Discretion is a Super Power

[Deep_Black_Conscious]

It is. And I was just as disappointed in humanity as you are when I learned this was actually a thing. Some blk professors drive beat up cars to work.

this is why I still fukk with people who saw I wasn't shyt or when I was at my worst and were like

everyone knows when it comes to personal life it's a jungle out here we just trying to survive
people are shallow as hell though so

 

[BaggerofTea]

If you beyond the age of 18+ and still dont have discretion, you never will imo

 

[Monsanto]

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

On your job. It’s a superpower

There are professors being passed up for tenure because once they invited the department to their cribs and the others saw how they were living, they tried to make that professor’s life a living hell.

N O P E.

I can keke all day long on the job. But you don’t need to know sheeiiiitttt.

Where you read about this? Folks were jealous?

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Especially in relationships. One of the WORST things you can do. WORST THINGS is run your mouth about your relationship to family or friends.

Things will happen in your interactions with others. You will go through ups and downs. But don’t vent about them to people who are untrustworthy. Because once you work through the issues, the drama-driven chatty patties will still be there with a loaded gun filled with ammo ready to start some shyt again.

Not everybody needs to know everything. And keep family out of your friendships, relationships too. Gird your energy. Some of you have people you think are down for you in your circle right now. Your emotional nudes ain’t safe with em.

For a lot of bytches it would take something as rare as seeing Halley’s Comet to make them even consider this.

 

[WesCrook]

Cardinal sin # 1.

Telling someone what you think or feel at work.

Tactic: "How do you feel about this Em?"

Me: " I don't know. How do you feel?"

Always have something that you have to work on that you forgot - stay moving and seen via written and verbal communication about work or business only.
If you don't have any. FIND something.

The Hen House in the office can be moody one day and fine the next.
One was complaining about another one one time and I just said "I do not care" and then I was the bad guy.

She left my cubicle though....which was the goal.

 

[WesCrook]

There are those who treat their lives like an open book and feel you should reciprocate.

 

[Wildhundreds]

There are those who treat their lives like an open book that feel you should reciprocate.

Keeping your business private pi$$es people off. Especially after they run their mouth to you about theirs. Telling me things I care absolutely nothing about.

 

[Unknown Poster]

I dunno who needed to hear this today, but learning how to move in silence, having discretion, knowing how to interact with people while keeping your mouth shut…

It’s a SUPER POWER.
An art form.
A relationship/marriage saver
A bond keeper.
A life saver.
A job/networking asset.

It goes beyond just minding your business. Or putting on a facade of mystery.

You don’t have to be withdrawn either. You just need to know how to keep your mouth shut in what situations.
You can be happy go lucky, as talkative as you wanna be and still have people know very little about you.

Not everybody needs to know everything. The sun doesn’t need to know the business of the moon.

This is how I move now. And I value my privacy.

I only promote my music on social media. I don't talk about my personal life online cause I like things to be private.

So many people share way too much and give the wrong people ammo for the right time.

 

[Waldo Geraldo Faldo]

Always been a discreet person ever since a youngin. I don’t like unwanted/unofficial people in my shyt.

Folks at the office use to be like, “we don’t know anybody about you. Your like Batman”…damn, straight…that is intentional.

 

[jerzboy]

Always been a discreet person ever since a youngin. I don’t like unwanted/unofficial people in my shyt.

Folks at the office use to be like, “we don’t know anybody about you. Your like Batman”…damn, straight…that is intentional.

This.... is actually funny....

 

[Fresh]

I'm definitely quiet and guarded about my personal business, especially goals so I can't get the hate or jealousy

and a lot of the posters in this thread are right, your family can be your worst enemies when it comes to this

me personally, I don't care if you're family or not, I will cut you off if you're on that type of time

 

[Coolin']

I'm at the age now where I don't really need any new friends so co-workers usually stay just that [co-workers], so I really don't talk about anything personal. I'm all for chopping it up about work stuff, movies, music, etc, but I keep it surface. Weird thing is, this has backfired so many times on me: Once, a co-worker said she couldn't trust me because "the quiet types are the most sneaky". I literally go to work to make money and go home; I couldn't care less about anything else at a job.

EDIT: I usually work office jobs so it's 95% women. There are barely any other brehs, just for clarification.

 

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It’s funny ya’ll bumped this thread. I was just talking to @Nicole0416_646NYC about this type of stuff the other day.

It’s crazy because you ain’t even gotta be doing shyt to NOBODY to make an enemy from pure jealousy.

Ya’ll ever had to hide ideas from your inner circle b/c of their negativity and nonsense? Like damn.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

It’s funny ya’ll bumped this thread. I was just talking to @Nicole0416_646NYC about this type of stuff the other day.

It’s crazy because you ain’t even gotta be doing shyt to NOBODY to make an enemy from pure jealousy.

Ya’ll ever had to hide ideas from your inner circle b/c of their negativity and nonsense? Like damn.

This is so f’n TRUE! The inner circle that I have right now is so damn small that it’s a dot.

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^^^ That’s my circle.
Nothing but an accumulation of cautionary tales. That’s why I sit back and observe the surroundings. I can literally predict how a situation or encounter will go down bc I’ve seen so much through experience or the experiences of others. That’s why if you don’t have a sense of inner peace, confidence in your abilities, comfort in your company or depending on others to feel fulfilled - you are food out here. F-O-O-D.

I have stories for days.