It's one of multiple reasons. You think I have fukks to give?
Been knew that.
Everyone Over 30 in the Dating Game is already BURNT OUT.
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cyndaquil
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I understand completely that's exactly what happened with my ex and I. She even tried to put me onto all that stuff. Now I was never religious but I believed in God. So I told her if you believe in Jesus that's fine I aint worried about it.
But as time went on she kept pushing shyt on me. She used to read lots of different books then it was only the Bible. She used to listen to all kinds of music then it became only gospel. She used to watch all kinds of shows then it became sermons from fake prophets on youtube and religious propaganda films. She even bought me a Bible. At the time I thought nothing of it but she was proselytizing me and disrespecting my boundaries.
I was willing to give this a try since it was something she loved. I read some of it OK but thats when the disagreements came. She had an issue with my music I like hip-hop music but there's all kinds of hiphop yet she said all of it was just evil. But she didnt like Kendrick, Cole, n them type music. Then she had an issue with meditation from Eastern philosophies and called it demonic. Keep in mind meditation is scientifically proven to treat stress, and lots of mental health issues. The list goes on. She even began having issues with sex due to feeling guilt about sex before marriage.
She also did not believe in abortion anymore and did not want to be on birth control so I didnt want to have sex anymore either. I realized I was no longer dealing with the same woman and her rationality had gone out the window she was living in a full on fantasy. We had so many disagreements. Crazy too because had it gone how she wanted we would have been married and like you I would've had to get a divorce or suffer through that.
Since then I've done a lot of studying on theology and the various Abrahamic religions and what I actually believe and read some science centered books. I've come to the conclusion that I am agnostic and I do not believe in the Bible or any religion. Rather I center my morality behind a humanist perspective for my life.
I've said before and I'll say it again on here. The number of agnostic/atheistic/non-Christian men severely outnumber the number of women. The religion used for our enslavement has a strong hold on our people and it is causing issues for us. Not the church itself but the religion. The church provides positive space for people to come together. In my opinion we need more non religious forms of those spaces where we come together as a community. But I digress I'm getting off topic
cyndaquil
Lv 100 Bold natured
I dont listen to any relationship podcasts besides the clips I see that are posted here. So maybe that is why my perspective is off. Typically the other singld men I have talked to about this are looking for someone good not perfect as well
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You needed to google definitions?
Again, you’re focused on settling in terms of the woman you choose. Im focused on the choice of lifestyle. The definition you pulled from says it in plain English: ‘living a routine, stable life’. We’re men that isn’t even our nature
That’s settling!There a ton of behaviors and things you put up with in a relationahip that, left to your own devices, you wouldn’t chose for yourself. Do you WANT to go apple picking. Do you WANT to go to bed at 9 bc she goin to bed. Do you WANT to fukk 1 woman the rest of your life. Do you WANT to occasionally be micromanaged and have chores. Do you WANT to have to negotiate sex
I pick the worst examples but there are plenty benign ones as well. No, you would not prefer to do any of those things. But you SETTLE for that lifestyle bc it benefits you in other ways.
An example of not settling in that regard is Neyo, or Elon Musk, or Will smith
Etc. Those options are not feasible to the avg man so instead of hoping it becomes available down the line, you are settling aka settling down
You needed to google definitions?
Again, you’re focused on settling in terms of the woman you choose. Im focused on the choice of lifestyle. The definition you pulled from says it in plain English: ‘living a routine, stable life’. We’re men that isn’t even our nature
There a ton of behaviors and things you put up with in a relationahip that, left to your own devices, you wouldn’t chose for yourself. Do you WANT to go apple picking. Do you WANT to go to bed at 9 bc she goin to bed. Do you WANT to fukk 1 woman the rest of your life. Do you WANT to occasionally be micromanaged and have chores. Do you WANT to have to negotiate sex
I pick the worst examples but there are plenty benign ones as well. No, you would not prefer to do any of those things. But you SETTLE for that lifestyle bc it benefits you in other ways.
An example of not settling in that regard is Neyo, or Elon Musk, or Will smith
The richer people are today, the more likely they are to get married — and stay married
“A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood.”
Marriage and Men's Health - Harvard Health Publishing - Harvard Health
Statistics on marriage and health show that married men are healthier than unmarried or divorced men, and are also more likely to live longer. However, marital stress has a negative effect on physi...
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Continue to buck the system though. It’s doing wonders for our people.
