Do Average Men Understand WHY Women Put Them On Child Support?

[SeveroDrgnfli]

FOR CONSISTENCY.



Before we start this, I'm not talking about rich men like Diddy or Jayz.



I'm talking about regular men, who work regular 9-5 jobs (or don't work) who have children by women who are regular, and work 9-5 jobs too.

(You can't really "come up" off a man like this)

For most women with children by AVERAGE men, child support and court orders is their last resort with a man they cannot communicate with, or gain consistency from.



Example...


*The man Commits to a financial obligation (like buying the child a pair of shoes for school, or bringing diapers)

Then...
- Don't show up.
-curse the mother out anytime she ask for something.
-Shows up with HALF of what he promised.
-simply won't answer his phone when the mother calls out of fear she will ask for help.


HE'S NOT DEPENDABLE.



*He Commits to Keeping the child for a certain period of time.


Then...
-He Won't show up
-He keeps the child longer.
-bring the child back sooner.
-Or try to take the child on a weekend, or at a time when the mother has already made other plans with the child.




All of these things create stress/confusion for the mother who HAS to have a physical and financial routine in order to be the child's primary care giver.





Too many AVERAGE men seem to think baby mothers file child support for a check, or money to get their hair done. This is ridiculous.


Most women file for child support from AVERAGE men, not for a come up, but because the father is inconsistent, not dependable, and she is just flat out exhausted with arguing with him, and begging him for help.


It's a relief to let the judge set the child support and visitation. So she won't have to argue with him anymore. Even if the judge sets less than what she thought was fair. (I have seen this)


Men get very resentful after this. Why?

no men I know have a problem understanding child support. I work in an industry that services families. I rarely hear men complain about their wives or BM unless they aren't leaders. I'm never leaving my bubble in California if the rest of the world is as insane as this forum makes it appear.

about as great a decision as not wanting children but engaging in an activity that creates children.

Bang! accountability is a boomerang. You can throw it but it'll come back. I read horror stories about ratchet hoes and sucka ish and think to myself, "why do people associate themselves with people who make poor life decisions if they're not family." They gotta step their life game up.

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

I thank GOD that I have yet to get a chick pregnant...some people I knew growing up got 2+ and always advise against having kids (unless it's tax time) and getting married.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

I don't know if it's the majority, but with 70% of Black children in single parent homes, it seems likely. There is no social pressure for men to be active fathers.

That doesn't mean the father isn't active in the sons life. That means that both parents aren't married. Is it a good thing? Absolutely not. However that doesn't mean the father is absent in the child life.

Secondly I disagree with your premise about there's no societal pressure for men to be in the child life. That's not accurate at all. Many men get ostracized if they don't take care of there kid. This isn't accurate. Now there's not a strong societal pressure to marry the mother of the child ( That needs to change). But there is societal pressure to be in the child life.

 

[wickedsm]

I thank GOD that I have yet to get a chick pregnant...some people I knew growing up got 2+ and always advise against having kids (unless it's tax time) and getting married.

Applause.
It can certainly be done. Plenty of men and women who manage to make it through the day with out "accidentally getting anyone pregnant " or "accidentally getting pregnant" while still having a normal sexlife.

 

[Reginald Noble]

Here's how you avoid paying child support

1. You never tell women your real name I always tell them my name is John Smith.

2. You use burners(pre-paid phones disposables) because they can't be tracked when she gets the government involved.

3. Always go to her house or hotels.

If she knows your real name and home address there is another way.

Tell her you love her and want to get married, but first she has to get an abortion this works because women want to get married badly and will do whatever it takes.

cold blooded (even for me) but mark my words this shyt works.

Ok, but what about the men who ALSO didn't grow up without a father in their lives? Do you think it is justifiable for them to say that as well? Reading stuff like this is bothersome to me. How is it the individual's fault that their parents didn't end up or stay together? Why is it assumed that she must be messed up and intolerable if her father wasn't in the house? What if she grew up with a father but he wasn't shyt? Are you really automatically dismissing women upon hearing they didn't grow up with a father? I hope most men don't think like this, ESPECIALLY if they come from the same circumstance...and ALOT do.

I have never met a Woman worth pursuing who didn't have a strong father in the home. I don't really care to debate this because stats and most people's experiences display this everyday as pure fact. Now I will not deal with a spoiled daddy's girl either. But the former is more common than the latter these days.

Women no matter the race (but the nationality matters a lot) when I find out their father was either not around or abusive/alcoholic I instantly downgrade them to fukk ONLY status.

