Darkskin black man gets shut down after bringing up his experiences with colorism

[broller]

First chick bad as fuk.
Them other birds I would’ve ignored with prejudice

word. dark skinned and straight up beautiful.

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

That’s good you still approach breh. How do you keep the confidence to keep doing it after what you been through?

I’m surprised you didn’t get a chick off that yet. Do you remember anything that ya last chick said that she liked about you? Maybe you can use that for the new chicks.

I've had a FEW women. They like everything about me--personality, humor, style, masculinity--except for my face (This is what they tell me).

I stay confident only because I've been approaching since I was a kid on the corner.

 

[Balla]

I've had a FEW women. They like everything about me--personality, humor, style, masculinity--except for my face (This is what they tell me).

I stay confident only because I've been approaching since I was a kid on the corner.

Just keep approaching breh. All you need is 2 chicks to stick around, then get one pregnant and you good.

Speaking of style; what nikkas wearing in NY nowadays? Like kicks and jeans.

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

Just keep approaching breh. All you need is 2 chicks to stick around, then get one pregnant and you good.

Speaking of style; what nikkas wearing in NY nowadays? Like kicks and jeans.

Any type of designer shyt to be honest.

While there are some trends, there's been this "anything goes" situation ever since the pandemic. As long as it looks good, it's valid.

I just copy whatever the scammers or curlfest type nikkas are rocking.

 

[RiffRaff]

I don’t buy that these women have trouble with men because of their skin color.

Not the men they want, given their “status”. That’s the issue (in their minds).


There’s a couple things at play here. Dark skinned women do have it tougher in the dating world even than their dark skinned male counterparts. This really isn’t up for debate. Everyone should want to be loved, but it’s just an uncomfortable reality of life. The issue is these women only care about this problem individually and not as a collective. You do not see happily married black women of any color discussing this shyt typically because once they get theirs it’s “good luck everyone else”. And that’s why it’s hard for me to take these arguments seriously. You only care because YOU aren’t being desired like YOU want. And the second YOU are, you don’t care about the larger issue at hand.

Comes across as disingenuous. It’s also why I tell brehs to date and do whatever they want regardless of what others say. The loudest detractors would switch up in a second if the opportunity presented itself more times than not.

 

[TheOptimisticCynikal]

Colorism is so rife in the Caribbean it's disgusting. And it goes past being bitter about not getting chose by people you want, I mean attitudes towards light skin people compared to dark skins and that saddest part is, dark skin/brown skin people are the ones that perpetuate it the most, which allows light skin people to carry themselves with this air of expectancy of better treatment all because they're so used to being worshipped by low self esteem nikkas because they're closer to the complexion of their colonisers. It's like lesser racism, but from your own people.

 

[calixprynce]

If you ever wondered why a lot of black women's complaints about colorism fall upon dead ears this is why.

The truth is that a lot black women are just as color struck as black men.

black women are actually the only ones I be seeing on social media on their anti lightskin shyt

to prefer dark skin is one thing, but to put lite skin down in the process is kinda like wenches and bucks who put whites on pedestals while talking bad on black men/women

 

[RealAssanova]

When the dude was sharing his experiences, it was downplayed. It was “oh, we were young and silly”.

But the women’s plight has to be emphasized and highlighted more?

Why get into these types of discussions? They even mock him by callin him father

This is proof that men cannot and should not debate/rationalize/argue with women.

 

[DA_LURKA]

The usual, "aww so pretty they look just like you, but with the added advantage of being light skinned." This was from dark and light skinned women...

Simply disgusting...

 

[Azul]

For some reason I can't quote @calixprynce but I've touched on that. That is colorism indeed and a self-esteem thing.

They are dead wrong dismissing that brother's experiences. I've had to check plenty of my students male and female about disparaging comments and self-deprecating comments over the years. I think we need to allow men to have a space to speak on their past traumas. Them girls wack for that. How can they expect empathy and understanding if they don't give it?

Colorism imo is a spectrum and complex. I've been a victim of it, and I can now be honest enough to say I've perpetuated it in the past. While I have stated that some women who complain of colorism may just be unfortunately seen as generally unattractive to the average person (as was the case with SOME of the interviewees in "Dark Girls"), we gotta stop assuming "attractive" dark skin women don't experience it. I've spoken on it numerous times.

I've had dudes tell me how they would make an "exception" for me even though they don't really like dark-skinned. Or the guy who told me in front of everyone that he couldn't believe how "black" I was but I was "the prettiest girl in here."

I've modeled here and there and the gigs were I struggled to get booked were those that weren't specifically looking for someone dark.

I had a casting director (white) tell me my skintone doesn't translate well with the camera (I was 15).

I do think a lot of darker skinned women need to be honest about how their experiences with colorism may have pushed them to express colorist tendencies as well in the dating world (whether it is developing a stronger attraction to lightskin men while avoiding darker men or extreme adversion to them). It is not all of us, but more than just a few.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

All of them chicks are beautiful…..except for that confrontational one

and thus why she's angry and dissmisive but they be the ones.

it's not even light skin women with the colorism it's usually dark women in my personal experience as a dark male.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

White Imperialism and Colonialism did a NUMBER on us

meh

we have enough awareness and knowledge to overcome yet here we still are.

 

[WavyHair ChippedTeeth]

Zeze gon Zeze. SMH.

 

[Un-AmericanDreamer]

Just get you a non black woman or a rare black woman who doesn't think like this and call it a day. SYSBM.

 

[Exlurkernegro]

The part I hate the most is this notion that dark skin men are "in".

There's no way I'd be in a 10 year drought if this were the case.

When they say dark skin nikkas they're talking about these nikkas or asap rocky.