Coli, was I being a bytch to my date? Story/texts inside..

[The M.I.C.]

...please explain..........sweet meat

You were over the top with that post..I almost could've swore I heard Michael Bolton singing in the background reading that bullshyt.

 

[mannyrs13]

Is that the same dude who put his thumb in your ass?

 

[Serious]

So I went out Sat evening to dinner. Mind you, the guy asked me out, the first time we met we went to Starbucks and chatted. It was whatever, I decided it'd be okay if he took me out for a formal date. So here's strike .5 (See text messages):




So I passed, and then he hits me up again this Saturday to go out TO DINNER. He picked Chili's in *** at 7, so I'm like okay cool, I'm confirming with him to make sure that still works as I was less than 10 mins away by car.

I get to Chili's at 7:02, he's nowhere in sight - I text him I'm here and then call as it was crowded so I wanted to know where he was (figured he was already there). He calls me back and says he was there earlier but ran an errand and would be back in 15 mins. I order a drink and wait at a table, he strolls in at 7:30.

I told him he should've just said something instead of me having to contact him for his whereabouts for a time HE picked.

Anyway, we order, and I'm noticing that he makes shyt eye contact, literally looking everywhere as he talks like a child.

Finally after finishing our food I pull out my wallet and ask "So how do you want to do this? Are we splitting it?"

He pretty much didn't say anything. Bear in mind my salad was 11.99 and my drink was $9.

So I paid my part and he gets up to walk me to my car, tried to put his hand around my waist and I smacked it away like

Then I told him in the parking lot that he could get a handshake instead of a hug and that wasn't a date because I paid my own way, he starts juelzing about how he was gonna pay but he's had experiences before where a woman was just using him for food blahblahblah I didn't gaf so I told him nah it wan't a date.

He wants another chance. Should I let him make it up or am I being a bytch for deading him?

Ok done trolling....

But I just read this and you two legit have no chemistry from the dry ass text conversation, along as with the body language that was being displayed.

Dude from the jump wasn't trying "eat" and he said as much, from what I gathered.

He sounds cheap more than anything, but he could just be inexperienced. Like dude should have came more correct with a formal activity, instead of "just chilling" and looking at scenery. I mean it works for some women, but a lot of women just want to do some type activity during the initial part of dating, before mindlessly chilling.

I mean are you really feeling this guy. Like is there at least any sexual chemistry, or was he being a creep when he reached for you waist.....

Because for me, I can get away with bit more if I'm that aggressive, because most of the women, I deal with find me attractive. but then again...

I'm not trying lowball my someone I'm on a date with either, so for one I probably wouldnt pick a place like Chili's unless I'm still skeptical of the woman, and two i'd never be cheap and 3) I would make my intentions by flirting and joking to put women at ease.

I get dudes are tired of women using them for dinner dates, then coming up "empty-handed" or ghosted, but that's not usually my reality, even if I pay. Women are usually hella receptive to meet up some other time or trying hookup right after the "date".

With that said, Idk why you made this thread like others have said unless you want some critiques regarding where you may have went wrong.

But like I said from what I gathered you weren't feeling him, and I guess he kinda sensed it.

 

[Yinny]

I’m open

Ok done trolling....

But I just read this and you two legit have no chemistry from the dry ass text conversation, along as with the body language that was being displayed.

Dude from the jump wasn't trying "eat" and he said as much, from what I gathered.

He sounds cheap more than anything, but he could just be inexperienced. Like dude should have came more correct with a formal activity, instead of "just chilling" and looking at scenery. I mean it works for some women, but a lot of women just want to do some type activity during the initial part of dating, before mindlessly chilling.

I mean are you really feeling this guy. Like is there at least any sexual chemistry, or was he being a creep when he reached for you waist.....

Because for me, I can get away with bit more if I'm that aggressive, because most of the women, I deal with find me attractive. but then again...

I'm not trying lowball my someone I'm on a date with either, so for one I probably wouldnt pick a place like Chili's unless I'm still skeptical of the woman, and too i'd never be cheap...

I get dudes are tired of women using them for dinner dates, then coming up "empty-handed" or ghosted, but that's not usually my reality, even if I pay. Women are usually hella receptive to meet up some other time or trying hookup right after the "date".

With that said, Idk why you made this thread like others have said unless you want some critiques regarding where you may have went wrong.

But like I said from what I gathered you weren't feeling him, and I guess he kinda sensed it.

I’m open to criticism on my behavior/texts and of course expected the bird comments. Dating has been interesting to say the least and I know I fall short in some areas, I was wondering if I was being too hard on breh. Besides it’s always a good day for a plat.

Happy Monday everyone

Spoiler

and we throwing hands you crack on my Nuggets again

 

[Jhoon]

You don't find him attractive

The date was trash

He seems to have no redeeming qualities

What are you hesitating for again?

