Do you think there is a disconnect between corny black men and black women?

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

Whenever you see "only Black folk...." on the Coli it's always cap.


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[media]



She's gorgeous and has everything going for her (looks, smarts, personality, career) while he'd be a "corny brother" and a "simp" on the Coli.....yet he was persistent and nice and was every bit worth it.

She's very attractive but I wouldn't say she's 100% out of his league.

What I'm talking about is some Jonah Hill looking white boy (but with a good/regular job, not famous) with the white female equivalent of what's in your picture. A dude dressed sloppy, beer gut etc., with a woman that's in shape.

Maybe it's where I live but I've seen that A LOT. Basically....a solid "average" breh has to work a bit harder to pull the equivalent black female while working much less hard to pull the equivalent white broad.

Good looking brehs don't have to swirl because they tend to have a ridiculous amount of success just with sistas.

Some brehs embrace the challenge and only go for black women. The less persistent brehs end up swirling.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

She's very attractive but I wouldn't say she's 100% out of his league.

What I'm talking about is some Jonah Hill looking white boy (but with a good/regular job, not famous) with the white female equivalent of what's in your picture. A dude dressed sloppy, beer gut etc., with a woman that's in shape.

Maybe it's where I live but I've seen that A LOT. Basically....a solid "average" breh has to work a bit harder to pull the equivalent black female while working much less hard to pull the equivalent white broad.

Good looking brehs don't have to swirl because they tend to have a ridiculous amount of success just with sistas.

Some brehs embrace the challenge and only go for black women. The less persistent brehs end up swirling.

So Black women have to date men they aren’t attracted to because other women choose to do that, lol? Do you know what’s going on in those relationships where the woman isn’t attracted to the man but uses him for his resources and security? Dead bedrooms after a couple kids.


Attraction is important, stop asking brehettes to date men they aren’t attracted to. I see average looking black couples (where both the man and the woman are average looking) all the time. Sounds you like just feel that average Brehs are entitled to women more attractive than they are. If average Brehs feel like they should pull 8’s and above because some men from other groups do then perhaps it’s for the best they go for nonbw anyway.

 

[Professor Emeritus]

She's very attractive but I wouldn't say she's 100% out of his league.

What I'm talking about is some Jonah Hill looking white boy (but with a good/regular job, not famous) with the white female equivalent of what's in your picture. A dude dressed sloppy, beer gut etc., with a woman that's in shape.

Maybe it's where I live but I've seen that A LOT. Basically....a solid "average" breh has to work a bit harder to pull the equivalent black female while working much less hard to pull the equivalent white broad.

I mean if you're sloppy fat then you need to at least clean yourself up and get in shape, I don't know what white boys you know but I don't see sloppy-looking men getting with dimes anywhere. Maybe still hitting above their weight with an average girl, but hell no not a woman like one I posted.

I thought the conversation was just about personality/social skills those, and I see "corny" brothers doing just fine so long as they're nice, persistent, and have other positive qualities.

 

[BlackJesus]

So Black women have to date men they aren’t attracted to because other women choose to do that, lol? Do you know what’s going on in those relationships where the woman isn’t attracted to the man but uses him for his resources and security? Dead bedrooms after a couple kids.


Attraction is important, stop asking brehettes to date men they aren’t attracted to. I see average looking black couples (where both the man and the woman are average looking) all the time. Sounds you like just feel that average Brehs are entitled to women more attractive than they are.

That’s the thing. They are attracted to him. They find other reasons be attracted to him other than just looks.

 

[old_timer]

I am going to define corny as being trite, boring, and obvious - especially when expressing a sentiment or opinion or personal thoughts

I think it is something we are born with - like having an extra finger or toe

I think if we dig deeper into corniness, it's either successfully utilized as a poker face learned and developed over time...
Or the guy is autistic or enjoys being seen as a weirdo for shock value

Further, if a man is successful in his chosen occupation and/or excels in his extracurriculars
Then it goes from grudging acceptance to a certain type of charm or paradoxical appeal

I think most people would view my corniness as a corporate strategy.. Keeping things vanilla by saying obvious stuff
--to not rile people up unless it matters

I never felt my corniness held me back with women
In my teenage days, it would be viewed as intentionally silly or goofy
Because there was plenty of me acting "normally"

And in my young adult days, it was seen as me possessing a needed skill if i was going to get ahead in life
Perhaps like code switching??

And in middle age, it was simply charming cause i had found success and was comfortable
I was not pretending to be young/cool and impersonate a 25 year old

Through it all, anyone coming at me negatively (with genuine hostility) for my corniness could get laughed off
Cause they "lost" to a corny fellow

Over the course of life, I have made my corniness work for me

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

I am going to define corny as being trite, boring, and obvious - especially when expressing a sentiment or opinion or personal thoughts

I think it is something we are born with - like having an extra finger or toe

I think if we dig deeper into corniness, it's either successfully utilized as a poker face learned and developed over time...
Or the guy is autistic or enjoys being seen as a weirdo for shock value

Further, if a man is successful in his chosen occupation and/or excels in his extracurriculars
Then it goes from grudging acceptance to a certain type of charm or paradoxical appeal

I think most people would view my corniness as a corporate strategy.. Keeping things vanilla by saying obvious stuff
--to not rile people up unless it matters
There's a hundred different ways i can do the "how was your weekend?" conversation
And in the moment, or to the casual observers, it seems "real" (or as real as anyone can be)
But someone really tracking me and monitoring my movements would just mark me as going through the motions (or faking it)
...because I am guarded with others

I never felt my corniness held me back with women
In my teenage days, it would be viewed as intentionally silly or goofy
Because there was plenty of me acting "normally"

And in my young adult days, it was seen as me possessing a needed skill if i was going to get ahead in life
Perhaps like code switching??

