Dating as a 30+ yr old man

[ThrobbingHood]

It’s really hard out here and don’t let these dudes tell u different

I only date black women, but 90% of the black women in my age bracket I like 32 to 43 have a kid or 2... the ones I encounter without kids seem more about their careers than a man or they still hoping eldris Elba divorces his wife and come save them..

It’s only hard if you limit yourself.

I’m settling down with a black woman, but I’ll be damned if I limit the hos I’m smashing/dating down to one demographic.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

It’s really hard out here and don’t let these dudes tell u different

I only date black women, but 90% of the black women in my age bracket I like 32 to 43 have a kid or 2... the ones I encounter without kids seem more about their careers than a man or they still hoping eldris Elba divorces his wife and come save them..

This is true but I’d adjust the range to 25-40.

If they still look decent with no child then they’re holding out a little bit longer which is a bummer.

I’m talking to a nice woman of God with no kids and she’s real focused on building her relationship with God so my test is patience. We’re both very uncomfortably honest with one another so when the time comes, it will be best.

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

29 and eating better than I was at 19


Lmao I feel sorry for some y’all

 

[big bun]

I would do quite well if I was single. But at my age I have realized those younger girls (20s) are not checking for me no more. Hell, i’m not checking for them either

 

[EndDomination]

I'm just getting back in the dating game. I had my first child at 14 and I got married at 20 so I spent my prime years working hard and holding sh1t down.

Last year I hit my stride and got my first corporate job and as my professional career excelled my marriage fell apart. To be quite honest, this dating sh1t in Atlanta is cool because we have alot of bad b1tches that don't expect much. The only downfall is the women from 28-34 are trying to get married and have kids quick and I have already done that.

Story?

 

[EndDomination]

Truer words were never spoken. Now that I’m older and more established, I literally have to turn down women. There just aren’t enough hours in the day.

I’m a quality over quantity guy but even then, the plethora of women out there are ridiculous. Now that I’m older with an established career, I hardly have to even try.

This isn’t me bragging, this is me saying that as long as you’re:

In shape.
Have a decent career.
Not completely hideous looking.
Can carry a conversation.
Dress nicely.
Above average height.
Have a personality.
No baby mamas.
Own place.

It really isn’t hard to bag women. Most of those qualities you should’ve established in your 20s. I didn’t have a real decent career until the past few years but I was in a long term relationship.

Now that I’m free, I’m eating like a pig.

The bolded isn't even necessary.

It’s really hard out here and don’t let these dudes tell u different

I only date black women, but 90% of the black women in my age bracket I like 32 to 43 have a kid or 2... the ones I encounter without kids seem more about their careers than a man or they still hoping eldris Elba divorces his wife and come save them..

Its not that hard out here, honestly
I'm a younger guy though, but I was coming across plenty of beautiful career women before I started a serious relationship w/ my girl.
None of them were even high maintenance or as absurd as some of these posters are claiming

 

[Goon for hire]

Flabby old nikkas (30+) lose again

 

[Morethan1]

I'm glad this thread was made. I honestly think it's about location. I live in a small town and it's hard finding someone that's not on bullshyt or have their shyt together. Im on match and moved my location to Boston, Seattle and Atlanta and with in 10 minutes women were hitting me up. I'm not bragging because I'm #uglygang but bad one's reached out to me to set up a date. I can't because I don't live in those area's.

When you get the opportunity you have to have a nice mouth peice to keep them intrested/entertained.

I just checked I have 15 unread messages and a bunch I've responded to.

I send this out every time shyt works like magic

Alright, (insert name)I'm not gonna lie, I think you're absolutely beautiful and would love to treat you to dinner sometime if you give me the pleasure of doing so.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

The bolded isn't even necessary.

Tell that to most women.

 

[Hey_zeus]

32, and it's decent. I have a good amount of choices because of where i work and live. It's really about whether I'm taking care of my shyt and getting after these fees. I have less time so i have high standards now a days which can make wifing something a challenge.

 

[Meowth tote da Uzi]

Shiddd. If you in yo 30s but look like you into 20s better become a wolf in sheeps clothing.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

It’s really hard out here and don’t let these dudes tell u different

I only date black women, but 90% of the black women in my age bracket I like 32 to 43 have a kid or 2... the ones I encounter without kids seem more about their careers than a man or they still hoping eldris Elba divorces his wife and come save them..

At that age many do, that's why I want to start cuffing at 33. I dont want to raise someone's kids.
I prefer women who prioritize careers so it's not a problem. My only issue is women who just stop giving and let themselves get fat.

 

[Mowgli]

how old was your wife at the time?

26

 

[Weaver31]

It isn't hard dating at age 30+ but of course everything has its pros and cons.

If u don't have ur shyt together, then u will probably have issues. Like by 35, u should be on an upward trajectory with ur job/career so that u could have ur own spot. Its really paramount to be established financially so u can be seen as an eligible bachelor.

Also, get in shape if u haven't. Watch ur eating habits and eat cleaner. One thing a lot of older people do is let go and some let go very early in their 20's. U got those with and without kids who let go. U got those who are married or in relationships and those who are single who let go so soon. U just gotta keep urself together. That will help with ur personality and energy as well cuz u will have more confidence and more positive energy.

 

[The Fukin Prophecy]

Some of yall needlessly overcomplicating this...

30 year old man with 50k or lower income will struggle in any city...You are picking from the bottom of the barrel because you are a bottom of the barrel man...

30 year old in shape 100k plus income will eat in any city...You're the cream of the crop, the type of man women want to settle down with...