She’s over 30.

 

[...o3]

You were over the top with that post..I almost could've swore I heard Michael Bolton singing in the background reading that bullshyt.

...back in the day, a little michael bolton in the background helped to get the mood right.

 

[Umoja]

:youdontsay::youdontsay::youdontsay:...care to expound?

I have no problem paying for dates. Unless she insists on paying, I will cover but it isn't because it is "my way of saying thanks for blessing me with her time."

You devalue yourself with that fukkery.

 

[Serious]

I’m open

I’m open to criticism on my behavior/texts and of course expected the bird comments. Dating has been interesting to say the least and I know I fall short in some areas, I was wondering if I was being too hard on breh. Besides it’s always a good day for a play.

Happy Monday everyone

Spoiler

and we throwing hands you crack on my Nuggets again

If you want give him another chance.

But be upfront with him about your expectations. Like you clearly want for him to take initiative and plan out a date.

Come on that's really what you want. You're not expecting the moon and the sun, but at least some initiative regarding putting a little thought into the evening besides chilling and observing the waterfront, and this go with the flow mentality.



As for the thuggets, we play y'all opening week, so you already know we'll be ready.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Yep, but he Def is so I’m not sure how he’s a personal trainer?

This thread is funny. He’s an overweight personal trainer? Explains the diet. Wonder how his clients feel about that though?

I haven’t been to chili’s since I was in undergrad. It’s straight trash as far as food goes. Those chicken crispers used to fukk up my stomach. Honestly I hate dinner dates and find them awkward, but I feel like chili’s is definitely an L as far as dates go.

As for the op, move on. Y’all arent a good match. You did come off as bytchy in those texts. And he came off as inconsiderate and awkward, the whole combination just sounds cringe worthy. You value a man who dresses nice, is confident, and you’re interested in traditional dating, where you do dinners and whatnot. He’s not compatible with what you want, not to mention you aren’t attracted to him. Don’t waste either one of your time by going on a third date.

 

[Serious]

This thread is funny.

I haven’t been to chili’s since I was in undergrad. It’s straight trash as far as food goes. Those chicken crispers used to fukk up my stomach.

As for the op, move on. Y’all arent a good match. You did come off as bytchy in those texts. And he came off as inconsiderate and awkward, the whole combination just sounds cringe worthy. You value a man who dresses nice, is confident, and you’re interested in traditional dating, where you do dinners and whatnot. He’s not compatible with what you want, not to mention you aren’t attracted to him. Don’t waste either one of your times by going on a third date.

I was waiting for you to find this thread

But I can't rock with you on chili's being garbage. I just went to near my house, for the first time in years and the food was bomb. Totally exceeded my expectations for the price I paid. It's about to be my new go to spot lowkey.

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

Y’all don’t kno what u want?

Chili’s isn’t good btw

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

I was waiting for you to find this thread

But I can't rock with you on chili's being garbage. I just went to near my house, for the first time in years and the food was bomb. Totally exceeded my expectations for the price I paid. It's about to be my new go to spot lowkey.

The chili’s out here wack breh

 

[Balla]

An @Yinny if you don't mind a little extra advice. Take it or leave it.

Men respond better to soft persuasion than direct criticism. For example, if you wanted his to take you to dinner but he suggested just sitting on the board walk, instead of saying "No I don't wanna do that." I would say "Okay that's great." I would meet with him, give him goo goo eyes and then once an hour passed I would hit him with "Oh babe I love talking with you but I'm starving. Imma head home to eat something before I die". *giggle*

Ain't a man alive would let your sexy ass leave and not buy you some food.

Lmao

I’ll be like “lemme join you, I’m hungry too”

 

[Data-Hawk]

Dead ass. He doesn’t even like you like that. Some women be thinking they’re so smart.

He’s playing you too. He was probably going to flake on you, but thought better if it once you hit him up. He’s trying to smash with minimum effort, but he ain’t feeling you like that. A dude telling you he went to the UPS Store when he was supposed to be meeting you, and you think you going Dutch hurt him?

Bold is the truth. Homeboy left and was going to ditch you. But was on some 2nd thought stuff. Probably had nothing else better to do and was hungry...lol

 

[Mac Brown]

You lost him in the text. He seemed enthusiastic and into you but when you basically said it would be "boring" to just sit with him you lost him which his probably why he was late, disinterested and didn't want to pay.

You shot yourself in the foot before the date even started.

People are saying he wasn't interested. That's not the case. You lost his interest with the language you used and also made it seem like you were just looking to be entertained.

Go back and read your texts as if you were him; a guy interested in a woman.

Men are VERY sensitive. You gotta watch your language. Sometimes less is more.

That’s some good game you spit sis