And in middle age, it was simply charming cause i had found success and was comfortable
I was not pretending to be young/cool and impersonate a 25 year old

Through it all, anyone coming at me negatively for my corniness could get laughed off
Kind of like someone beating their chest and acting mad
I could just point to the scoreboard
"You did the best you could and you are still so far behind me in every way... Can you just imagine how bad i would outshine you if i wasn't saddled with the corniness gene??"

Cause again.. It is like being born with an extra digit.. You either play it up for shock value, or you make it work for you
I made my corniness work for me

I agree with this
Some nikkas ate just born corny

Corny is only a hindrance if you're ugly

 

[TreySav]

Why do people get on the internet and pretend women are lining the block to give brehs like this the box

Aye, stop the cap

 

[CarmelBarbie]

That’s the thing. They are attracted to him. They find other reasons be attracted to him other than just looks.

Go to deadbedrooms on Reddit and see how that pans out, when a woman doesn’t find you sexually attractive. Look I’ve had friends date men they weren’t attracted to and they never wanted to fukk that breh—they felt bad because it’s usually a good breh that does everything right but she just isn’t physically attracted to him. If average looking Brehs want to date out because women who are more attractive don’t choose them, then by all means go ahead… but average looking Brehs are not entitled to women who are more attractive to them. Like it’s one thing if y’all can’t pull women within the same league and are upset about that. That I get.

but it sounds like y’all think y’all should get the women you find physically attractive even if those women don’t find you physically attractive because…. That’s what y’all want. Again entitlement. Date out and be done with it then lol.

 

[JT-Money]

Go to deadbedrooms on Reddit and see how that pans out, when a woman doesn’t find you sexually attractive. Look I’ve had friends date men they weren’t attracted to and they never wanted to fukk that breh—they felt bad because it’s usually a good breh that does everything right but she just isn’t physically attracted to him. If average looking Brehs want to date out because women who are more attractive don’t choose them, then by all means go ahead…

I doubt them not being attracted to their mate is purely physical. Otherwise they would just push them to workout more and just get in shape. I think it has more to do with a guys pesonality no longer vibing with them. Or how she feels about herself in lots of cases like low self-esteem. That's why you see more women having emotional affairs than men.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

I doubt them not being attracted to their mate is purely physical. Otherwise they would just push them to workout more and just get in shape. I think it has more to do with a guys pesonality no longer vibing with them. Or how she feels about herself in lots of cases like low self-esteem. That's why you see more women having emotional affairs than men.

No lol. I’m telling you these were Brehs the women were never attracted to from the beginning. Brehs that look good on paper but that they don’t find physically attractive. They settle down with these Brehs because they’re good men but they dont sexually desire them and never have, so their sex life is not there. And I’m telling you what my friends tell me—it has nothing to do with personality. The personality is usually great. It’s the sex is lacking because they aren’t truly attracted to him on a physical and sexual level. Now they aren’t cheating on him, they just aren’t having sex with him much.

I don’t know why average looking Brehs feel entitled to women who are more attractive. So again if average Brehs feel like they should have a woman more attractive just because they want that woman, then it’s the audacity for me—they just need to get a white girl lol.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Why do people get on the internet and pretend women are lining the block to give brehs like this the box

Aye, stop the cap

He's not corny he's on the spectrum

 

[JT-Money]

No lol. I’m telling you these were Brehs the women were never attracted to from the beginning. Brehs that look good on paper but that they don’t find physically attractive. They settle down with these Brehs because they’re good men but they dont sexually desire them and never have, so their sex life is not there. And I’m telling you what my friends tell me—it has nothing to do with personality. The personality is usually great. It’s the sex is lacking because they aren’t truly attracted to him on a physical and sexual level. Now they aren’t cheating on him, they just aren’t having sex with him much.

I don’t know why average looking Brehs feel entitled to women who are more attractive. So again if average Brehs feel like they should have a woman more attractive just because they want that woman, then it’s the audacity for me—they just need to get a white girl lol.

So they married guys they consider ugly? Where they having sex before marriage and just stopped? Seems kind of crazy to marry someone you don't vibe with at all just for companionship. What are they gonna do wait until the kids are grown up, house paid off and then file for Divorce? What's the end game cheat on the side? They're husbands are only going to put up with this for so long.

 

[Jazzy B.]

So again if average Brehs feel like they should have a woman more attractive just because they want that woman, then it’s the audacity for me—they just need to get a white girl lol.

Are you light skin?

 

[Laidbackman]

No lol. I’m telling you these were Brehs the women were never attracted to from the beginning. Brehs that look good on paper but that they don’t find physically attractive. They settle down with these Brehs because they’re good men but they dont sexually desire them and never have, so their sex life is not there. And I’m telling you what my friends tell me—it has nothing to do with personality. The personality is usually great. It’s the sex is lacking because they aren’t truly attracted to him on a physical and sexual level. Now they aren’t cheating on him, they just aren’t having sex with him much.

I don’t know why average looking Brehs feel entitled to women who are more attractive. So again if average Brehs feel like they should have a woman more attractive just because they want that woman, then it’s the audacity for me—they just need to get a white girl lol.

They'd be off and safer going overseas and getting an African, Brazilian, Caribbean, Colombian, etc... If they gonna get a White girl, they'd be better off getting her from some where overseas as well.

 

[TreySav]

He's not corny he's on the spectrum

I had to look this up to understand what you were talking about. He looks like an average breh that hangs out at comic conventions though