Get married brehs...seriously

[Henri Christophe]

OK.

So what's the difference between you being 43 and buying your girl a rolex, and someone getting married?
I think we need to be more specific, I can understand hating marriage because you're worried about losing stuff in a divorce...but part of that can be controlled by not being reckless with who you choose to marry.

A rolex is a symbol of my appreciation.

A symbol of my love.

Instead of a ring, she'll get a watch.

Or a necklace. Or maybe a ring (but no marriage).

Its all jewelry at the end of the day. No difference.

At the end of the day, I see no reason to buy the product (marriage) when its already given to me, for free.

I get the wife treatment already from my girl.

What changes after marriage? Nothing. Shes gonna be doing the same shyt she's already doing.


shyt... The sex might actually decrease and she might get fat since she already on the thick side


Just in case things go bad, I can skate up outta there clean

 

[cheek100]

I'm not saying you are miserable but there are people in relationships who are

Ima call it how I see it. If living and being with a woman makes u that miserable u might be gay (not u pers). The idea of being with a woman long term is to ease the pressure of the world. I know there’s not a lot of worthy available women I get that but the idea of being single forever is strange.
On top of that cats ain’t picking the right women. If she’s on social media flexing, it’s a no go. This coming from a cat that was single for some years just hoeing. I don’t miss them days at all.

 

[Serious]

I'm 33 and I'd say any women over 28 falls in that category. I've canoodled adn cavorted with a decent amount of chicks 28-34 in the past 5 months and its the same script, bad relationships, infidelity, molestation/raped or almost raped, wasted time on "worthless guys", break from dating or a relationship now want something "real". Can't wait to have kids and hopes to get married asap, so interested in what I do for a living, wants to text and talk to me all day long, want to know about my family, my 5 year plan

same ol same ol.
They don't really want marriage, they just want what their friends have...
shyt is a bragging rights competition to many of these women.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

At 30, you should be in your prime dating age. I am 28, it's becoming easy now. Last girl I dated literally asked me if I was hers by the second date. Current was mad easy. I am not giving up that power so easily for the sake of settling down with one woman. I have only met one woman where I can see myself being a happy man with. In terms of enjoying good conversation with...beyond the superficial bullshyt lol.

Women take full advantage of their youth, you shouldn't feel bad for taking advantage when the power is in your hands.

 

[wtfyomom]

It ultimately does depend what you want to do with your life. Some folk are just cool with living the 6 figs/6 certs/6 dimes life. No plans on having kids, traveling the world, etc. aint nothing wrong with that. You're wasting your time preaching marriage to cats on this mode.

But if you know deep down that you eventually want to make some type of major impact/difference in society or especially the black community then having a family is normally the cornerstone/foundation for that. So there comes a point where it's pointless to just keep cycling different hos in and out your life. I think once you hit your 30's and you KNOW that you want to go down the family path, then fukkin around with random broads in rotation is just counterproductive from a time/money/health standpoint. It also just forever reduces your choices in quality women. You become a little jaded if you will. Get your list of what you want/need in a woman and choose accordingly so you can move onto the bigger picture. building your legacy and the like.

Imagine Obama with all his credentials, money, etc. at 25 talkin bout 6 figs/6 certs chasin hos all day. No way it would've turned out the way it did for him

you dont need to be married/kids to travel the world or be ambitious, in fact id argue for most people this stops them from doing that. obama is an outlier. most people have kids, cant really afford them, get caught up in trying to support them and end up run of the mill lifestyle.

 

[wtfyomom]

all you need to know about marriage is 60 percent ends in divorce and that doesnt take into account separated or unhappy marriages. clearly people have no idea wtf theyre doing at least as far as who theyre choosing to get married to or what time is right for them etc etc, but yeah listen to the mostly miserable society telling you to GMB

 

[Henri Christophe]

all you need to know about marriage is 60 percent ends in divorce

Wanna know whats crazy bro?

Tell nikkas to start a business and they'll give you all types of reasons on why it won't work and they'll bring up all type of Statistics that highlight how many businesses fail

But tell them about marriage.... and they'll give you all types of reasons on why you should enter this failing business


Makes no sense.