Rick Fox at UNC
All Star
When your name pops up the definitely start foaming at the mouth to go back and forth with you. The one they love to hate but also debate
I'll never understand how dudes turn into this type of bytch nikka.
Whatever you do fellas, don't be this type of hoe ass nikka.
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
Yea after a while you have to change your standards to reflect your reality.I been married and out the game awhile and the last of my nikkas who really doing something in they life just got engaged on some spin the block shyt like a couple weeks ago. So I can't pretend to fully know the dynamics of what nikkas is going through now, but in general I gotta call it like I see it based on what I saw with him and the shyt I see online. nikkas is just not realistic about what they should honestly be seeking in a relationship, and how they gotta go about getting it.
Its like these days dudes is almost as susceptible to dreams being sold to them as broads are. Living and dying by all these podcasts and shyt, and believing every nikka with a mic in front them telling them what they wanna hear.
I still remember years ago Irv Gotti got on a podcast talking about "I just want a young bytch who will love me for me and not ask me for any money" nikka WHATYou should have kept your bytch son, wtf would these young hoes want with you if money wasn't on the table?
Too many cats operating off wishful thinking. These chicks are smart breh. They are not going to agree to a bad deal, just like you ain't. You gotta assess what you're able/willing to give, and what you're asking for in a relationship. The likelihood of you being a 40 year old nikka pulling a 21-25 year old who wants you for you, will have your kids, and will split bills 50/50 and all that shyt is slim. Plan your dating life and act accordingly. You 45 and can provide a middle class lifestyle for a family. The 38 year old chick who ain't had kids yet but know her clock is ticking might be a better fit for you.
Men think as long as they established a woman should be happy with them and their baggage. And what they fail to realize is the pool is slim and mostly likely you are going to end up either a woman close to 40 that may not even want kids no more. She going to have some weight on her and she is probably independent. Them young hoes that do want you want and need your money. They not going to be 25 fresh outta college with a great career and willing to settle down either a 45 year old.
I know too many dudes still looking for these women. They don’t realize they ain’t as desirable to these women as they would be if they were 35. Once I turned 38 I knew I needed to get out of the game because I was no longer having fun playing it. It became a chore.
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
I been saying that so many dudes are obsessed with the idea of having this bad ass wife that they are also have a lot in common with and she is loyal. Man get you and adjustable 6 that you are compatible with and keep it moving. If you lucky get a 7 but stop prioritizing fat asses and sex appeal when you over here with a gut and high blood pressure
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I dare you to write that on LSA
The richer people are today, the more likely they are to get married — and stay married
“A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood.”
Marriage and Men's Health - Harvard Health Publishing - Harvard Health
Statistics on marriage and health show that married men are healthier than unmarried or divorced men, and are also more likely to live longer. However, marital stress has a negative effect on physi...
Continue to buck the system though. It’s doing wonders for our people.
First of all, I never said settling was bad
Second, this is a wonderful study but a base level understanding of causation will tell you that, obviously , these stats are skewed bc there are plenty of conditions that are likely to be indicative of married people, as opposed to being caused by being married.
Ie if you’re in better health, it’s bc you have access to health care, bc you have a career, a 9-5 job, all veer you closer to marriage. The marriage is not CAUSING you to be more healthy or make more money
Lastly, now this is actually funny:
Good marriages promote health and longevity, but stressful and shattered marriages have the opposite effect
Well that settles it! Just make sure you have a GOOD marriage and you’re good to go! Eazy peazy
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"It Was Always Jerry"
New Season, Same Problem
I tried, breh. We had a good amount of things in common, except fitness. The fitness thing would be the thing that broke us up, ironically. I was one of those workout all the time types. She seldom worked out but kept in shape through her job. To keep a long story short, I put on weight and chilled out. She stated "I'm not the same man she met and fell in love with." We went our separate ways and I was confused as well as heartbroken.
Rayzah
I'm Everywhere you ain't never there
There is definitely more to this story. But I’m not about to get all in your business.
Some people have said it in this thread, find someone you are compatible with, work on building that relationship and getting to know them before sex. Getting to know them doesn’t mean what’s her favorite color or food. It’s asking the awkward uncomfortable questions like about fitness and morals religion deal breakers. Why her last relationship ended. Etc
Field Marshall Bradley
Veteran
Using a rating is just as problematic. Are you attracted to her? Yes or no. Putting rating on a SO is wild.
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