Cold approaching women: the right mindset and some advice

[Behind-the-wheel]

My experience today was insane...literally.

Young white chick outside of Wawa fine as fuuuuuuck as I'm going in this morning. Perky t*ts you could see behind a sweatshirt (good size), plump little bubble under some leggings, nice hair, smelled like peaches and cream, plump lips (rare)...nice ass package.

So I stop and talk to her, she's from DC looking for work. Didnt' get to find out more before this brotha came from inside the store and introduced himself to me and got in the conversation.

So after chopping it up with him for about 5 minutes he asks me if I can come in the store with him to talk.
I'm game, so I go in with him and he tells me he's out there asking people to help him to get money for a room to fukk this little white chick at the motel and if I could help him out...


I couldn't believe it....still don't believe it.
WHO DOES THAT!?!?!?!
This is really fukkin 2018 yo...

So much wild shyt was runnin thru my mind at that minute...

"Should I pay for the room and throw all caution to the wind and get in on the action?"
"Should I just walk away from this dude?"
"Is she a prostitute?"



I wound up dapping him and giving him $5 and wishing him the best of luck.

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

My experience today was insane...literally.

Young white chick outside of Wawa fine as fuuuuuuck as I'm going in this morning. Perky t*ts you could see behind a sweatshirt (good size), plump little bubble under some leggings, nice hair, smelled like peaches and cream, plump lips (rare)...nice ass package.

So I stop and talk to her, she's from DC looking for work. Didnt' get to find out more before this brotha came from inside the store and introduced himself to me and got in the conversation.

So after chopping it up with him for about 5 minutes he asks me if I can come in the store with him to talk.
I'm game, so I go in with him and he tells me he's is out there asking people to help him to get money for a room to fukk this little white chick at the motel and if I could help him out...


I couldn't believe it....still don't believe it.
WHO DOES THAT!?!?!?!
This is really fukkin 2018 yo...

So much wild shyt was runnin thru my mind at that minute...

"Should I pay for the room and throw all caution to the wind and get in on the action?"
"Should I just walk away from this dude?"
"Is she a prostitute?"



I wound up dapping him and giving him $5 and wishing him the best of luck.

Wtf

 

[Maude]

Wtf

Breh imma add my experiences. New ones from today until. Might give you some inspiration to write

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

Breh imma add my experiences. New ones from today until. Might give you some inspiration to write

Go ahead, I been wasting my time all day just chilling , but ill go picking up grocieries later on so Ill see what I find there

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

Alright, Im making a new post here. Really gotta work on my laziness in updating this daily tho



How the people around you influence your mindset:


Another thing that many people gravely underestimate is the direct influence of your surroundings. To be successfull with women, your career, and basically everything else in life your mindset is crucial. If you dont take chances, overcome your fears & just do it you will not achieve anything. Women arent magically gonna ring your doorbell and introduce themselves to you, you wont suddenly get a couple million dollars out of nowhere and so on...
But most people dont really break out of their mental cage because of their surroundings. Very often the poeple around you will hold you back. It could be your parents telling you to not follow your true passion and instead playing it safe, or your homies being scared to approach and holding you back with their negative mindset like "I dont think this works, what if she rejects you blablabla". Of course you shouldnt just cut your parent off for just giving you (often times well meant) advice but in the case of freidns and people you associate with you should check yourself. If all the people you hang around with are people who get nothing done in life, who wait for the good things in life to suddenly happebn out of the blue without putting working in, if they are holding you back from actually evolving as a person and acomplishing your goals you should distance yourself. Me personally I cant even be bothered to hang around with people who give me those negative vibes, I used to do this in the past and shyt was depressing honestly. Chilling with people like this is like your energy getting drained. And by associating yourself with those guys you will defenitely be interrupted in your personal development.



@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

 

[Rozay Oro]

Alright, Im making a new post here. Really gotta work on my laziness in updating this daily tho



How the people around you influence your mindset:


Another thing that many people gravely underestimate is the direct influence of your surroundings. To be successfull with women, your career, and basically everything else in life your mindset is crucial. If you dont take chances, overcome your fears & just do it you will not achieve anything. Women arent magically gonna ring your doorbell and introduce themselves to you, you wont suddenly get a couple million dollars out of nowhere and so on...
But most people dont really break out of their mental cage because of their surroundings. Very often the poeple around you will hold you back. It could be your parents telling you to not follow your true passion and instead playing it safe, or your homies being scared to approach and holding you back with their negative mindset like "I dont think this works, what if she rejects you blablabla". Of course you shouldnt just cut your parent off for just giving you (often times well meant) advice but in the case of freidns and people you associate with you should check yourself. If all the people you hang around with are people who get nothing done in life, who wait for the good things in life to suddenly happebn out of the blue without putting working in, if they are holding you back from actually evolving as a person and acomplishing your goals you should distance yourself. Me personally I cant even be bothered to hang around with people who give me those negative vibes, I used to do this in the past and shyt was depressing honestly. Chilling with people like this is like your energy getting drained. And by associating yourself with those guys you will defenitely be interrupted in your personal development.



@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

I don't associate with scary brehs

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

I don't associate with scary brehs

Yeah no point in doing that.