Emotions make people lose track of their better judgement.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I don't think I can pull the trigger. Even in some of my longer relationships when shyt went south all this bullshyt creeps up from a female that you didn't see the first 6 months or 9 months. I don't think I'll ever be comfortable enough in a relationship to settle down for good

 

[Nighthawk]

I'm 30...find you a real one...and hold her the fukk down...

It's fukking horrible out here...these females are nothing but pretty packages.

Again if you find a real one...hold her down and marry her. This player shyt...it gets old...and the game gets lonely and cold .

Do not wait too long to get married .There's a reason a girl is 30 and not married.

Life is not about money...it's about loving your Earth and your seeds. It's about family. It's about REAL friends.

I've gone on too long but the short of it is don't wait to be married, don't wait to have kids...there's nothing else out there.

Chill out breh. If you cant be happy alone, you aint gonna be happy in a relationship, or with kids. Look at all these other ppl who are in unhappy marriages/parents who regret having children

 

[Serious]

Honestly the majority of older guys I know are miserable in their marriages, or at the very least, wish they would have waited

yep, just about every older cat I know tells me to wait for marriages, kids etc....

A lot of cats really advise to me never get married....

I've chopped it up with all types of cats regarding this subject too....

One theme is constant #GMB

 

[Nighthawk]

fukk all that. I’m focused on fukking these hoes, not getting married. Never say never though. If I find that one then who knows. And I would only get married cause I really fukked with shorty and knew that’s what she wanted. I’m not gonna marry no bytch that’s on no ultimatum shyt though. A bytch can kick rocks with that shyt. My homeboy about to get married next month and it’s cause he just really fukk with his girl and she been down. He still don’t wanna donthat shyt.

But yeah, my focus is on getting p*ssy and I let all that other shyt come organically. If I’m 50 and married with no kids, then so be it. I don’t have to be with bytch just cause I’m getting older. That’s what females do. Getting married is a life goal to them. That’s not a life goal for real nikkas. fukk all that gay ass I don’t wanna be lonely shyt. You born alone (unless you a twin)and you die alone. Man up

Nikka i was with you til the end. We aint born alone, your mother and most likely the doctor was there to deliver you. Which means we all need a lil help

 

[semicko82]

Ima call it how I see it. If living and being with a woman makes u that miserable u might be gay (not u pers). The idea of being with a woman long term is to ease the pressure of the world. I know there’s not a lot of worthy available women I get that but the idea of being single forever is strange.
On top of that cats ain’t picking the right women. If she’s on social media flexing, it’s a no go. This coming from a cat that was single for some years just hoeing. I don’t miss them days at all.

No one wants to be single forever, but women are fickle and will change their minds when things go bad in a relationship. You can't depend on another human being for your happiness.

 

[the bossman]

you dont need to be married/kids to travel the world or be ambitious, in fact id argue for most people this stops them from doing that. obama is an outlier. most people have kids, cant really afford them, get caught up in trying to support them and end up run of the mill lifestyle.

try reading my post again because you're all over the place and didn't really get it. where in my post did I say you need to be married or have kids to travel?

Look at many of the most current influential black people right now:
Obama
Lebron
Ryan Coogler
David Steward (founder of one of the biggest IT companies in the world)

The role Michael Jackson's mom played in her marriage. All married. It's not a coincidence. Marriage gives you a certain level of foundation or structure from which you can build a legacy on. Sure you can be single and still do your thing, but let's not act like marriage is some type of roadblock or obstacle to making a major impact in society. In fact it's like the opposite.

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Don't wanna be a player no more ass ninjas

 

[cheek100]

No one wants to be single forever, but women are fickle and will change their minds when things go bad in a relationship. You can't depend on another human being for your happiness.

I feel u yea they fickle as shyt. It’s definitely a gamble but as u get older u see that a lot of that fickleness comes from being with niccas that wasn’t men. There’s some good ass women out there that are just mean and wishy washy but don’t act like that if u treat them right.
For real I’m from the 90s when cats was saying “I went to break a bytch college” so I know all about #hoh. After having kids out of wedlock and getting drug by child support, sheeit I’ll take a peaceful home life over hoeing any day.

On top of that what y’all #gmb cats gonna do when u want kids? Be a weekend dad for life? Let a bytch take u to court every 6 mo to rape your paycheck even harder? Then your sons grown up to do the same exact shyt.
That ain’t black excellence at all.