
Living dead
Welp, I tried practicing again this morning.
Cold approached an older woman, mid 50's...
Talked for a while in line at Wawa and had her laughing, paid for her breakfast since I was in line ahead of her. She thanked me and I went about my way.
This was good...
I'm feeling more confident practicing with females I don't have any intention of going forward with. I think if I practice more, I won't be so nervous with a female I consider a dime. Of course, I won't be buying for any the way I did this morning. The older lady had big t*ts and a sweet personality, but she smoked so that's a no-go. I'll buy her breakfast, but I ain't playin with no addict.
Cold approached an older woman, mid 50's...
Talked for a while in line at Wawa and had her laughing, paid for her breakfast since I was in line ahead of her. She thanked me and I went about my way.
This was good...
I'm feeling more confident practicing with females I don't have any intention of going forward with. I think if I practice more, I won't be so nervous with a female I consider a dime. Of course, I won't be buying for any the way I did this morning. The older lady had big t*ts and a sweet personality, but she smoked so that's a no-go. I'll buy her breakfast, but I ain't playin with no addict.