 

[Amor fati]

Alright, Im making a new post here. Really gotta work on my laziness in updating this daily tho



How the people around you influence your mindset:


Another thing that many people gravely underestimate is the direct influence of your surroundings. To be successfull with women, your career, and basically everything else in life your mindset is crucial. If you dont take chances, overcome your fears & just do it you will not achieve anything. Women arent magically gonna ring your doorbell and introduce themselves to you, you wont suddenly get a couple million dollars out of nowhere and so on...
But most people dont really break out of their mental cage because of their surroundings. Very often the poeple around you will hold you back. It could be your parents telling you to not follow your true passion and instead playing it safe, or your homies being scared to approach and holding you back with their negative mindset like "I dont think this works, what if she rejects you blablabla". Of course you shouldnt just cut your parent off for just giving you (often times well meant) advice but in the case of freidns and people you associate with you should check yourself. If all the people you hang around with are people who get nothing done in life, who wait for the good things in life to suddenly happebn out of the blue without putting working in, if they are holding you back from actually evolving as a person and acomplishing your goals you should distance yourself. Me personally I cant even be bothered to hang around with people who give me those negative vibes, I used to do this in the past and shyt was depressing honestly. Chilling with people like this is like your energy getting drained. And by associating yourself with those guys you will defenitely be interrupted in your personal development.



@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

Good post indeed, however there are also folks that aren't really around friends, acquaintances and neither do they have intrusive parents yet they still have mental strains always wanting to achieve something yet they stop in their tracks due to possibly past failures(Traumas), fear of the unknown or got lazy conforming to their situation.

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

IM BACK ON THIS TOMORROW !!!

My posting consistency is as hell but im currently busy, working on my own business, marketing, some personal stuff as well etc etc so its a bit hard but nonetheless Ill try again here



Got some lil psychological detail for y‘all tomorrow that most people dont really know of



@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

 

[Rozay Oro]

IM BACK ON THIS TOMORROW !!!

My posting consistency is as hell but im currently busy, working on my own business, marketing, some personal stuff as well etc etc so its a bit hard but nonetheless Ill try again here



Got some lil psychological detail for y‘all tomorrow that most people dont really know of



@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

 

[NoirDynosaur]

I decided to try peacocking and died my hair/bread Purple.

A lot of chicks are intrigued and asked why I did it?

Told them...I'm on my Pepti Bismol shyt

I always put myself in locations where chicks are sociable and approachable. Clubs are more of a challenge since hella catz be going ape shyt in a small ass room lol

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

So the lil psychological aspect that I wanna tell y‘all:

A problem people often have with approaching girls is the initial reaction she has after you get your ass up, go over there and start the conversation. There are, of course, also people that reply to your approach with a very open body language and initial interest, smiling, immediately investing in the conversation etc.

But Im sure everyone whos doing this also witnessed some girls not being that open immediately, looking at you with a mix of & or something lile that (the smilies arent perfectly accurate but I think you know what I mean in general)

Now people often make the mistale to think: fukk shes already looking at me like that, damn what the fukk should I say now, this is hopeless already etc. Thats where people without practice often get nervous, dont know the right words to say, stuttering and other signs of being in an uncomfortable situation. The reason for this behaviour however is not that the girl hates you already, you look like a creepy rapist ( I think in most cases at least ) or you already failed the approach. Its just because you dont have a „common ground“ or connection yet. Normally theres this norm of not approaching random people on the street, initiating conversation or makig a move. If you now choose to break this norm a good number of people are thrown out of their element and also have to deal with this unusual situation. If you are just trying to ignore her „confusion“ now and start talking and all „polite“ and „nice“ to her to somehow convince her of yourself, her subconscious will now tell her that something is wrong and your approach is not genuine. Its like „Im not really presenting myself as „““““““worthy“““““““ of approach with this behavior but hes just ignoring it and going on with his talking. Hes not conected to me yet so his approach isnt really about my character/persona. Im not presenting myself on the same level as him right now, were not on the same wave yet. Something is fake here

The right move is to kind of mirror this, just adress the confusion, you could for example also comment on her being so shocked/confused by the approach, do it in a more funny way with a lil joke or something like that (its all up to you here). This way you will get that out the way and communicate on even grounds now/y‘all can work on building a connection without one being above the other now.


I hope it’s understandable



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@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

 

[1-8-7-Skillz]

Ill report the results of 20 approaches tomorrow just to give a lil perspective

Y‘all still on board


@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

?

Any recommendations for future write ups ?

 

[Dreamzeedream]

Ill report the results of 20 approaches tomorrow just to give a lil perspective

Y‘all still on board


@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

?

Any recommendations for future write ups ?

Yea I'm still down. I'm posted in the thread when I get off tonight

 

[Rozay Oro]

Ill report the results of 20 approaches tomorrow just to give a lil perspective

Y‘all still on board


@neotheflyingone
@Dreamzeedream
@GrindMode
@LiveFromLondon
@Rose Gold
@G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman

?

Any recommendations for future write ups ?

Sure, I want to go to a club next weekend and try to fukk a cougar. Not trying to have more car sex