From what I read in your first post, you didn't seem even seem mildly interested. You can of had a "whatever" attitude about it which makes me think your thought process was
WHAT PART OF ALL THIS CAME OUT ON THE DATE ARE YALL NOT GETTING?
That's not "women" thinking, that's birds clucking - for self importance. She's not representative bc at a certain point, women are discerning enough to not waste time with men that don't have redeeming qualities that they like. Most women are not entertaining the thought of a date until we have time to evaluate. The reason why she felt the need to go on a dinner date (emphasis on dinner) with a dude that she wasn't into (or so she claims)is to feel a sense of control bc the actual men that she wants are not giving her the feedback or ego boost. If she was really into dude - a walk at a public scenic spot is a good option for getting to know another person. Restaurant dates are impersonal and routine. She's playing the game to not get played. (Just fyi - not all of us think like her and don't have the mindset. There is enough negativity and stereotypes as it is. if a woman is receptive enough to go on a "pre-date" or meetup initially, without having or expecting you to come out the pocket - then at least she's not with the superficial).
yes he actually did, I think the screenshots are out of order but there are four. He literally typed hey how are you...so you want to get something to eat?
My attraction is funky as in, it grows. I disregard initial thoughts because it’s so rare for a guy to physically just do it for me. And it wasn’t just him not paying, he was late with no notice, he had shyt eye contact, convo we talked sports, a nonprofit he’s starting, other pretty banal but typical topics. He looked so zoned out and I told him as much but he swears he likes me and wants another chance.
The worst part is that I told him about my experience at that same Chili’s a few weeks prior and he deadass asked me five mins later “So have you ever been here?”
So then unfortunately you are admitting 1 of 2 things. Either you lack awareness or are easily tricked.
To top this off, if I asked a woman to come out with me it was usually because i wanted to do something and wanted company while doing it. And if she seemed like cool people and someone that didn’t mind kicking it with me, i paid. I didn’t even consider it a date or had the intentions of smashing (even if i wanted to).
For you to ask if you should give him a second chance sounds like you like something about him.
What is that?
And where did y’all meet, how did he get your number?
I lack situational awareness for sure but bear in mind the first time we met was over coffee at Starbucks, it wasn’t a grand opp to really observe him too well. I dressed fine and he was about to go to work. He didn’t have a haircut which again I didn’t judge him on as it was raining that day.
Oh ok It must’ve not loaded for me then because I didn’t see where he mentioned it
I missed this post. You went out with a dude you thought was rough and slow looking????
That's the perfect date to judge/observe someone. It's y'all talking. You want to get a glimpse of someone? Let them talk.
