Dating as a 30+ yr old man

[franknitty711]

I put a baby in my GF at 30 and got married a year later. My late teens and twenties I did everything I wanted to do.

I think in my 30's if I were single I would be super selective and find someone who has their life together. There are a lot of potentials out there that look better in their 30's than their twenties. They look better when they are making 150K plus a year .

It may be time to make that move of keep banging the ones that are divorced and just want a physical relationship.

 

[Balla]

That was my first year really trying online dating and it was, again, like shooting fish in a barrel. And I'm not sure what you mean. I, like most heterosexual men, like p*ssy in abundance. My criteria was simple. If I was physically attracted to you and I could be around you for at least 2 hours without you getting on my nerves or hinting that you needed money, we were gonna fukk. I was a womanizer. That simple. It's no depth to it. And I don't allow women to bring drama to my life. I'm not one of those dudes. You act up, you're gone. You have a constant attitude? I cease contact and block. I don't tolerate women's bullshyt like a good majority of men do because they're scared of losing them.

Lol nah it’s normal and I agree with you, but nikkas always talking shyt about a nikka wanting to fukk mad women instead of doing something else.

nikkas legit be asking “why would you fukk so many women? Are you hurt?”

nikkas try to make you feel like you not normal for wanting to fukk a lot of women.

They always say you should do this and that and look at you sideways for what you wanna do with your time.

Good looks on the breakdown tho.

 

[M.O.N.E.Y.]

I'm 33. Just qualified as a lawyer.
Dating now is easy mode - even on the apps which are shyt for most guys (they were for me previously)

I've been on more dates, been with more women, in the last 2 years than I had for the entirety of my 20's.

Wish it didn't have to be this way and i was more successful in my 20s but that's life. When it's your time its your time and vice versa.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Dating should be easier. I just turned 30, tall, fit with a good career. I just jumped on Tinder two weeks ago and hitting 150 plus matches. Women in real life are making it obvious that they would like to date me. I sacrificed a lot of time in my 20's to get where I am today so I am in no rush now to be lockdown and I spent this whole past year trying to get my folks retirement home back home build. Now I just want to focus on work, traveling, keeping healthy and enjoying life.

I met a good one this weekend, masters, good career, real nice but these women are at the age where they start pressing you for commitment and marriage and I just don't want that yet. Part of me is scared I may miss out .

You start meeting these types

-Career minded women who want to settle down with guys on her level, many of them are legit good ones like the one I recently met.
-Single moms, they have it the toughest when it comes to dating.
-spent their 20's partying it up in every club in the city and now late 20's , early 30s trying to rush to get their life together or latch on to a simp.

 

[The Lyon King]

Im 40...just bagged a bad Puerto Rican that's 23

 

[Commish]

OP..

You are no where near being old!

When you hit your 70s, then you will be old, but at that point count your blessings because many people will not make it to that point!

I got late teenage years over you and although I recognize that I am technically on young old nikka status, I still feel young in spirit!

Yes, the dynamics of dating changes as you get older, but so does your standards, priorities and perspective in life..

You are at a stage in your life where you could still date women in their early to mid 20s and not be looked at as being creepy, although I think that is stupid considering that it is common for men to date younger women.

As people age they get married, have kids, etc, but you will also be surprised that there are plenty of women in your age bracket and even older who do not have significant others and children.

If you are seeking a different outcome in the dating realm, then you need to travel. You may be pleasantly surprised on what you may stumble upon..

 

[Be Strong Blackman]

30s have been the best time for me. wiser, smoother, more confident. ladies like energy..how you make them feel

 

[patscorpio]

im glad i met my lady when i was 26 ...if i was dating into my 30s id lowkey prolly become a savage lol

 

[MikelArteta]

yeah the market shifts, once chicks hear your career and if you have no kids then its

There were times in my twenties i went months and months and months without a date when I was single even though I was looking, now I've gone out sometimes with like 4 different women in a week. Ad my dry spells are like 1-2 weeks max now

I'm 33. Just qualified as a lawyer.
Dating now is easy mode - even on the apps which are shyt for most guys (they were for me previously)

I've been on more dates, been with more women, in the last 2 years than I had for the entirety of my 20's.

Wish it didn't have to be this way and i was more successful in my 20s but that's life. When it's your time its your time and vice versa.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I’ll say it’s easier if you’re about chasing tail and lowered standards plus going out a lot.

However, if you give your life to Christ, you cannot have any ol’ woman if you’re living the faith faithfully. I’ve kind of always been a recluse so it helps. My ex was a young ting (just turned 24) but a firecracker and it wasn’t what I ultimately wanted or what God had set out for me.

I lived a life of sin very early so I didn’t have to wait until my 30s to get various tail. With no ego, I’ve had sex with over 100 women by 25. I’ve stopped counting after like 70. I don’t even know how many in total or care to.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

How did you manage to fukk 75?

Like time wise?

Could you give a break down on how you made a living and did other things and still have time to go on dates and sleep with 75 women in a year?

And also bro, how different do you look now than at 31? And when did you stop having success?

Man, between 2013-2015, you wouldn’t even believe the numbers I was putting up. I was a true man whore... and I personally think I’m above average when it comes to looks. So I can only imagine the numbers better looking brehs were putting up.

Btw, these were minimum 6s I was smashing.

 

[Lil Bape the PostGod]

At what age in your 30s should you stop eating off the 21 yr old plate though?

Or is it always fair game

 

[se1f_made]

At what age in your 30s should you stop eating off the 21 yr old plate though?

Or is it always fair game

As long as you can still eat pleighboi

 

[ThrobbingHood]

yeah the market shifts, once chicks hear your career and if you have no kids then its

There were times in my twenties i went months and months and months without a date when I was single even though I was looking, now I've gone out sometimes with like 4 different women in a week. Ad my dry spells are like 1-2 weeks max now

Truer words were never spoken. Now that I’m older and more established, I literally have to turn down women. There just aren’t enough hours in the day.

I’m a quality over quantity guy but even then, the plethora of women out there are ridiculous. Now that I’m older with an established career, I hardly have to even try.

This isn’t me bragging, this is me saying that as long as you’re:

In shape.
Have a decent career.
Not completely hideous looking.
Can carry a conversation.
Dress nicely.
Above average height.
Have a personality.
No baby mamas.
Own place.

It really isn’t hard to bag women. Most of those qualities you should’ve established in your 20s. I didn’t have a real decent career until the past few years but I was in a long term relationship.

Now that I’m free, I’m eating like a pig.

 

[King Poetic]

It’s really hard out here and don’t let these dudes tell u different

I only date black women, but 90% of the black women in my age bracket I like 32 to 43 have a kid or 2... the ones I encounter without kids seem more about their careers than a man or they still hoping eldris Elba divorces his wife and come save them..