I don't give a fukk what anyone thinks, because I'm not a psychologist and I don't have the mental stamina to put up with bi-polar antics and PMS. The #1 biggest excuse hands down for Women in America to act bat shyt crazy is my Daddy didn't love me. I'll let some other nikka deal with it.

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

Applause.
It can certainly be done. Plenty of men and women who manage to make it through the day with out "accidentally getting anyone pregnant " or "accidentally getting pregnant" while still having a normal sexlife.

Yeah. It's called being responsible. I love sex. By far it's my favorite activity next to playing soccer. I'm too busy for a relationship now so I've decided to abstain from sex because it's not safe for me to be hooking up with random people and I can't trust a girl to not fukk other guys if we're not dating. Lol my will is weak sometimes and I hop on POF. After zooming in and seeing people's damaged skin I'm good again.

 

[Reginald Noble]

Yeah. It's called being responsible. I love sex. By far it's my favorite activity next to playing soccer. I'm too busy for a relationship now so I've decided to abstain from sex because it's not safe for me to be hooking up with random people and I can't trust a girl to not fukk other guys if we're not dating. Lol my will is weak sometimes and I hop on POF. After zooming in and seeing people's damaged skin I'm good again.

Just find a foreign born FWB

 

[Mowgli]

Is there a hold that can cause a spontaneous abortion? Either way they sending your ass to jail for involuntary dawgie

Women don't wanna leave no gags that know bjj and typically separations are worked out without involving the white man.


If you need the white man to mediate your relationship you're immature or don't know Brazilian jujitsu

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

Just find a foreign born FWB

That's not a bad idea. I wonder why some lame men bag the most loyal chicks. I've dated beautiful women but never a loyal one. I'm talking life long loyalty not just through the good part of the relationship. The world keeps turning, doesn't it? I'm sure I'll find one I like.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

That doesn't mean the father isn't active in the sons life. That means that both parents aren't married. Is it a good thing? Absolutely not. However that doesn't mean the father is absent in the child life.

Secondly I disagree with your premise about there's no societal pressure for men to be in the child life. That's not accurate at all. Many men get ostracized if they don't take care of there kid. This isn't accurate. Now there's not a strong societal pressure to marry the mother of the child ( That needs to change). But there is societal pressure to be in the child life.

In my "circle" people have fathers, but amongst the general public (anecdotal), people's whose parents were never married (and some whose were) their fathers are completely missing. This is way too acceptable. Look at all the posters here who: have no father OR have outlined their plans to abandon their seed.

If the government has to MAKE a man take care of his seed, he's failed anyways.

Look at the responses in the thread where the man murdered the child and child's mother. Posters accused the mother of flexing on $600 a month in the DMV. That doesn't even cover day care. Let alone all the other costs associated with a child. To be "comfortable" with a child in the DMV, it takes 2 six figure earners. And that's just for the financial aspect. The emotional support needed to care for a child and the energy required to attend to a child is astronomical.

And this is for a child to live a somewhat normal life: good daycare, private schools, music/ballet lessons, sports- this requires serious money and is not feasible at $600/month.

Again, this is what it takes to raise a child to be competitive and self sufficient as an adult.

There are too many people fuccing and ducking. It's a travesty.

A person who has no natural affection for their child is not even human to me.

And I'm not even in this "child support" situation.

If people don't want kids they need to stop fuccing or become homosexuals.

They can dump all the cum in their boyfriend's anus and NOT make a baby.

They hate women, they hate children, they just want a nut, so why not?

 

[Gold]

I wonder how many Coli members are actually paying child support...


I feel like the majority of the people in this thread are just using this a vehicle to shyt on the opposite gender.

 

[HeavyTheDon]

Most women just want a dude to do the right thing. My little brother's baby momma only asked for $200 a month and he did the exact shyt the op said. She ended up putting the people on him and now he's paying $500 a month.

 

[.༼-◕_◕-༽.]

Most women just want a dude to do the right thing. My little brother's baby momma only asked for $200 a month and he did the exact shyt the op said. She ended up putting the people on him and now he's paying $500 a month.

Damn...

 

[Cat piss martini]

One of my Aunts put my her ex husband on child support out of spite when he got engaged 5 years after they divorced and ended up getting waaay less than he was already giving her.


Even my Grandma called her out for being trifling and bitter in front of everybody



It worked out because my cousin had a nice savings account for him when he turned 19 from the extra money that his pops wasn't giving her to bullshyt with for 15 years

that's how shyt be going down kinfolk.
anybody saying different is full of shyt.,

 

[Cat piss martini]

you've must have never seen this video or been around women like this

Look at this stupid bytch right here.
got the kids behind the damn car.....
swear i'll never fall into that trap....fukkin ding bat.