Coli, was I being a bytch to my date? Story/texts inside..

[Yinny]

I missed this post. You went out with a dude you thought was rough and slow looking????

I can’t see your text but you have to admit that you ain’t shyt for going on a date with somebody you think so poorly of. You sure you wasn’t using him for a meal? Is chili’s that good?

The first time he looked rough but as I explained it was not an actual date. I noticed all the other stuff on the actual date, which I’ve repeated several times in here. And despite whatever you’re implying, no I wasn’t using him for a meal, I was giving him a chance to put a better foot forward, Starbucks for 10-15 mins our convo was much faster and he seemed fine.

The real clues for when I should’ve passed should’ve been mid text when he switched from so do you want to eat to let’s go sit in the dark like teenagers.

 

[paperbag]

Get left with a womb full of nut.
TWICE.
And have the audacity to open your mouth to call someone else a bird.

2 b*stard KIDS

TWO

 

[Balla]

@Damisa-Sarki has been out with me, not to put him on blast but do I act like a meal-hungry chicken head? I won’t be mad if you say yeah.

Lol I’m sorry, but your tag “we went dutch” sounds like you wanted a free meal off dude.

I give you props for not forcing him to pay and paying your own.

Sounds like dude had a good chance to smash if he would have been more smooth on the date.

 

[Yinny]

That's the perfect date to judge/observe someone. It's y'all talking. You want to get a glimpse of someone? Let them talk.
Can they hold a conversation? What are their beliefs? Are they genuinely interested in trying to know about you?

Seems like you were more concerned about going on a "traditional date" and didn't pay attention to a lot of the cues that were right in front of you.

We did that and everything was smooth which is why the behavior and eye contact stuff was striking, and I started wondering if he was maybe slow or has an attention issue.

 

[Orange cream shake]

The first time he looked rough but as I explained it was not an actual date. I noticed all the other stuff on the actual date, which I’ve repeated several times in here. And despite whatever you’re implying, no I wasn’t using him for a meal, I was giving him a chance to put a better foot forward, Starbucks for 10-15 mins our convo was much faster and he seemed fine.

The real clues for when I should’ve passed should’ve been mid text when he switched from so do you want to eat to let’s go sit in the dark like teenagers.

Was the food good at least?

 

[Yinny]

Get left with a womb full of nut.
TWICE.
And have the audacity to open your mouth to call someone else a bird.

2 b*stard KIDS

TWO

bytch got pumped and dumped twice, is a fukking alcoholic who prowls messageboards to the tune of 22k posts at all hours of the day and night, for instructions on how to hire escorts and thinks she has nerve to speak on another woman. Rich I tell ya

 

[xCivicx]

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

Sheesh

At least you gave it a shot

 

[Yinny]

Was the food good at least?

The salad was very good, if he had come any later I would’ve just ordered and eaten anyway.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

I wouldn’t say you were being a bytch, but based on what I read, it’s clear neither of you are really interested in getting to know each other.

 

[BrehWyatt]

I'm in my early 30s and he's a supervisor of security sites and is a personal trainer, offered for us to "work out" together. The thing is I def don't find him attractive but I assumed maybe he just looked rough the first time we met. He actually looks slow and dresses very poorly, so I'm pretty sure I have my answer as far as whether I can see myself with him (issa no.) But it was just a weird experience and I wanted too know if I was just tripping or is something off about him like I thought?

Shouldn't have gone with him the first time. The rest doesn't matter. You wasted his time and yours. Live and learn. On to the next.

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

@Yinny , you left out the most important bit of informationand since my Coli brehthren didnt ask, I will.

Spoiler

How was his hairline holding up

Spoiler

 

[Rockstar Mom]

He sounds like he was broke, and was trying to front.

*Before y’all get y’all panties in bunch, nothing is wrong with not being able to afford a date at certain points in your life*

BUT, be up front with it. You don’t invite someone out to eat, and then say you forgot you were on a diet. Really?

That’s like someone making plans with you, and then the day off say “Oh I thought we were getting our checks today, but it didn’t come”. Mind you, they been working at the same job for 5 years and been getting paid the same day every week, for those 5 years Just say your pockets aren’t right this week. Contrary to popular Coli belief, woman actually respect that.

But you don’t seem to be into him anyway, so no, don’t waste yours or his time on another date.

 

[Serious]

I was mildly interested before but now I’m not for the reasons I stated. As I said, I have a tendency to read too much into some things (hence the q) but my gut says nothing will come of this from my side. He claims it’s because I won’t talk on the phone with him but I told him I hate it unless they’re vips in my life.

When are we going on a date

 

[Guile]

This guy is running game.
Not gonna give you any advice but this is an old move he just pulled on you. Set a time, don't show up on time, make her wait more, and don't pay for her meal. If you would have let him hit that would b nail in the coffin and he would always view you a certain way.

 

[Serious]

My attraction is funky as in, it grows. I disregard initial thoughts because it’s so rare for a guy to physically just do it for me. And it wasn’t just him not paying, he was late with no notice, he had shyt eye contact, convo we talked sports, a nonprofit he’s starting, other pretty banal but typical topics. He looked so zoned out and I told him as much but he swears he likes me and wants another chance.


The worst part is that I told him about my experience at that same Chili’s a few weeks prior and he deadass asked me five mins later “So have you ever been here?”

Sports? Did the denver nuggets come up